God Is Exposing a COVERT NARCISSIST to You If . . .

A narcissist doesn't break your heart, they break your spirit. That's why it takes so long to heal.”

A covert narcissist pretends to be humble and are usually very charismatic, which makes them very hard to spot

I was married for 13 years to a narcissist, years ago before much was known about narcissism. I was in my early 30s, and I was just waiting to die because life with him was so unbearable. Praise God, one day he left me. May God bless and protect all those involved with narcissists.

“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” – Karla Grimes

I am currently married to a covert narcissist and I finally understand that he will not change and I have to make a plan to break free…it’s devastating to realize you’ve wasted so many years🙏🏾🙏🏾

“The moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.” “Just because someone desires you, does not mean that they value you.” “A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dream, or your dignity.”✨☘️🙏

I was married to one! What miserable people they are, and don't care about destroying you.

Another big warning sign of coverts is that they are always the victim in their story, life is against them and they lie compulsively. They are usually using their last victim and painting them as the cruel villain who abused them in their stories, when it's really they who are the bully and blaming their target.

I wish I'd seen this many years ago. God had plans for me so I was able to get out of that relationship. I am much happier and safe.

I'm the covert narcissist, and I've been stricken. I just lost the most important woman in my life; then everything else. I'm now homeless and repenting. I keep finding myself fighting against God..... I randomly find reasons to justify my actions, but I broke both of our hearts. God is working in my life though. I still have my job and I'll be renting a house in about three weeks. If you are what this video described, don't stop looking to God, asking for humility and humbleness, or you will be trapped in a loop that will empty everything inside of you.

I have been telling people for years narcissist are the devil thank you for confirming this

My husband is constantly changing the story to give himself the credit for an idea that I actually came up with. But he really believes what he is staying.

Discernment and judging someone is totally different... Lets pray for discernment so that we'll know when to speak and or just walk away...

“Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears.” – Sheree Griffin

I've been walking through life feeling like my hearts been cut out of my chest and I'm just spewing blood everywhere, but no one sees. Only recently accepted that I have ptsd from childhood from a covert narcissistic mother. Always thought there was just something wrong with me and that's why I'm depressed, socially anxious, procrastinated, late to everything, with a cluttered home. Finally understanding why I am the way I am gives me renewed hope that I truly can heal. I know that Jesus is my healer, but I've been feeling discouraged

Glad I found this, my mom is a covert narcissist and God has really been revealing me all her tactics and giving me discernment to see through the lies and manipulation its hard because she's my mom and I used to put her on a pedestal but now it seems like the mask just slipped and I'm breaking out of the bandage of her manipulation. She never respects any boundaries I place on her with my kids. It's a struggle and she always makes me feel guilty when I confront her on the boundaries she pushed. Pray for me

They have a long line of Brocken relationships that are always the other peoples fault.

My wife has done this. Slandering me and literally assaults me. When I would want to discuss what she had done all the sudden she would start pointing out all my faults and bombard me with false accusations saying I'm unfaithful. We could never talk about her behavior because it would cause a war between us. Yes I would lose my temper because I don't know how to handle such a delusional problem. One day I confronted her about being narcissistic and all the sudden the cops are at the door and she tried having me forcefully removed. I didn't break any laws so they told her they couldn't make me leave. I didn't want to leave because I love her not because I wanted to stay in the drama. She's my wife and I wanted to do right by God and not leave her. The next day I was served with an order of protection without them even asking my side. It was for harassment and if they just looked at the phones they would have seen she lied. Judge or cops didn't investigate anything they just took her side which is shocking. Within a month she had another man in our bed and she's still with him. Now she has sent divorce papers. I didn't expect it because everytime she would kick me out within a few hours she would threaten to call another man and cheat on me if I didn't go home. It literally destroyed me and crushed me. I became angry at God and started hating myself to the point of suicidal thoughts and that was scary. I literally made two attempts on my life while with this woman. Lesson learned and shes always been involved in the witchcraft beliefs and I thought I could help her learn about Jesus and how He's the only truth and way but the demonic attacks followed right when I would grab the bible and sit next to her. I don't believe in divorce but at this point there's nothing I can do because that's what she wants. I forgive her and I pray for her. God has blessed me through it all and is still with me. I lost everything and I believe it's Satan trying to get me away from my search. It didn't work all it did was draw me closer to God. I feel ashamed for getting angry at God when in fact I was blind and should have never married her to begin with. Sorry just needed to share with someone because in the end I was questioning my own sanity. Felt like I was in a dream or the twilight zone because it was extremely spiritual and oppressive. It got to the point I was just angry and hateful. I'm definitely not innocent but I never gave my time to another woman other than my wife but for some reason she thought I was cheating and in the end she almost convinced me I did. She was my world and that's where I messed up. God should have gone first in my marriage and I put her first and actually left God hanging in a lot of sense. I'm not a monster and now everyone in my town thinks I'm a no good cheat who is abusive and that's far from the truth.

OMG, THE VERY FIRST THING YOU SAID WAS DEAD ON ACCURATE! I'm mentally exhausted from trying to be peaceful, loving, reasonable, and yet always being snapped at...FOR NO REASON! Not even an argument, just being present when they get upset at someone or something else!

I think I was a narcissist when I was young but I prayed and prayed. And finally I was able to be empathetic. So I think there's hope but it isn't in you. It's in God. Please don't let narcissists drain you and leave them to be alone with God. My friend did this for me and I'll be forever grateful she left me. Because I didn't know and it spanned from something in my childhood. But now I struggle because I went the opposite side and became like a doormat for a while too. So now I'm trying to not be a narcissist but also not a doormat. Trying to have self respect without and inflated ego. Trying to be humble without being trudged on. I'm very charismatic. Gregarious. But on the inside, I'm alone and broken and it seems like only God, my family and certain friends get me. Because my family watched me and how I grew. There's times when I have a pity party. I think my narcissism spanned from being constantly bullied, so I had to make a big barrier for survival. And stop caring what people say. (But I should've only stopped caring what bullies say. Not people in general. I was 11. I didn't know.) And since not a lot of people were speaking love to me, I had to do it myself. My dad and mom spoke love to me. But everyone else was so hateful. Then I saw how this attitude change made me attractive for some reason so I kept with it. That carefree attitude change. And for some reason, I didn't care about people. I was very superficial and only wanted to have fun. Nothing else. Just fun. (Another tactic of mine to avoid pain.) But when people came to me with their problems, I was like a deer in the headlights. I had zero clue how to help because I depended on myself. I was genuinely confused. So I had to pray hard for empathy. And God helped me. So now I'm pretty balanced after going through a lot. This was a process from when I was about 11 to now 33. I also was married to a narcissist. So it feels like I paid my penance to anyone I hurt. Like I got what I gave back then. Like I once was, I changed, got my penance, did my time and now I'm free. All thanks to God. I think it's common to slap a narcissist lable on people. Like as of there's no hope. There's hope for them but it isn't going to be anything you can do for them. The best thing you can do is leave them alone with God. And pray for them. I think I can safely say I'm not a narcissist anymore. That I'm humble and charismatic at the same time now. All's I need is a little self respect again and I should be healthy. That's my story anyways.