You MUST Know THIS to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse

I was never as anxious, jealous, insecure, unstable, confused, restless as I was when I was with him. I've been cheated on before but there was a finality to it all. A narcisstic relationship is different. It literally takes your entire being.

They don’t just break your heart they break your soul. That’s why recovery is so difficult. But worth it. Persevere and everything changes for the better.

Part 2 - That overwhelming feeling of guilt when you have to go no contact (discard/abandon) this 'child' in an adult's body in order to save yourself - Again this is excellent teaching!

You lose your self identity. Your very foundation of who you are. The confusion and self doubt is overwhelming and the pain devastates you to your soul. See, most people that get into narcissist relationships are very caring and loving people. A lot of times they have very prestigious positions, are nice looking, have money, are very intelligent….something that the narcissist desires to have or be seen with. You go into the relationship having no clue that you are being set up by a con artist, a psychotic person which in reality despises you. They only want what you have to offer, not you. So they systematically set out to take what they want and dump the human soul that would have gladly given it to them. Leaving you devastated. As the narcissist first floods you with attention and unbelievable love bombing they are secretly disarming your defenses. Then once in they are like termites chewing away your very foundation, all your boundaries, self worth, love, compassion, career, social standing, family, money, whatever it is they were attracted to you to begin with. Secretly destroying every emotion and self respect you had. Then without you even knowing it everything collapses. And like the insects they are they move on to destroy someone else’s foundation. You have been lied to, taken advantage of gaslighted, humiliated and feel lower than you ever have in your life. You have been through so much cognitive dissonance you question everything, mostly yourself. You blame yourself at the same time the narcissist is blaming you. You have no idea who you are or have become. You no longer see the loving, successful person you once were. You are deeply traumatized without even knowing it. It takes time and self discovery to realize that the loving, successful person you once were, is still within you. The good news is that in reality the only thing that changed within you is you now see evil, you have been through hell and survived. Now you are on a mission, to not only be with and around non-toxic people, but to love and take care of yourself. You now know who you are: a wonderful, caring, sweet soul. Your spirit grows and flourishes like never before. Additionally, That feeling when your narc partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when him or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator MetaspyHub@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

It’s incredible how deep their disfunction and cruelty runs. What a nightmare for those of us that loved who we thought they were.

A good way to look at recovery from narcissistic abuse is like ripping out the wires from your internal programming and untangling them to plug them back in where they belong.

This is so true. After my narcissistic relationship of over 10 years I begin to act just like him. I was in narcissistic rage and everyone thought I was the crazy one. I’m so glad I was able to break free this year, it’s been so hard and it does feel like an addict in rehab. They are not human!!

As of today, I'm 97 days NC. I moved across the country. I signed petition for divorce paperwork as I was leaving town. My family keeps telling me how brave I was. After 26 years, I didn't feel brave at all. I felt like an idiot, a coward, a total narc, scared, hurt, a waste, done, used, a liar, lied to, etc. It was and has been a good/bad emotional mess. Some days I swear I can hear his every thought. I'm working my butt off (50 plus hours a week at a job I stand and move non-stop for 9 hours a day) to stay aloft, barely. I'm exhausted beyond what I could have imagined. I'm drained emotional, mentally, financially, and physically. I'm so angry. I was angry before, now it's worse. Which, I honestly didn't think was possible. I'm so angry, all I do is cry and want to curl up in a ball and just take bread crumbs. And my family says, "I'm so brave". If they only knew.

After several years of insanity and denial I came to the realization that the person I considered to be my best friend was a bloodsucking jackal of narcissist. Later I understood that having called it a friendship was a stretch - an entanglement would have more accurately described it. I'm disgusted by the amount of abuse I allowed myself to be subjected to before enough was enough.

This is the best explanation I’ve heard yet. And exactly where I’ve been in the prolonged grief that I’ve been clawing my way out of physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. A covert is much more damaging than an overt.

Unfortunately, I have lived among so many narcissists in my life. Both parents, ex-husband, two daughters, and a sister; they all are malignant narcissists. And many relatives who are narcissists! If it was not for the Grace of God, I would be six feet under. I continue to heal, daily. It’s a lifetime commitment to live drama free and narcissist free. Only because of God, I’m alive and well today!❤ Thank You Jesus Christ! 💯🙏🏽♥️

This made my blood run cold as I totally identified with this. I was the mother, the sacrificial lamb and scapegoat, I also recognise that I started to behave like the narcissist but only temporarily as he mirrored me to start with and then I mirrored him. I’m 101 days NC. Feeling stuck and need to know how to move on and heal. I blindsided and discarded him first. So now I’m giving him the ultimate silent treatment which is narcissistic in itself as that is what he did to me throughout the relationship. I’ve physically left the relationship but I haven’t left it emotionally. Got to kill the shared fantasy and individuate. Thank you Richard.

Thankyou so so much Richard . I’m a clinical psychologist and have ended a brief marriage to a narc , the label clinical psych I threw in to show that this can happen to any of us . I had a particularly abusive childhood into adulthood and gravitate towards the familiar because that’s what my brain likes . No amount of education changes that , it can only happy through the body and creating new pathways in the brain . The info you went through is just brilliant and so grateful you share online , you’ve helped me so much far more than any one on one therapy I’ve had because unfortunately majority of therapists and psychs are not very well educated on narcissistic abuse and it’s prevalence

Not weird at all if you understand spiritual warfare!! Best video on understanding the process of narcissistic abuse I’ve ever heard!! 🎉

I agree with all of this!! Ugh! 😖 I’m in a state of constant confusion between hating him and wanting revenge and then empathizing with him and hope nothing bad happens to him… He really messed me up, but I know now how deep this toxicity runs in myself. I’ve grown up with a highly covert Narcissistic mother who made me an anxious codependent yearning for love and closeness. He brought out all the wounds from my childhood while cutting even deeper wounds into me, to then leave me used and broken. I really wish that I could allow myself to hate him for all the hurt he knowingly caused

Omg! I’m still in the pod 😱 “that’s why you’re still watching you tube videos on narcissistic abuse” …now that was a wake up call.

Richard, you're saving and rescuing good people from anguish, mental and emotional stagnation, grief, and spirit-death. Thank you for all that you do. Thank you for every video, every word, every logical outline, every explanation, and every moment of what you do.

What you describe about the target being viewed as the mother so the narcissist can individuate is precisely what I experienced. I had not been able to put into words this experience, but hearing this now, I feel validated. Thank you.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

My wife, divorcing, has serious mother issues and this is making crazy sense. Praise God for delivering me from this ridiculous oppression.