If Your Ex Moved On and Crushed You Completely, THIS Is How You Heal

I’m watching this while crying in the coffee shop, I’m fighting this at the moment.

Think of it as the quote, "If your absence doesn't bother them, your presence never meant nothing to them".

What it has always shocked me is after spending years together, sharing lots of wonderful things, they can abandon you all of a sudden, finding someone else in a month and simply acting as though they've never met you. The level of coldness and lack of empathy has actually traumatized me.

It gets better , it really does. The pain fades and new love emerges from within. Sending everyone Love ❤

Indeed. Don’t let someone who isn’t worth your love make you forget how much you are worth.

" If you're the one she doesn't want , then be the one she doesn't have. Because massive success is the biggest Revenge. "

If they "moved on" really quickly they were probably cheating on you, so good riddance.

I’m so sad that there are so many of us that needed to hear this. We got this everyone I know we will be ok!!

She left me 3 days ago. I haven’t felt so shattered in my life. I saw a future, she saw incompatibility. I simply don’t understand. Life feels so dark and lonely. I hope you guys are all okay. We will get through this.

I‘m tired of always having to be strong. I want life to be easy just for once please.

Just another perspective for everyone to consider. I’m a portrait photographer and I used to photograph both weddings and families. My work has been both nationally and internationally published. A particular image comes to mind. A bride and groom on their wedding day. The image of a true life fairy-tale romance. They both looked like models. Like royalty. Deeply in love with each other. The image was published in a magazine. Anybody could have picked it up at Barnes and Noble and stared at it, wishing they had that. And do you know what I remember when I look at that photo now? That I manipulated them into the pose I wanted, expression included. And that the groom was extremely cranky and over it. And wanted to know when he could stop having his photo taken and go smoke a cigarette. And in front of me, the bride used some very strong words to get him to pull it together. That’s what I remember. I saw the same thing with a family shoot. The photo could not paint a better picture of domesticity. And the couple fought right in front of me. I heard the husband call the wife a “psycho”. And I just stood there, awkwardly, waiting for them to calm down. My point is that yes, some couples are genuinely happy after leaving their previous relationships. And no, not everything is a facade. But be careful if you compare yourself to professionally taken engagement, wedding or family photos. In general, people are good at turning it on for the camera. So when a professional is directing them, forget about it. Even with photojournalistic images, we throw plenty out and keep a selected few to tell a story. A story that we have the power to manipulate a bit. I had my heart absolutely shattered 3.5 years ago. I’ve never fully recovered. And I’m somewhat convinced that I’ll never find anybody now that I’m 40. I recently saw on social media that my ex and his new bf have gone to Disney World several times. And it triggered me. Disney was always my thing. He proposed to me just outside of Disney. The flash mob proposal video went viral. We looked…”perfect”. It’s easy to envy them. Then I remember. He proposed to me in Disney because I loved Disney. He hated it. When I suggested we grab wedding brochures while at Disney, he was like, “why would we want to get married on the Disney property?” At the airport a couple of days later, he picked a fight with me. And as we flew home in first class…newly engaged…Diamond on my finger…we flew home, in complete silence. Moral of the story: Be careful what you’re jealous of-it might be a facade. And for every good thing you miss about them, think of three things you couldn’t stand about them. The more you do that…the more you realize that their new person is now the likely recipient of all that…the more you’ll realize that you quite possibly dodged a bullet.

Anyone currently going through this, please be gentle and kind with yourself in your thoughts and actions...this is when you need love and kindness to self the most. Do not make this mean anything about you!

To everyone reading these comments, just know that karma does exist. I've seen too many coincidences not to believe it. Trust me, one day someone will do to them what they did to you, and then they'll understand the pain they caused you. I've seen it happen. It will happen to everyone, even you, if you mistreated someone in the past. until your relationship karma is neutral and zeroed out,

It’s taken me 2 years to heal from the same type of situation. I watched him give another girl everything I had to practically beg for. I thought he wasn’t good at love, but turns out.. he’s an Olympic swimmer at love. Just not for me. I wanted to move on like he did, but I couldn’t. I decided that me loving people doesn’t mean they have to love me back, and as much as I was giving love I wasn’t giving it to myself and I think that important, because you wouldn’t put up with anything subpar #Humbled

Still healing from the biggest betrayal of my life a little over a year ago and this is exactly what I felt and I decided to focus in my inner healing and stayed single to this day and now I can say that everything was a blessing in disguise… I can honestly say I am now thankful it happened because I was able to understand and believe my true worth… he is with someone else but know we were definitely not at the same level and understand I had to heal many things within me … I am so very proud of myself for the way I have pulled myself up from everything that has tried to destroy me … don’t ever give up on yourself!

I went through a betrayal this year and Matt thanks to u ,i am single,working out,giving my career time and being the best version of myself that i can!

Here's what helped me within 6-8 weeks: - hitting a gym - starting a new hobby - going on solo trips and creating new memories - when mental pain hit i picked up my dumbbels and smashed it out - started dating and literally got my male energy back (6 dates within 3 months, all ok, ultimately did not lead anywhere because i was not searching for attachment or commitment) fight the fight, move on, live life to the fullest

It's the lack of empathy and the coldness that i still can't understand. I stood by her, nursed her when she was sick, forgave her for her lack of effort, i wasn't the best but i was always in her corner. 3 months later when i thought i had moved on it hit me like a tone of bricks finding out that she's engaged. How does one make sense of this?

I can get over a break up...what I never understood the need to completely destroy someone on the way out. You have to be a cold, cold, heartless motherf**ker to do that; don't expect that person to welcome you back. She showed who she really is.. believe her.

My ex broke up with me 9months ago. We had been together for a little over a year. He never posted anything about me on social media, which didn’t bother me at the time. About 6 weeks after our breakup he was already in another relationship and posting about her all the time everywhere. He would put up captions saying “thanks for putting up with me” lol wish I would’ve gotten that since I did put up with him 😂 honestly it hurt to see him seemingly love someone the way I wanted him to love me. But it also helped me to move on and truly focus on healing. Now 9 months post breakup he’s refollowed me on social media and has liked all my posts… it seems he’s trying to come back while still in his current relationship. A few months ago I would have eaten that up, but now I’m seeing him in a different light and I know I don’t want him back. Thanks Matt for your encouraging videos… it’s helped me so much! Much love to you and yours ❤