Does Life Feel Hard? Let's Stop the Stress & Struggle for Good

A bit ago, you mentioned fresh flowers, and I looked around my disaster of a house and said out loud "this house doesn't deserve fresh flowers" and burst into tears. 😬 But after a good cry I ordered grocery delivery with fresh flowers and binged your podcast and got my kitchen/dining room under control before they arrived. ❤️ Thank you!

There is nothing better than taking a cup of coffee and your Bible and sitting outside, reading, contemplating, and meditating as the sun comes up. It really does set your day. This podcast is one of your best. Blessings.

I cried at work today while talking to my doctor in my car, in the parking lot, and on my lunch break. After raising three daughters as a single mom with bipolar and ADHD, and then caring for my elderly parents in my home for over 10 years (they just turned 90), all the while being a full-time teacher, I think I can't do it anymore. I'm broken down. Used up. Done. And this was just what I needed to hear. I NEED to not be busy or have chores to do. It's still hard because I live alone, so who will take care of things other than me? Your video is a good starting point. Thanks, Cas. I hope you live a contented life as you grow on your journey.

What blows my mind about hearing you talk is that to me, and I’m sure many, you are uber successful ,like “ had your own fri kin’ show” on Main stream TV successful,” but you are so real and humble and deal with all the same daily sh— we all do. And, you aren’t afraid to say so and take openly and deeply about it.

I started to do it some time ago, my way is a nice tea in fine porcelain teacup in the afternoon. Going to bed ealier. Going to classical concerts and opera (I never knew that I love such art). Going to exhibitions and art galeries. Less shopping, less tv, less empty small talks. More books, nature, bike rides and walks. As you said you don't have to spend a lot of money, just find your way to fill yourself with what you love. Good luck everyone!

My husband always says let’s not shoulda, coulda, woulda! So true and as someone who is eradicating cancer, I know you must eliminate stress!

Every time you say “about”, my Canadian heart smiles.

When I stopped shoulding myself, it turned into no longer shoulding other people, too.

Lovely video! After I was first married with a myriad house to-dos, my husband said, "Stop 'shoulding' all over yourself."

I love listening to your podcasts!! Your voice is so soothing!!!

A mentor of mine once challenged me to take myself on dates after a difficult breakup. I took myself to coffee, lunch and movies. I went to museums and art exhibits. I still get overwhelmed sometimes, but try to do something nice for myself everyday, as well as for someone else ❤

A few years before my divorce I started to make sure I had a hot shower every night and use a nice piece of soap. Hot showers are the equivalent to a bath for me and save water (I have rainwater tanks). I also gave myself a 4 day schedule to wash my hair so I never have to worry about oily hair. Basic I know but it was a case of taking control of something when my life had always been controlled by the ex’s complaints about whatever I did.

Cass, I aligned with EVERY. SINGLE. WORD. of this video. I cannot tell you how freeing, empowering and motivating this was. I've been one of your silent subscribers for a long time but I had to comment on this video and let you know how helpful this was for me. I can't even say publicly the impact you have made on my life. Thank you for all you do!

"Should" is such a loaded word. I avoid it as much as I can. Thanks for removing the guilt! 😊

I ALWAYS feel guilty if I sit down any time of the day before 8:00 PM…like if people knew, they’d think I’m lazy. Even on Sundays. 😢 I’m 59, no kids at home, but my brain even tries to tell me my husband probably thinks I’m lazy. So I rarely do sit down and relax during the day. Cas is RIGHT…busy is no badge of honor. I’m going to put that on my mirror to remind me every day ❤.

You have a very calming voice when you talk about things like this. I used to follow the Slob Sisters and their Basic Week Plan had a free day every week. Dinner was leftovers and it was paper plate night. I like your idea of sort of a spa day. I also sort of use my laundry as a lazy day. Everything is sorted and I start a load. In between switching the loads and folding things, I just veg out and watch movies or a series of TV shows. Or maybe I read a book. My late husband would always plan play days of just get in the car and go. I would say, "Give me an hour to deal with the dishes and laundry." But he would say he would leave without me. So, I would grab my stuff and run to the car. Now, I'm glad I did because I have those memories. He passed about 6 years ago and I wish I could do those things again. I also need to make a date with myself to eat dinner at the kichen table with fine china and treat myself. Thank you so much for this video. I need to watch it more than once when I'm just existing but not living.

CAS, I love Your fun personality videos, but this soothing voice FEELS really good to my soul!

Cas, a therapist once told me about this very thing, " you are a human being, not a human doing" I love it!

At the halfpoint of listening so far and every.single.word. is relatable. Thank you Cas!

I have large windows that face my back yard. I sit and watch the birds at the feeders and the deer in the woods. I love it. It is very calming and happy for me. I sit on the patio when the weather is nice.