My Wife CHEATED on me and my Mother took her side

What is with the weird noises that just come up at random intervals? Please never do that again.

With the mother acting that way, I would have sent a last text "You got the daughter you always wanted, but lost a son"

The mother is probably a cheater too.

Lost their daughter through misfortune. But they lost their son through their choices.

“It’s just toxic, æhghħ” 10:52 “Before it stinks the place up, neiğħ” 11:51 “Matters in our house, ñîgğiñ” 13:23 “Got my sights on the states, eugh” 17:59 “You just have to learn from it, eh” 23:47 “In the long run, Ãnuț“ 28:02 “Fight club quote, Ěħeh“ 31:59

I heard this one before. The audacity of everyone to call op selfish or spoiled. He was betrayed by everyone important to him. Also no doubt the mom is a cheater as well and his dad is a doormat.

Some people on Reddit are complete bullies, pinning the blame on OP when OP literally laid everything out for them and even pointed out that he wasn't in wrong at all.

i think the people saying he overracted and should take her back dont know what it feels like to be betrayed like that, and then finding out your parents value her more than you...cause they decided that they would rather have a stand in for their first kid than the one they have. the more you love someone, the harder it is when they hurt you. personally i make a policy of never taking a cheater back because they have done it once, they will do it again. hes right, she can NEVER be trusted again.

It’s hard taking this serious and feel bad when I randomly hear “reah” “ainn” “uuuuuh”

He’s right to leave but that lie detector fact was actually true. Lie detectors are notoriously bad at actually telling the truth. They’re incredibly easy to fail if you’re even slightly nervous or even just got back from a long run, but if you know how to work them you can just as easily cheat them. She could have had a panic attack and gotten the results as complete liar, or she could have taken the test and chested her way into even saying she never sent those texts. Everything else though OP is pretty spot on

Relationships are trust based. If you can't trust, you can't keep it together.

OP suffered so much but it was so cathartic and wholesome to hear him talk about his recovery. I'm glad for him because his therapist is right: his best years are ahead of him.

Damn that dude strong, I would've burned all the bridges with parents after that betrayal, but he managed to stay somewhat calm and keep the house at least.

16:56 people will justify cheating because they have no self worth, if the roles were reversed I'm pretty sure your parents would kick you out of their house instantly and disown you

I can already tell that the people who told OP he was selfish for not trying harder have no self-respect. You don't just brush it off when your partner cheats or tries to cheat on you. There are many things you can forgive them for, but cheating is a blatant act of disrespect. It doesn't matter if the person she was about to cheat with messaged first and started the flirting. It was HER responsibility to shut that down. I understand that the mother is defending her because she's attached to her as a daughter due to losing her own, but I still feel like the dad should look into whether his wife ever did the same actions as the ex.

There seems to be some sort of editing problem right here. Random bits of noise for like quarter of a second. Such as laughing.

This is somewhat funny for me. My older sister cheated on my ex-brother-in-law and got pregnant by another man. We obviously chose his side, mainly because he actually wants to be there for his kids. Just a little side note, this caused them to have a 2nd divorce. What really got me mad was that their youngest, who was probably close to five at the time, said that this was wrong. Instead of rambling on, I’ll just get to the point. 🤬 those people. This man, like my ex-brother-in-law, deserves better. I’m siding with him and no one can change my mind. Dude, if need be, I can tell you you’re NOT in the wrong. I can tell you tried your absolute best. I guess that my experience with something similar, is the reason why I can tell you with 100% confidence that you’re not alone. If you need any support, just know that you have mine and my family’s support. (Those that are ‘immediate’ family I mean. There is about 30 or so of us) I wish you the best of luck and fortune. (Just to get this off my chest, if a teenager such as I can see how wrong these people are treating him, then that’s not too difficult to understand his situation. If anyone else agrees with me, then maybe I don’t need to scream into my pillow and wondering why I even exist if I can’t do something that’s not just rambling on about what I see.) sorry if this thing is too much or too big or stupid or whatever it is.

Mother is definitely a cheater and defending the wife is because she feels guilty and probably knew the wife was cheating too

I can’t believe OP didn’t lash out at his mom and dad in anger for choosing there son’s cheating ex over there own flesh and blood

It’s not a mistake to continually text a guy you’re flirting with behind your husband’s back. It’s a mistake to have texted him once, but she continually broke OP’s trust after that. She likely would’ve gone through with it if he never found out before. Not only did she break her husband’s trust, she broke his mother’s trust. It’s sad that the mother is that attached to that woman, and just as sad that the dad won’t stick up for his son.