Finding Love: Insights and Guidance for Every Stage of Life | Over 50 & Flourishing

Loved this nugget: The #1 predictor of happiness in a relationship is being happy solo before the relationship even started.

Wow, she is good, she said more realistic things than other people that do “matching”. A lot of her thinking is exactly how I feel. I have been married for 50 years( 11/24/1973 ) but I hear young people complain, and their expectations are ridiculous, you are going to date a human, just like you, don’t expect perfection, it doesn’t exist. ❤ be yourself, and don’t THINK that you are going to change the person, 95% of times that person is not going to change. Marry who you like and not who you think you are going to change to become what you would like. ‼️‼️‼️

This segment was so great! So many “gold nugget” take aways. Laurie is so spot on with growing up in an era of you serve the other person to the point of losing who you are. On my list was Tall, Dark, and Handsome. Believe me, I found Tall, Dark, and Handsome, and married after 2 years of dating, and literally, once the honeymoon was over, spent 24 years of married life being physically, emotionally, and verbally abused. I finally found the courage to break free, and I have spent the last 15 years trying to find myself again. This is for Courtney: You are a beautiful inside out woman, don’t settle for anything less than what you truly deserve. The heart ❤ of a man will radiate outwardly in the way he treats you, and wants to spend time with you and pay attention to you. Dominique, as always this podcast is so helpful for those of us over 50 that would like to be more intentional and feel secure about dating again. 🌹

I think its important to give men that you dont initially feel fireworks for a chance. When i met my fiancee it was not immediate fireworks. I took it slow and as he revealed who he was he checked every box he just arrived in a different package than i thought he would. Thank goodness i had theself awareness to hive him a chance. Ive never been happier after 4 years in the relationship. Broaden the horizons

Dominique, your podcasts are the best thing you’ve ever done, in my opinion. ❤

I watch too much true crime and I’m too tired to find a person.

Have good boundaries and stick to them. Sometimes we bend too much and we end up accommodating the wrong type of person in our lives. We then become so invested in making it work that we waste our time and resources on someone who is not worthy.

Dominque what a great topic. After a divorce, several long term relationships that were all verbally & emotionally abusive, I decided to go to therapy to figure out why I couldn't be happy or find the right person in my relationships. When we finally came down to it, it had to do with my dad & how he treated my mom. After being single for several years my friends said you've been alone for a while now it's type to get back out there. I had no clue about online dating I wanted to meet someone by chance on the street or the park which doesn't give you many possibilities. I decided to go on Our Time & see what options I had. OMG I meet some crazy guys but funny enough the last one was the one. Courtney I was just like you, looking for a guy over 6 ft tall, who liked dogs, & spending time outdoors. Well Courtney to my surprise his not over 6ft tall, doesn't have the job I would expect, always had cats & I'm a dog person. Here I am now 7 years later with a man who has the biggest heart, treats me like a queen & loves my dog to death. So I guess you never know what type God has in store for us. Courtney keep looking I know you will find the right one. You are a sweet young woman and deserve to be treated like a princess if not move on to the next. Ladies you are both amazing and deserve all the best life has to offer.

Chemistry is def important. If you’re not feeling that physical chemistry connection, you’re not ready to make a physical connection. Sometimes feeling strong in your own body image needs work before you are ready to share in a physical relationship. That’s a real lightbulb moment.

Lori is naturally radiant and beautiful. I like how she is refreshingly frank. Love her style of communication.

I believe a second date is needed. Kindness, sense of humour and someone who is happy and grounded within themselves. When you have these qualities you will come to want to share your hoohah.

Bring her again, Dominique, please! And thank you for bringing such as bubbling and knowledgeable dating expert. I agree with her, you should have your expectations, but they shouldn't be unrealistic. Also you shouldn't settle for a person with red flags. I like the 3 dates system and the fact of not accepting less than 80 in aspects such as the mind, heart, and connection.

Oh my gosh, the commercials you do! What happened to our old show? I miss it so bad.

I love what Joe Dispenza said. Make a list of what you want in an ideal partner and then become it yourself. The Universe is always matching you with what you put out. It goes to the 'would you date yourself' question.

I am not single, so I almost did not watch... but what the heck, I'll hang out with Dominique and Courtney. Am I glad I did, ya'll had be laughing so hard !!! Plus, this has a lot of insight for all, single or married. Thanks , another great time 😊

Everything is so true here, I met my husband we went to the movies on the first date, didn’t feel any connection, at the time I as reading the book men are from mars women are from Venus, it said you have to give a person 5 dates, so I thought I would test this , the second date was so much better, third heaps better, then I thought I really like this person, he wasn’t my typical person to go on a date with. Now we have been married 21 years 💜 I don’t know what I would do if he wasn’t with me . 😊 🥰Maria from New Zealand.

8:46pm I am definitely over 50 and it was an entirely different world when I did date. I wanted to make the point of how you don’t really have to have interest in someone, so take a chance.. I had zero interest in dating the man who would become my husband. I only went out with him because 46:33 my girlfriend wanted to double date with his friend. After a couple of dates I saw him interact so sweetly with my three year old sister, even suggesting we take her for a walk. A couple of dates later when he came to pick me up I opened the door and hoo haa! Fireworks! We were married63 years before he passed and I miss him every day..

The saying is true, when you quit or aren’t looking is when it’s going to happen. I’m happily married, but I’m guessing it’s especially tough when a lot of people work from home and you don’t get as many opportunities to meet people.

So much fun listening today! I’m 58 and on tinder and hinge. I had to redo my criteria also. I can totally relate to what Courtney is going through. ❤

Love this episode. Laurie's practical and honest approach sounds helpful to me.❤