Your ULTIMATE guide to living a soft life

I’m a night shift nurse, a wife and a mom of 2 young boys. Life gets so crazy sometimes. I feel like I have no grasp of any part of my life. I was also doing YouTube and instagram videos on top of it. I felt anxious most of the time. Now I’m taking a break from social media. I feel free and my anxiety is gone. In fact, I don’t even feel like I want to get back to social media until my kids grow older. There is so much peace in disconnecting from the social media world. I am now living in my soft era. I do lots of activities with my boys. I journal. I garden and take care of my home. it feels like I have so much time and it’s so peaceful. Everything happens in my own pace, and I have time. It can be done! Thank you for this inspiring video

4 steps I took -no social media except YouTube and not after 9 -moved to a smallish town (under 10000 people) - no traffic, safe, quiet, peaceful -work from home only -got the kind of dogs I’ve always wanted regardless of the stereotypes and judgment and walk them every morning after my at home workout and then sit in my in home sauna Still grinding and still work a lot!!! ….but these 4 things were game changers for me and those are my “soft life” hacks Not a rich white lady either I took a pay cut to work remote but saved up for my sauna and dogs and not going to the gym or buying Starbucks etc being in the streets, eating out has also improved my physical health and the financials to do these other things .

I waste too much time being stressed. This was a great reminder that there’s no medal for that and I should try to relax and enjoy life more 😊

Luxury to me is eating a dessert item at home on a fancy antique plate that I used to only reserve for looking at 😊.

I’m chronically stressed and tired of it. I work from home, have 3 kids, husband does shift work, I’m late for everything, barely sleep and constantly doing cooking and cleaning from the moment I wake up you the minute I lay my head to rest. I feel like I’m doing a crappy job at everything. I’m always in fight or flight. I NEED to make some changes in my life

Doing a job that YOU want to do, not what your family, your culture or society says is a "good job" or "good career" 🥰

We moved from the big City to a smaller state more like a country life style last Jan. We can’t believe the change it’s had on our entire lifestyle, stressors, everything we do. We are still learning but the planning ahead is so true and I resonate with you.

I am a healthcare worker, working in admin at a hospital. I've just been diagnosed with burnout and wow, the side effects are so real!! I am not the person I used to be, no more go, go, go, high energy, getting up at 5am to workout etc. etc. This video is really helpful on my road to healing. Thank you!!

I grew up in the 1970s and my mom was married and was the epitome of the working mom who also taught classes at church and volunteered. But, she never had time for herself or her children. Unfortunately, I became just like her just in a different form. I was the Sahm who homeschooled our children and made everything from scratch. We both burned out with serious mental and physical issues

When my children were little, I embraced slow living. It completely transformed my life. I make myself my priority and I am a much better person and more focused in what and who really matters in my life. No more running around and feeling like I am not doing enough or able to cope. Priorities really shifted and life is beautiful.❤

My question is...what if ive always been living in the soft life era but my family/friends arent and they judge my lifestyle? Also at times being around them makes me feel less just because im not as busy as they are? For example one of my friend, who seems to LOVE her busy lifestyle and have lots of social circles kept asking me what do i do at home (in a condescending way at times)? Im a happy sahm most days just busy with my children and works around the house and i like my me time like netflix, walks atound the park, trying new recipes...and why does that seems too boring for her? 😅 help me explain.

I am thankful for quiet days.

Life can be hard. I think it can be very wise to make life more "simple", I think I like that word better than soft. Because life can be hard, no matter if you have a sauna and the dogs you want, and the home job making enough money. I think it is definitely smart to take out the speed with which some of us think our lives have to operate, which can make life very stressful, simply because we think that is how life should be....I guess, that has been our model throughout our lives. What I hear from this is that there is a lot of calculated control over making things soft, but life is full of ups and downs, and it doesn't matter how much we try to always have our life going smoothly and most comfortably, shit happens! And we must learn to accept and embrace those challenges, whether they be health, financial, family, problems etc,....We don't really learn any of the bigger lessons in life, unless we have adversity in our own lives, which will inevitably show up. So I think we all have to be careful, no matter how "soft" you are making your life, be realistic and accepting of the challenges that will show up. Human beings get stuck in ruts and go to the total opposite end of the spectrum, protecting their lives from any stress, which is impossible, and we were built to handle stress, which is a reassuring thought when the shit does hit the fan. Life can't be soft and controlled all of the time....life is full of obstacles and challenges, so don't over protect yourself so much that you freak out when something hard comes your way. A good meditation practice and always focusing on how grateful we are for our lives, and truly looking at what you are grateful for, like a roof over our heads, good food, pets, kids, we are not living in a war zone, we are healthy, on and on.....These routine practices really do bring a depth into our lives, so that this "soft" life isn't just about the superficial. Be of service in your life to others, like the planet, animals, people, etc. We don't need so much stuff, something else that is confused with "soft" but very terrible for us and the planet.

You’re so right! We are all deserve a stressless life and we’re capable to create it for ourselves! ❤

New to your channel Sarah but thank you for this. I am constantly stressed, constantly rushing from thing to thing, exactly as you describe at the start. I am really going to use the tips in this video 😊

Really enjoyed the video. I am currently looking for a job after having quite a lot of time at home. I was worried that I will be going back to a hectic, stressful working life but am going to try and remember that being productive is not about being stressed. I can do a really good job and be very productive without loading stress onto myself and trying to do a hundred things at the same time (and trying to second guess what everyone thinks of me :)

I'm also a doctor in the NHS, currently in fy1 so I can't leave yet, but work is the main thing stressing me out :( looking forward to finishing fy2 and then starting my own aesthetic practice!

I can relate to a lot of things you mentioned that stress you out!!!

I'm so glad I just found you on youtube. What a blessing!! Since I love learning & doing new things, it's easy to over schedule. Before I retired my work/life was frenetic. I promised myself I would never do that again but I seriously need to re-evaluate what is important & pare down. Thank you for giving me the boost I need Right Now to do this!!

Hadn't heard of this term. Thinking of going back to an OT for help with activities of daily living.