Women Reveal The Questions They Ask Men To Discover Red Flags

One of my red flags is a woman who spend the entire date looking for red flags instead of trying to enjoy the date

If a woman asked me "is there anyone who would be upset to find out you are on this date" my response would be "Myself in 20 minutes when I get home".

Anyone who asks "what is feminism" definitely has an answer in mind. That's not a get-to-know-you question, it's a quiz with right and wrong answers. More specifically it's an ideological purity test of a very aggressive sort. Any woman who asked me that would not get a second date, and would probably get a flippant answer designed to piss her off, something like, "I don't care enough about feminism to discuss the definition."

Guys need to ask these two questions in return: 1) Have you resolved your daddy issues? 2) What have you done to overcome your fear of abandonment?

Absolutely a deal breaker on the animals. Someone asking the feminism question in first date is the red flag. I can guarantee we would end that discussion when I insist she picks up the check, in the spirit of feminism.

Is there anyone at home who would be upset to find out you are on this date? Yes. My dog. She wants me all to herself

"Is there anyone that would be upset if they knew you were on this date?" Only the thousands of women that wish they were sitting in your seat

“do you belive in aliens?” I actually got a very similar version of this question on a first date from a 21 year old brighter than average college girl who asked me “what animal were you in a past life?” as we were walking from her apartment to a restaurant. My answer was an aloof “damned if I know”. She said “thank GOD! I'm so glad you're not some looney wacko”. The rest of the date was fun and we ended up happily kissing at the end of the afternoon.

On a first date Don't talk about RAPE: R- religion A- abortion P- politics E- economics Do talk about FORD: F- family O- occupation R- recreation D- dreams

If someone replied " i would create scholarships if i won the lottery" I'd be like "okay relax mother Theresa, this isn't a job interview"😂

Wow, the tattoo question brought a great response from you (loved the eye roll!) Regarding preferences, I know that there are a lot of women who won't date me because they think I am too old for them, or maybe not tall enough, or not good looking enough. Those are preferences, and I try not to take them personally. But if I dare to express an opinion like "I don't like tattoos on women", or "I don't date fat girls", I am labeled controlling, or a misogynist!

The frustrating part about the feminism question is they want men to praise feminism, be strongly supportive of women abandoning feminine gender roles etc but expect men to adhere strictly to male gender roles and archaic courting expectations. Like... you want me to be a feminist except when its inconvenient for you and you want to be a feminist except when any expectations are placed on you. Why are we lying to each other?

20:10 "Even the people you think are perfect have a red flag." This right here. To me, the scouting for red flags is a red flag itself.

What did you learn from your past relationship? I learned to be more selective of the women I date and to not just jumping into a relationship with a woman. I learned that while lonliness is hard, staying with someone who keeps hurting me is much worse. I learned that I want a woman who accepts me for who I am and aligns with my values. I've learned that I want a woman who listens to me and takes my thoughts and feelings into consideration when she does certain things that affects us. I've learned to no longer compromise who I am to make a woman happy. I learned I am not responsible for a woman's happiness. I can't make people happy. Happy wife, happy life is not true; it's toxic.

I don't know, maybe go on a first date without some plan to figure out red flags? See if you enjoy even being around the person at first; see if conversation comes naturally for both of you and if you can make each other smile and even laugh. A red flag is someone whose idea of a good first date is, "how can I trip this person up?"

Green flag: none of these questions is being asked and both persons just have a nice conversation. 😊

What is feminism ? Simple...it means you buy your own drink as you watch me walk away....

If a date asked me what is feminism, I would answer: "That's a red flag right there, Bev, that's a red flag right there."

Womansplaining is telling me how to mow the lawn or renovate a room. Explaining a woman's perspective is a joy to listen to. Thank you

Keep a first date light and fun. Everyone is on their best behavior for the first few months anyway. You will likely get answers that they think you'd like to hear, which may lead some to feel manipulated when reflecting on their remarks in the future. Spend the time to discover their character over a series of meetings. Observe their behavior especially how they treat the people in their lives that they are comfortable with, family, friends, co-workers, etc.