When Will You Learn To Grow Up? - Mark Manson

Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than YouTube by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:45 What People Don’t Understand About Success 06:26 Methods to Ground Yourself 11:21 Choosing Your Struggles 15:57 Why Mark Got Depressed After His First Book 22:06 Experience of Quitting Alcohol 33:05 Why Gen-Z are Impressive 45:15 Mark’s Hierarchy of Audience Capture 49:31 Thoughts on the Modern Era of Men’s Advice 1:04:13 How #MeToo Affected Dating Approaches 1:12:15 What Men Need to Focus On After Their Twenties 1:18:45 Where to Find Mark

"Nobody remembers your mistakes better than you do" yeah it's hard to forget when she's always reminding you 😆🥲

Ryan Long has done it again! His characters are so believable.

"Alcohol is the only drug that if you don't use it, people assume you have a problem". Massively true. I have never used it much - rarely as a young adult, a period of 20 years none at all, and then only 2 -3 times a month for social reasons over the past decade or so. I never get to the point of being actually drunk and have had only one bad hangover in my life - I just find alcohol boring and unpleasant. In no way does this make me a better person, but the worst impact was how often I was frozen out of professional or social networks because of this.

Love how excited Chris was when Mark expressed his desire to go without drinking for all of 2023. Too wholesome.

Intentional celibacy is another habit that makes people assume you have a problem. I've sworn off dating for 4 1/2 years, and people can't wrap their heads around a young, healthy, athletic man with a history of serial dating finding happiness in his own individuality. But I find it extremely rewarding.

Love Mark Manson! He is one of the few honest and compelling voices in his space.

Mark Manson has written two books that hugely impacted me (Models and Subtle Art). So cool to have him on the podcast!

That part about being sober really resonated with my experience, I’m 33 and hardly drank since Christmas, now drinking doesn’t seem fun anymore and my energy and focus is on a whole new level.

As a member of Gen Z, thank you! Just wrote my first book at 18. I feel as though me and our generation found a way to balance having fun and degeneracy with productivity. Y’all ran so we could walk, thank you!

He's correct about the mind taking time to catch up to reality. For a while after I became slim I still moved like a big girl.

I can’t lie. I push the like button before even hearing your content. Keep doing the deal Chris! Love it!

GOATED guest this guys awesome

The part about quitting alcohol after living the party boy lifestyle really spoke to me. Was overweight and could not get attractive women until after my sophomore year of college when I lost 50 lbs in a summer and went from an unnoticed man in the eyes of women to someone that would get catcalled walking past an intoxicated group of them. In my last two years of college I was trying to make up for lost time. I had built up an arsenal of drinking stories that blows most other people’s out of the water and slept with loads of gorgeous women. Then the pandemic hit and I moved back home for the last half of my last semester in college. That time I spent at home awoke me to the fact that after all that happened during my last two years of college, I was just as empty as I was before. Sleeping with hordes of women didn’t fill that void I had before. During that time I quit drinking for about 6 months. After that stint of sobriety, going back to drinking in any capacity would make me feel ill. After I started dating my girlfriend a year ago I’ve phased it out completely and I am excelling in my career. I truly think that Covid saved me and believe that if I never went through that shocking phase of sober mind and body then I may have never grown out of that phase in my life.

I got sober about 5 years ago and I noticed something. I became a MUCH better mechanic. Almost overnight. Still feel like trash every morning, tho... That never went away.

“Models” is the book that got me out of the PUA line of thinking and helped me see the problems with relying on techniques and tactics. I’m thankful for that, and it’s awesome to hear Mark’s views on the current dating landscape and men’s self-improvement space.

Subtle Art was my first or second self improvement book. Can’t thank Mark Enough for helping unlock my love for personal development !

"The correct question isn't why is Andrew Tate saying all these things, it's why are so many young men listening to him?" Very well said. Obviously what he says is appealing to a lot of young men and maybe, as crazy as it may sound, he's right about some things and young men are realizing it. The correct approach instead of demonizing him as a person would be to appreciate his good work, while also being able to point out certain things he says which are out of line.

43:00 another good point about high-quality youtube content versus shorts/TikTok. Nobody remembers the shorts because they're like digital crack and can't really offer much quality information that your brain wants to hold on to, except maybe humor and very quickly expelled "facts" or advice.. Yet i can still remember the Huberman video on Alcohol and ADHD, or Crash Course videos teaching things on all sorts of topics from World History to literature, or Epic History's videos on Napoleon.. I think the best metaphor I could think of is think of the content your consuming as food your consuming. You are what you eat, well you're probably also what you watch/consume digitally.

Fantastic interview, Chris! Mark Manson is just cool! He just tells you just how he thinks it is; just straight there about it, no glossy overtones, no sales pitch. What he says about relationships, I think, is true. I am singly at the moment and I am enjoying taking my time about it, even at 57.