What Nobody Tells You About Your Twenties | Livi Redden | TEDxBayonne

Hello everybody. I am 20 years old and from Ukraine. After what I heard in this video I want to cry. I feel that I live in another universe, because building of myself, thinking about the best years of life, thinking before going to sleep "Am I happy enough" - I always have samr answer - no. Because in Ukraine, the genocide of my people by the russians. Right now, I and my whole generation feel that our life is completely lost. Most of my generation aged 16-25 do not see the meaning of life at all. That week I attended the funerals of 2 of my acquaintances who were not even 30 yet. And this happens every month, every week, every day... I really want That such tedtoks would be relevant to me, but all I feel at the moment is envy of my peers from other countries who have opportunities that I do not have and will never have

i'm 22, graduated last year but still unemployed. last year was a hard one because i beat myself up for resting before finding a job. i still feel lost rn but i'm doing my best to pull myself together. this talk reminded me that it's okay to be lost but it's not okay to stay there. we have to make big changes and learn and unlearn things. nothing changes if nothing changes.

"A FEELING OF BEING CONSTANTLY AT WAR WITH THEIR MINDS" 100000000000000000% ✅✅✅✅✅✅

Video Summary: The speaker discusses the lack of practical emotional and decision-making training for young people in their twenties and emphasizes the importance of developing these skills to lead a less stressful and more fulfilling life. She introduces three pillars: unlearning social conditioning, designing an authentic way of being, and taking action, to promote better emotional intelligence and self-guided growth. The goal is to empower young adults to make conscious choices and create a successful life aligned with their core values. - 00:00 The lack of practical emotional and decision-making training for young people in their twenties - 02:58 The decisions and habits we form in our 20s have a significant impact on our future. - 05:57 The speaker discusses the struggles faced by teens and 20-somethings, emphasizing the need for better emotional and decision-making skills. - 08:56 Living in alignment means aligning your core priorities, actions, and thoughts with your deepest core values, leading to a blissful and fulfilling life. - 11:56 The speaker talks about the importance of intentional growth and why we put forth the effort. - 14:56 Making bold changes in our lives can be scary, but if it feels right, it can bring more peace than chaos.

At 22, this REALLY resonates with me. The more work you put into yourself in your youth, the better off you will be for the rest of your life. Such an amazing talk! Y’all should check out her book- The Sooner You Know, The Better! Read this recently and she goes into more detail with these concepts with great humor. Highly recommend!!

When I was 20, I don't think we have many great resources like this TED talk here. Looking back on my own twenties, I can say that life has a way of teaching me many lessons, some easy, some hard. So when you come across those hard moments, please don't beat yourself up. It is very likely that you're facing that problem for the first time in your life, it is expected to feel very difficult. Just breathe and learn to grow from it. The fact that you're here to prepare for your twenties means you are light years and wiser from tiny me, don't give up!

I just turned 30. I'm proud of my twenties. I didn't achieve all my goals, certainly am nowhere near successful by societal standards, and deal with a lot of depression and social anxiety issues. But I learned so much about myself and life and have always been "personal growth" and spiritually oriented (pagan and Buddhist). I was suffering and realized no one around me was going to help me/knew about emotional intelligence work, so I went searching (and still am) for my own answers. I'm so far from where I want to be but I've come a long way and honor my process. Self compassion, curiousity, and mindfulness have been my best tools, along with some therapy to help validate my experiences and realize my core values.

21, Indian. The title itself was an attention catcher. I graduated this year, and trust me this is the most difficult, confusing, stressed, anxious, and struggling phase of my life. It feels comforting to hear that so many of us are sailing in the same boat. also, I believe this is the only time when we are not running in autopilot mode and are finally getting the chance to think about ourselves, our values, our belief systems, and who we really are. during this phase, I have realized that it is essential for me to spend time with myself and reflect on these questions. stay distant from voices that fade these voices inside of me and continue to REFLECT, REFLECT, AND REFLECT.

No way!!! I’m 18 years old and listened to this video for the first time ever on an April 26th!!

Adulting was always my biggest wish. Making choices on your own and not always being dependant on your parents is a really great thing, but it is scary how the time passes and you kind of feel like not living at all and every day is the same. Comparison is also a thing I started to struggle with as I grew older. Realising how unfair life is. This video made me realise that I am not alone and thing eventually will figure. I hope that someday my work will pay off.

I am 25. Struggling with choices and doubting whether my actions are correct. By doing efforts of aligning “myself” with the society, I have struggled with self doubts. Probably it’s the best video I watched. ❤

I am a sophomore in High-school. Yesterday i wrote an essay regarding schools providing classes for mental stability and support. Following this video i am so grateful that i wrote that essay and overall provided good facts and information exactly like what was given in this video.

This is the other half of the argument on how to live through your twenties that people don't talk about. I love it.

Well, just take a note here for myself. In conclusion, she metioned three important pillars: unlearning, being and doing. Unlearning is kind of unlearning what the society had taught you all your life, learn to hear how your heart truly says, constantly reflects yourself. Being is being your true self, ignoring what other people say about how you should “build your house”. Instead of that, start building it in your own way. You’ll feel the most comfortable in the house you made for yourself. Lastly, doing. You must take the action, even if it is the most scary thing to do. People tend to afraid of the bold changes, cus it’s unpredictable. But actually, if you do it right, it will bring more peace than chaos. Reread all this and find out, the word repeated the most is “yourself”, make sense, cus only if you see through yourself, you find the peace in your soul. And that’s what matter the most.

It is 2:35 after midnight, and I’m sitting alone questioning my quarter life crisis,being lost and sad , knowing that 20’s are my hardest part of life , and i need to survive it And this talk came in my way It’s so helpful and the concept is soothing and supportive Like a friend that telling you : it is okay , you are on the right track ❤❤❤

"life-changing, life-saving, society-changing skills" that line is powerful and 100% true when it comes to emotional development. This is such an important conversation and you share it so beautifully! Everyone needs to watch this! I'm 23 and this definitely resonated with me from so many different angles. Thank you!

“We must take radical responsibility as soon as possible as this is where joy & fulfilment are born.” Such an important talk for all young people to hear…thank you for sharing your profound wisdom Livi💖

I’m 24 and these concepts have been heavily on my mind very often these days. I found this video at the right moment.

I am 23, about to graduate college and it is just intense. 20’s are so hard to navigate. Like who am i ? I dont even know yet

This video was really inspiring to me. I am 21 years old and consider myself to be very successful and on top of all aspects of my health. I have reaped the benefits of working hard to become who I am today. But recently I have been fairly unmotivated and sitting in the back seat. This video has inspired me to try and start an "alignment growth journal." I'm hoping that with at least 4 entries per week, that I can begin to realign my values and actions. "You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems." I have definitely been feeling the repercussions of falling to my systems. I would be terrified to learn that I would live the rest of my life like I have the past 3 months if I was to be hardwired today. So with becoming hardwired on the horizon, I will work super hard to act and think the way I want to do so for the rest of my life.