What Is Empathy? (Karla McLaren's Six Essential Components) [2018]

Being neurodivergent myself. My communication got a lot better when I stopped holding onto the idea of that empathy was something that I feel and then I do. When I realized that empathy is a judgment that other people have on you. That is truly a perception of whether they feel like you are engaged and that you can accurately call out their emotions. Saying someone is empathetic or not empathetic is a judgement it has nothing to do with if you were actually feeling their emotions. Same with you're not listening I could be listening completely and fiddling with something. Oftentimes is helpful for me to zone in and actually be listening. However the problem is that it's not about whether I am doing it or not. It is not about whether I am feeling those emotions or not it is not about whether I am actually listening or not it's about how the person I'm talking to feels. And when you set back and look at it that way is suddenly makes sense. And that took me 40 years to realize. And that realization greatly increase my communication skills and my perceived empathy.

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Great video. I like how you easily explain these concepts in a way that lay people can digest. Excellent work!

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I don't care at all when people are upset, even if it's really grave like a relative dying. At the same time I'm a people pleaser and I enjoy making people happy.

You may try to express her definition in your own words to make it easier to understand. Great video. Subscribed and will share them

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How do you let yourself feel what the other person feel and not get overwhelmed?

It was great but could you please give examples more of each one like how we should respond back to someone or what does it look like to understand once problem? Idk if that makes sense.

I am here after surviving NARCISISM

I feel that I lack empathy and I want to learn to have it if that makes sense. How do I begin having empathy where do I start?

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