What one skill = an awesome life? | Dr. Shimi Kang | TEDxKelowna

Published 2014-10-28
This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Are you balanced in life? What is the best approaching to finding balance...to creating an awesome life?

Dr. Shimi Kang is an award-winning, Harvard-trained doctor, researcher, media expert, and lecturer on human motivation. She is the author of the #1 Bestseller, The Dolphin Way: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Healthy, Happy, and Motivated Kids Without Turning Into A Tiger (Penguin Books 2014). Her articles appear in major media outlets including the Huffington Post, Psychology Today and TIME Magazine. Dr. Kang is the Medical Director for Child and Youth Mental Health for Vancouver community, a Clinical Associate Professor at the University of British Columbia, and the founder of the Provincial Youth Concurrent Mental Health and Addictions Program and BC Children’s Hospital.

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All Comments (21)
  • @jackiechun99
    4:35 Adaptability is the key to a prosperous life.
    9:10 On Dolphins
    10:28 P. O. D.
    10:36 Play [have fun without rules].
    12:17 Others [meaningful connections]; Social connection is a basic of life
    13:55 Downtime [sleep] Rest and Relaxation is the basic of life
    15:38 Look deeply into nature, and then you will understand everything better
    If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper.
  • @rojin2000
    As a political prisoner that went through torture physically and at some point emotionally and mentally, the salutary confinement was the worst aspect of being in prison for me but yet my skills in adaptabilities and imagination helped me somehow not to break in pieces or lose my integrity or my believes .
  • "Play is how we adapt"...This is the connection between the game and education which leads to obtaining a skill and then the confidence! Well Done Dr!
  • @vhayashi7369
    Many of us are single moms not by choice, and are exhausted but trying to stay focused and positive and trying to rebuild our health, not stressing as much and have to get rest when given the chance and the thing that helps me the most is staying connected to my Authentic friendships and just finding something to laugh about and staying positive.
  • @skssarath361
    Excellent presentation and thought provoking topic. Appreciate the efforts of Dr Shimi.
    A humble suggestion- I feel like audience can get the best out of all presenters if TEDx can allow them some buffer time rather than asking them to stick to exact time frame. This allows them to dedicate 100% of their talent in delivering the presentation than being equally concerned about the timer running.
  • @thutosalome332
    I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me
  • @ajeetkang8188
    We all want the best of life for ourselves and loved ones.Watching this I was forced to reconsider what I should strive for and how! Profound presentation but then so obvious- this is a must watch for anyone who wants an awesome life!! Fantastic! 
  • @hvasf7709
    With all respect to the fact that people watching this come from diverse situations I found great value in her comments and learning. Society does glorify work, and there are also those who must work many hours just to get by. In either case would it not be ideal to have time to be creative (play), socialize, and have downtime? How we get there is often the more difficult question especially when options seem few. TED talks rarely answer this type of question due to time constraints, but it allows us to exercise our own creativity in solving our own problems.
  • @percypunto
    Apologies for all the ranting and negativity in the comments below - I think this was one of the best TED talks I’ve seen in a while, well constructed, delivered with authenticity and left me feeling more compassionate for myself and those around me. Thank you for all your hard work in this area and for sharing your story. You should be very proud :)
  • I love her book " the self motivated kid". She is inspiring and a breath of fresh air
  • @scovila
    The whole talk was filled with amazing points. I loved it! Thank you, Dr. Kang.
  • @thirtyacres7504
    I completely understand what she's saying about adaptability. I agree with her, 100%. I just don't care to adapt to most of "this world" we have now. The way I have found peace, which may be different for everyone, is to adapt by not going with the flow of globalization. For everyone, it's a different adaptation. I hope everyone finds theirs.
  • @MDutchery47
    Very good, very simple to understand, and, as a dolphin admirer (I spent 8 - 10 weeks studying whales and dolphins 1975 with a class of 4 - 5 year olds and I learned so much about dolphins, and from my class), I love the advice here. 
  • @tientruong2007
    adaptability is still related to our childhood though. Whether it be abusive households who keep adults stuck survival mode or parents who coddled their kids and never let them fail or experience set backs that might be what Shimi is referring to as a good childhood. Either option makes you more rigid and less adaptable.
  • @meghananton4754
    OUTSTANDING! THANK YOU. Everything in balance. We are an unbalanced culture, out of touch with our nature. She is so right. I am a baby boomer and have led a rat race life for too long ... overworking to achieve something is even creeping into my retirement. I need more real play time!
  • Thoroughly enjoyed listening to your speech.
    So wonderfully simple and practical and achievable advice!
  • @catedoge3206
    Best skill to learn is awareness. Everything is connected to that.
  • Thank you for sharing this wonderful truth and wisdom, I really needed to hear this and will set out to practice it!
  • @notadonna5983
    Thank you! So true! Some of us have to become ill to learn this. I'm not sorry to have had the chance to wake up, but it cost me a lot of time. I hope to encourage you to take charge by letting go of all the things that don't serve you and humanity. Love your life!💞