QUESTIONS TO ASK IN EARLY STAGES OF DATING/COURTING/BEFORE MARRIAGE TO AVOID REGRETS & DIVORCE

What are you looking for in a marriage? How do you handle conflicts/disagreements? How easily do you forget and forgive? What is your love language? What is your take on divorce? What are your dealbreakers? Do you believe in tying? What if you gift me a car, and God lays it on my heart to give it to my pastor? What does the ideal Sunday look like? Do you have a mentor/accountability partner? What is your relationship with mother & siblings? How/why did your last relationship end? Are you in communication with them? What is your relationship with them? If you don’t get your way, what happens? How many kids do you want? If we aren’t able to have kids, what happens? How soon do you want to have kids once we’re married? Are there any family illnesses? Family culture? How will the bill be split? How do you envision our life together? Do you like me as a person?

Good tips but trust me some people know how to lie and make something look good. The best is please observe! After asking the questions, observe patterns and actions.

How people talk about their exes, says alot about them👍

As a single Christian guy, i have to say this vlog is loaded with wisdom...NOT sense/wits but WISDOM. So thank you for this

single people, asking "how much do you make?" to a person you are marrying is totally ok!! ask also how much debts they have... all these are important cause they will cause you trouble in the future. ( ask please, don't end up with a jailed partner or a scammer, you will never recover if you don't know now!)

This is a gem. Married and struggling and I know one of the reasons is because i didn't have this insight at the time a got married. I did not knew about myself, i did not knew anything about marriage and i never asked those important questions and I know if I did, things would have been so different. So thank you for sharing that and to the single ladies reading my comment, don't make the mistake of not addressing these topics before marriage. Don't be scared to loose him better for you to stop because you are not adjusted on some of these, than get into marriage and be full of regrets. Thanks again.

You said, when a couple can't have kids, men will sometimes leave or divorce. Women do this equally. Those types of questions should definitely be asked over time while dating. Please don't put these questions off and then explode on your partner with all of these questions at once later down the road. Also keep in mind that people are capable of growth and change. If they can't answer yes to a question or even a non negotiable, this doesn't mean that they are against it or that they aren't able to get there. This is true for men and women alike. Having a different ideal number of kids in mind is also not something to break up over as this is something that can change beyond your control. You don't want to throw away a great relationship because of this. Don't forget, God says that the priority of a husband and wife is the marriage, not the children. Yes the children are a top priority to you but your primary duty is to your marriage. As a couple, learn to cultivate love and respect. Learn each other's love languages, learn to communicate honestly despite discomfort. Check in with each other and never forget to build your friendship and enjoy fun and exciting things together regularly. Be willing to compromise and be willing to set goals and highlight your path to that goal. A significant and often over looked concept in a healthy marriage is the topic of Masculine and Feminine polarity. Come together to cultivate and nourish your masculine and feminine energies so that you can grow as individuals as well as stimulating each other to be your best selves and to keep the spark alive between you and your spouse or future spouse. Soulmates don't exist, it's all about coming together as a team and being humble and willing to do the work together and that never changes. Never has, never will. Never forget the human that you and your partner are. Forgiveness is crucial and love and respect are critical. Do the work to heal your sexuality and bring down the walls around your heart, mind, and soul. Show up emotionally and resist the natural urge to fall into complacency after you've been together for a while. Chemistry, spark, etc. Comes from a man and a women who are in their masculine and feminine energies and when they have trust, love, respect, and build a real friendship on top of their marriage duties to one another. Wives, pursue your husband and never stop enjoying and appreciating being pursued by him. Husband's, never stop pursuing and dating your wife, and never allow your self to forget that another man would be happy to take her from you. Date your spouse and never stop. Intimacy means (into me you see), be known by your spouse and tear down any walls that go up between you and your spouse. If something bothers you, hurts you, etc. say it to your partner quickly and don't let it fester or build up. Almost all negative emotions towards one's spouse can be avoided or prevented. Always ask yourself when you're speaking to your spouse, "am I being 100% honest in the way I said that, or by not saying it".. your marriage is not owed to you, it can come to an end without your wanting it. Never stop earning your partners commitment to you. Most importantly, building, protecting, and serving your marriage is worship to God. Never forget that.

Few questions to ask: 1. What are you looking For in a marriage? 2. What is your conflict resolution Style? 3. What is your love language? 4. What is your take on divorce? 5. What are your deal breakers? 6. What's an ideal sunday to you When we have kids? 7. Do you have a mentor/ are you Accountable to someone? 8. What is your relationship with Your parents and siblings? 9. How and why did your previous Relationship end? 10. If you don't get your way what Happens? 11. How many kids do you want And God forbid if we can't have Kids what will you do? 12. Are there any family illnesses? 13. How do we handle bills? 14. How do you envision our life Together? 15. Do you like me as a person?

Spirit of discernment is very important to know the kind of person.😇🙏

This was so good. As a young single Christian, praying for marriage one day I ask MOST of these questions (I haven’t asked about 2) so this is confirmation that I ask very appropriate questions. Don’t need to waste anyone’s time! 🙌🏾

Wow this video was very helpful it made me realise that I'm not ready to be in a relationship yet, there's still so much that I need to heal from and grow from but also God's timing is perfect and I'm not going to rush myself anymore. 💝

I celebrate your insight. You exude so much calm, I absolutely love to hear your voice.

This highlights just how much QUALITY communication is soooo key. Quality communication improves the quality of the relationship 10 fold.

One quote I like about marriage is " before marriage, keep your eyes wide open, after marriage, keep your eyes half shut." You want to be very careful about who you get into a relationship with, and then be forgiving of their faults

Thank you sis for this, it was very helpful. I just saved it, I’m still very single but I believe I’ll get to ask these questions SOON. Amen

This is very powerful and wisdom packed . Very timely and seasonal for me

My first time on this channel and I got so much value and wisdom. Truly helpful.

Mmmm. VERY critical questions! Thank you for addressing such an important topic. God bless 🙏

Thank you so much for these. I actually took notes....and I'm looking forward to dating intelligently.

Great questions! Many which I had already thought of to ask, but a few that never had crossed my mind. I’ll definitely be remembering them going forward.