What one skill = an awesome life? | Dr. Shimi Kang | TEDxKelowna

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Published 2014-10-28
This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Are you balanced in life? What is the best approaching to finding balance...to creating an awesome life?

Dr. Shimi Kang is an award-winning, Harvard-trained doctor, researcher, media expert, and lecturer on human motivation. She is the author of the #1 Bestseller, The Dolphin Way: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Healthy, Happy, and Motivated Kids Without Turning Into A Tiger (Penguin Books 2014). Her articles appear in major media outlets including the Huffington Post, Psychology Today and TIME Magazine. Dr. Kang is the Medical Director for Child and Youth Mental Health for Vancouver community, a Clinical Associate Professor at the University of British Columbia, and the founder of the Provincial Youth Concurrent Mental Health and Addictions Program and BC Children’s Hospital.

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All Comments (21)
  • The key to big returns is not big moving stocks. It's managing risk in relationship to reward. Having the correct size on and turning your edge as many times as necessary to reach your goal. That holds true from long term investing to day trading
  • @jorgeromera3861
    "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" (Jiddu Krishnamurti)
  • @jackiechun99
    4:35 Adaptability is the key to a prosperous life. 9:10 On Dolphins 10:28 P. O. D. 10:36 Play [have fun without rules]. 12:17 Others [meaningful connections]; Social connection is a basic of life 13:55 Downtime [sleep] Rest and Relaxation is the basic of life 15:38 Look deeply into nature, and then you will understand everything better If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper.
  • My dad use to say "rest is not idleness" boy was he right. R.I.P dad. Your wisdom is so needed today.
  • As someone who is an introvert, I have to argue with her assessment. Being by myself is my happy place. I can socialize and talk to anyone and get along with everyone. But at the end of the day all I need is a good book, a movie or a video game and I'm perfectly content and happy. Being around people for too long is to me, what isolation is to most people, torture.
  • @catedoge3206
    Best skill to learn is awareness. Everything is connected to that.
  • @stheday1
    People can drain us too..it's important to find supportive ones.
  • @binbinli2412
    Our stress does not come solely from a lack of downtime to many people. Most from unable to achieve personal greatness. Lots of people struggle with living, making money to put food on the table and having a roof over their head. The speaker speaks from her own personal view which is helpful for those who shared the same living situation with her. As the Director of youth and Child Life admin, she does not have trouble making enough money to raise her family. And that's where stress come from in life for many people.
  • P. O. D. - Play (have fun without rules). Others (meaningful connections). Downtime (sleep). If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper. Good night ;)
  • @downbntout
    This is the oxygen I didn't know I needed. No more guilt over basic needs.
  • @vhayashi7369
    Many of us are single moms not by choice, and are exhausted but trying to stay focused and positive and trying to rebuild our health, not stressing as much and have to get rest when given the chance and the thing that helps me the most is staying connected to my Authentic friendships and just finding something to laugh about and staying positive.
  • @thirtyacres7504
    I completely understand what she's saying about adaptability. I agree with her, 100%. I just don't care to adapt to most of "this world" we have now. The way I have found peace, which may be different for everyone, is to adapt by not going with the flow of globalization. For everyone, it's a different adaptation. I hope everyone finds theirs.
  • @meanderthal2635
    So, live a porpoise driven life? Got it. As a physician treating syndromes of ADHD and associated anxiety, depression, this is one of the most salient presentations I’ve heard.
  • @DoodleBugLisa
    There are gems within this talk, but I’ve never liked Legos, even before they had rules. I have lots of downtime; I think it gives me too much time inside my head. For me the most healing thing is gratitude. Our speaker has so many accomplishments that must feel great to talk about in public. Seems to me this talk is more for the Haves than the Have Nots.
  • @You_Manos_Tube
    "Play is how we adapt"...This is the connection between the game and education which leads to obtaining a skill and then the confidence! Well Done Dr!
  • @thutosalome332
    I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me
  • @rojin2000
    As a political prisoner that went through torture physically and at some point emotionally and mentally, the salutary confinement was the worst aspect of being in prison for me but yet my skills in adaptabilities and imagination helped me somehow not to break in pieces or lose my integrity or my believes .
  • @lowzhao
    "Well, grit is great but we all know, hard-working gritty people who have no joy or meaning in their lives." damn this hurts me.
  • @jeffhodge7333
    I love how people say, "I turned out OK." That's a red flag.