Understanding Nonbinary Gender Identities: Genderqueer, Agender, Genderfluid, Etc.

I'm 63, had my children later in life, with some strange life beginnings (I was born premature when most preemies didn't survive, and I made the front page of the newspaper because of the barium like chamber I lived in to survive the first month of my life. And yet I walked before I was a year old. And of course a lot of other wrinkles in there, but I won't bore you with them, unless I can find an amusing way to write it in a book, lol). Anyhow, I only thought of myself as female AFTER I had my first daughter. I can also say it was a lot of conversation, and I've come down now on the feminine side). This is something I've not talked about with anyone, and had put some of these feelings down to experiences from the start and in-between. So surprised a few years back to find out from my 21 yo that there's not only other people who have had similar beings, but that there's a name for it. I uneasily identify myself as female, and I have to say a lot of that is because I think there needs to be a lot more feminine energy and mindset here, and my daughters are grown and I still feel many of the same thoughts. I appreciate these videos and especially yours Alex. Thank you.

I love this video :D your explanation helped me a lot

Excellent video! It helped me a lot! Thank you so much!

thanks!

Good stuff Alex. I don't like the labels much, as I find they tend to confuse more than inform, but if I must I tend to use "non-binary" and "genderfluid" to try to sum it up. Usually if I need to explain myself I explain my feelings rather than get tied up with the terminology, which in many cases tends to also depend also on where it's being used.

Alex! Watch out! The person in that painting is watching you!

I'm Transgender Male to Female. I get the point of this all being adjectives. I am taking my outer body to a female appearance, well, already have done that. I get that all this other talk is describing how one feels and expresses gender. it is very much like spectrum of color trying to explain it. I think we are all looking for away to express in words the feeling of being at any given time. Basically, creating a new word system to explain the inner world of Gender. I would much rather have a box of 56 colors than a box of 8 to color my world. :)

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0:33 I'm a nonbinary person who doesn't identify as trans. In my case, it's because I'm AFAB and genderfluid between female and nonbinary. So it's not that I don't identify as my assigned gender, it's more that my assigned gender is an incomplete description of my gender identity.

How can you claim to be agender and genderfluid at the same time? Not trying to be disrespectful, but I'm trying to wrap my head around non-binary genders, and it seems very hard to claim a gender exists when genders are usually very pronounced in the way a person interacts with the world, or rather experiences the world. Also, the notion of having no gender seems very hard to conceptualize. Agender as a gender identity, seems like an originally trans gender person having too much hardship and eventually settleing for agender, to avoid having to deal with the problems that having a gender and sexuality, create.

But you in no way identified what gender pronouns you want to be used. Esp if you are fluid & going from one state to another, does the pronoun usage have to change. Surely you can see how pronoun usage becomes a farce under all these definitions. How would you propose solving that issue? Just use 'they' all the time, or 'it' - no - that can't possibly be right. I'm really confused.

confusion for the sake of confusion. it doesn't seem special, it seems like confusion. or am I not allowed to "feel" how I feel? only "special people" get to "feel"? or will you tolerate other "feelings" than your own?