Reparenting Our Inner Child

"The wound is not my fault, but the healing is my responsibility." Marianne Williamson

I was recommended the book "adult children of emotionally immature parents". It's a very good book

days ago i was crying because i heard my mom and aunt comparing me to my brother and i was so heartbroken because it seems like they don't acknowledge the things I've done since i got a job. I was crying so much that something inside of me said "Just reparent yourself" and after hearing, the pain gets deeper so i was sobbing because "why would i fucking reparent myself? if only my parents know how to properly took care of us. If only they know how to be good parents when I was a kid, If only I didn't exist in this world." That were the things I thought. Being an adult having traumas in this noisy and messy world is very difficult but we really NEED to stand up for ourselves and have compassion to our inner child because our future self will be thankful for it. It's hard but we will get through this!

I'd tell my inner child that she's not to blame for any abuse hurled her way, and that she's stronger than she knows.

You are not a mistake. You are not a burden. You are loving, loved, and lovable. You are a gift to this world, sweet and tender child.

I will say continuing to heal my inner child is changing who I am as an adult everytime ✨. Totally worth it keep going, go outside and play, buy the toys/clothes you wanted as a child/teen, if you have kids or work with kids tap into your inner child and color on the floor with them it's really a great way to heal.

I think the idea of the "inner child" is real and strong. Growing up, I realized that I had several internal children, each with their own ache, battles and unresolved matters. As I grew up, I understood that I had to show myself love and kindness, taking care of the little hurt child within me, which has been a hard but rewarding experience 💜

"We are standing on their shoulders, and can only be as stable, as they are." It's really impressive how you managed to compress such a complex issue into such a eloquent solution, in just one sentence.

I've been though so much trauma as both a child and a teen that I couldn't bear to face for decades, but their unheard cries haunted me for decades. It's only now in my 40s that I can finally begin to face the horrors and comfort the children within.

This really struck a sensitive chord. I have been through a lot. Lost both sides of the family due to endless conflicts with my parents. Lost loved ones. Leaving my inner child crying forever. The talking to my inner child finally started when I found a new home, and uncovered an old photo of me as a 2 year old. I said "I heared you wanted to go home for so long, how do you like this place?" The inner kid's tears finnally dried up. He even smiled. That aching feeling of 'I want to go home' while being in a place that you call 'home' was finally gone. As a younger kid I was obsessed with Notre Dame de Paris for some reason. So as a kid, I took a pen, paper and did a pretty good job at drawing Notre Dame, stone by stone. We all know what happened later on in april 2019. So after the spire fell down, I picked up drawing again. I've drawn all sides of Notre Dame de Paris, stone by stone. As good as I can. I've been working years on it. So looking at the end results, I took my inner child on my lap and told him; "This is for you. This is for all the adversity that you have been through. This is to let you know, that whatever you have been through, whatever the mistakes you've made, whatever the circumstance will be, I will always be there with you!" It really gives a sense of becoming full circle.

The School Of life has made me understand that the role of one's experiences in childhood cannot be overemphasized.

The damage of childhood years due to having one bad parent was out of my control. But I can turn my wound into power, that's within my control.😊🔥

It helped me to name my inner child. You could use a nickname that you had at that age, or the name your parents called you (as long as it was positive). Then you can speak to the child as your adult self, fully-knowing all the difficult things your precious baby self had to endure, and give them some love. Doing this really changed my life ❤

It's so warming to see the inner child heal as a therapist

To my inner child: Every time he comes home, remember this: He's got a lot of his own problems, and sometimes he runs out of the medicine he uses to fix his pain, his pain isn't your fault. He's not actually going to kill your dog, he's just going to threaten that because he's got no power over his own life and he's barely hanging on... You don't deserve it though, I wish I could hold you and comfort you as you lay awake crying for your dog. Also, Mom had done to her the night before, what she did to you all of those times..she's in a ton of pain and doesn't know what to do. She's not actually going to stab you, she'd never do that, but she's gonna threaten to do it - and it's not fair and thats really scary, I'm so sorry. I'm gonna help you through it now. I'm so sorry nobody was there for you in all of those absolutely terrifying moments, but we are gonna remember them together and relearn this world. It's not as horrible as they taught it to be. Reparenting is the only thing that seems to be working for me, after 2 decades of absolute misery in adulthood.

No matter how much we pretend but there is always a child in every adult

What single, soothing message would you wish to give to your inner child? Let us know in the comments below.

Literally cried in front of this idea, it resonates so much in me and look exactly like what i needed. I've already had before a kind of this idea and i'm so happy to be able to dig deep inside. Thank you

My inner child is an inner baby, screaming for attention. I ignored him for so long, shut him down with fury and I did it so efficiently that I had a breakdown. I treated my inner baby the way my parents had treated him. Embodiment work helped me find my baby, create a better environment for me to treat him with kindness. I also had to, at times violently, redefine the space for me to heal. Not violence against current people, but against the horrible conditioning. I'm 63 and still battling to give me the space I need to heal, but better that than the alternative!

As a therapist who uses inner child healing work with clients (and myself), this is such a good explanation! I love the tree example as well :)