Not Attracted to My Wife After Her Weight Gain (What Can I Do?)

I was in the hospital giving birth to our son and hadn't eaten in 36 hours. 2 hours after he was born the nurse offered me hospital food and my husband told me that "i waited until after he was born to tell you, but your weight has become a problem for me. It's time you really focus on losing some weight." My son was 2 hours old. The epidural hadn't even worn off. I cried for hours after that and he had no idea why I was so upset. I never felt the same after that.

This guy must be careful of what he wishes for. His wife may lose weight and gain the self confidence to leave him.

Imagine being his wife and hearing this online.

Ten years and sees her body more than her soul?… divorce him. I’ve been with a real man for 40 years. Fluctuating 100 pounds. At my biggest after my son I hid my body. He said… your body is beautiful but your soul is what I’m really in love with forever. Yes a real man.

That is one of my worst fears: risking your life to give a man children, only for him to be mad that your body never snapped back, and makes no effort to lighten the load so you can take care of yourself. Good call, Delony. I think you offered compassion and accountability.

I had five kids in six years and was told my body was disgusting. I weighed 125 at 5’5” and ran a half marathon when my youngest was four. So I dropped 180 lbs all at once with a divorce. 😂

Wow this man is the exact reason so many women worry about “changing” as the years go on.

His wife needs someone who loves her in all her seasons of life

My wife gained a fair bit over 20 years. I think she's lovely. I forget to tell her I think that sometimes, and I'm going to do that right now.

My husband wanted me to lose weight and I told him that he had to gain muscle. It was only fair.

Omg his wife is gonna be devastated when someone who recognizes his voice sends this to her 🥺.

Imagine giving your entire body, mind, and soul to bring life into this world and your husband just isn’t attracted to you anymore

My wife has given me 5 wonderful children and gained 60 pounds since we were married. She’s absolutely beautiful and still makes my heart race. I look at the sacrifices she made with her body to give us children with great admiration.

My husband had a catastrophic car accident that left him paralyzed. He was 5" 10" and 120 pounds when we married. He never, ever looked bad to me even after 49 years of marriage and terminal cancer. You don't just love a BODY. You love the whole person.

We women don't enjoy being overweight, we would love our pre baby body back as well! Sometimes there's no time. Men need to help in giving women time to go get fit. Hope he keeps himself fit as well.

I’m so grateful for my loving husband! After 3 kids I gained 38 pounds. Never once he told me I need to lose wait, he always told me I’m sexy and beautiful and loved my body with all the changes it went through. Now 2 years past after my daughters birth and in the last 6 months I’ve lost 21 pounds! He is still so kind to me and his love never changed! Grateful for the parents that raised such an amazing man!

My ex husband called me saggy after giving birth. I was 120lbs. Some men just aren't happy and they look for excuses to cheat. I was lifting weights and working out 1 hr a day to try to appease him and nothing worked because it was all in his head. Men I date now say I have the body if a 20 yr old and I'm 43. I've always had a nice body. It's not you ladies, it's the douche you are with.

Some of y’all don’t take the “for better or for worse” part seriously.

He actually doesnt love his wife at all; here's why. He loves the idea of having someone to show off to his buddies. He wants the status of having a hot wife. He never mentions her struggles other than to say shes failing, not that's he's potentially failed her. He doesnt mention her feelings other than being unhappy with herself too. He doesnt acknowledge even once, that John is right when he basically tells him hes creating an unsupportive environment to contain her in the home and not let her thrive. He just goes back to wanting to find a "safe" way to tell her shes fat and unattractive and to step up her game. He has literally, zero empathy on behalf of the fact that she may be severely struggling with a lot. And his version of "support" is encouraging her to do what he wants her to do. She is not a person to him, she is an object. He has no respect for her. He sees her as something to sit there, look pretty, rock life, and make him look good while doing it. She doesn't have needs and desires and if she does, they need to match his.

My heart breaks for his wife. I’m sorry momma, I hope things change and he can love you the way you deserve. 😢