PLEASE STOP WEARING THESE 3 THINGS AT ANY AGE | Nikol Johnson

I am 70 years old. When I was a young woman, I became a medical esthetician, At 37, I went to nursing school and became a nurse, much to the chagrin and derogatory comments from my family (except for my husband and children- they encouraged me). At 45, I went to graduate school and became an Acute Care Nurse Practitioner specializing in wound care, as skin was always my passion. When I was about 50, I decided to earn my doctoral degree- I have never regretted the decision to spend the time, money, or whatever on my education, even though my family (mother, father, sister, brother-in-law) were nay-sayers to everything. If you let the opinions of others influence your life, you will never achieve your dreams- go for it!

I was raised hearing, "What will people think?" I have always felt judged by others and usually focused on the possible negative rather than the positive. I have allowed this to limit me everywhere in my life. I shall try very hard in 2024 to push this thought from my beliefs and allow my true self to be unafraid to shine and trust that it is OK not to be absolutely perfect all of the time. Thank you for this video, Nikol.

This really hit home!!. As a 65 young gal I decided about 10 years ago to dress to make me feel happy! Quirky, boho, conservative, loud, sultry, especially with my accessories! Thanks to you I've learned how to bring out the best of face to match each of these styles without being gaudy. I'm known to my friend as being eclectic and other ladies tell me they wish they could be like that but am afraid they wouldn't be able to pull it off like me. I tell them its not a matter of pulling it off but whether the like the way it makes them feel. I wear everything with confidence because it makes me feel happy! Feeling pretty at 65 doesn't always happen. But when I wear my silk kaftan with my rhinestone platform sandals I'm very , very happy!!

The guilt of the past really spoke to me and is a good reminder. As we age, of course we rack up lots of mistakes in our past that we regret and have a lot of " what ifs" - the chance we were too scared to take, the relationship we let go for stupid reasons, the time we wasted, etc. I need to remember to rephrase this to "look what you have accomplished", "what else can I do to continue growing and finding meaningful joy" so that I look forward to each day with confidence and a good attitude.

WOW, what an inspirational video and advice. Retired 68yo woman, RN for 43 years. We would have a seminar about thinking about our death, and what would be important like 1 year, 6 months, weeks or days before our deaths, sure did give you a different perspective on what was important. My Dad would ask me when I would complain of regret or a mistake I made: "Did I learn something? Then it shouldn't be a mistake or regret, we are only human, not perfect!"

I needed to hear this video. I've felt a bit guilty for my decision of letting my hair go gray last year because I'm 74 and my boyfriend is 55. But he'll just have to live with this "old lady" because I'm doing this for myself, nobody else! Tired of coloring and tired of seeing my white roots. You're my inspiration Nikol and I watch each of your videos as soon as posted. Thank you!

The guilt of the past hit me hard TY❤❤

#3 Stop wearing the weight of other people's opinions spoke to me. I'm 64 and have come to realize that other people's opinion of what retirement looks like doesn't fit me. It's taken me 5 years to figure this out. So, I'm headed in a direction different from the people around me and making my own path defining what retirement looks like to me. And thanks to your channel, I'm looking (and feeling) pretty damn amazing doing it. Thank you!

Absolutely what I needed to hear today. After listening to all the self-help stuff, I said to myself one day," Why do I need to fix myself?"

Such great advice. For me it's the pressure. As a Pastor's wife there is alot of pressure. Looking good behaving a certain way. People like to dump on you. Etc. So thank you for this.

I have so many regrets... some I caused and some others caused. I seriously am going to bury them and move on. Thank you!

Thank you for posting this. I resonated with the past. For me, it has to do with past narcissistic abuse. I always blame myself for not making the right choices. I need to stop

This is your best video by far. I'm in my 60's & I totally agree with your 3. It took me pretty much all of my 50's to realize I don't give a f*ck...and to stop stressing about everybody else....and do what pleases me & what makes me happy/healthy. YOU DO YOU LADIES!!

I love this Nikol. Thank you! So many women need this encouragement. I agree, the time is now. I have found that scheduling time for those things we enjoy gives us something to look forward to. I’ve been struggling to find time for my art and even normal beauty routines since my hubby retired. It has taken a year or so for us both to adjust, but we’re getting there. I finally explained to him that ladies don’t just roll out of bed, throw on some wrinkled clothes and go out out for the day. So he said, okay, how long do you need? No pressure there as he stood outside the door waiting. Omg! 😂 Just for an FYI we have been married for 41 years and I worked in the beauty industry for years. My hubby was gone a lot with his work, and after talking to him for a bit I realized that he thought that he had to go out for breakfast, it had just become such a habit for him over the years. We took a tour of the kitchen and I showed him where all the food was and even told him it was okay to ask me to make breakfast when he wants some eggs. Cracking up here. Communication is so important. This post is perfect, every day is a gift from God, tomorrow is not promised, so there is no time like the present for an internal makeover. Be honest, be grateful, be loving and gentle toward yourself and one another. Let go of past hurts, enjoy the small blessings in each day, looking forward because as the saying goes, “The best is yet to come!” Remember ladies, no matter the age, every person is valuable and beautiful in God’s eyes, and he’s not done with us yet! 🎉

Thank you for this video! My thoughts are completely in-line with yours. It’s like you were in my head!! My word for 2024 is, CHANGE. My internal change. Chasing me and finding out all about me, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I realize I’ve been expecting external validation, whether my job, my husband, or my kids, or my friends. When all along all I needed to do was make me happy, take care of me and everyone else in my life would become an enrichment of that fulfillment. Im 61 & I wish I would have told my 36 yr old self this. However, this glorious event happens when you age, you learn that you just don’t care. I don’t mean you become a less caring person, I mean you are able to let go of so many insecurities & grief you’ve caused yourself for years! You don’t care about all of that & instead begin to focus on yourself, which should have been our focus all along. We are warriors, we are strong, and we are more than capable!!!🥰

All three, great advice!💃🏻 I am taking an art class in NYC and going to a writing retreat in France in April! (Not to boast ... it’s after 50 years of working in education!)

JUST NEED TO SAY..."THANK YOU" I TRULY NEEDED THESE REMINDERS!

True, true, true 😢 The past is the past....why can't I live by that statement? Thank you Nikol

Loved this video...I've just turned 77 and its interesting how we do change as we get older. Things that use to bother me or I felt pressured to do I've just let go of. I try to live each day for that day , because it could well be, and not judge or try to influence others. Keep up the good work Nikol! Aging is a blessing from God and we need to do it in the best way we can.

"Don't wear the guilt of the past" resonated with me because I do that literally. I was in pretty sorry shape for a while; but I dug myself out from under more than a quarter million dollars in debt, published a book, and lost over 200 pounds. I have taste, I know what works on me, but I default to cheap yoga pants and t-shirts because my appearance hasn't caught up with the new me, yet. What's sad is how many of my friends and family are HORRIFIED that I want to spend money on myself and buy new clothes. Apparently, they think that buying a couple of nice new pairs of jeans and a few tops will do the trick and I have been advised, repeatedly, not to buy a complete versatile capsule wardrobe. Heaven forbid that I should be presentable or - gasp, perish the thought - chic. I've always been the fat dumpy one and nobody can deal with me wanting to look good. I'm glued to your content because you empower me to express myself in the best possible way. I love your channel and need your message! Thank you, this was very timely for me.