Jordan Peterson: Why Do Nice Guys Nice Finish Last? (MUST WATCH)

I heard someone once say "Don't be a nice Man, be a GOOD man" That has stuck with me, niceness holds the idea of being untruthful to protect feelings, not telling people what you want, avoiding all conflict even when it's necessary etc, but being a good man you tell the truth and assert yourself in an ethical manner and treat people with respect and caring, BUT based in truth. There is a glorious middle ground where the incredible people are found.

“Some people are so agreeable, they don’t even know what they want.”

If I could go back to my high school graduation year and about to start college, I would sign up for every class I could with Jordan Peterson. This is the kind of education that should be taught in schools at all ages. Brilliant man.

I'm 22 now and this speaks so deeply to me, it took me so long to stop being being a pushover and accept that I deserve respect as much as everyone else

Im a nice guy but somehow always finish before my wife does.

This man got my 20 yr old ass worried about the social skills of kids I don't even have yet. Awesome lecture.

What a gift this man is. Being truthful means your agreeableness won’t let you attract narcissists.

Dr. Peterson's thoughts and breakdown of things has given me so much relief and sense of not being alone in these mental struggles.

He breaks down people like a math problem, its amazing.

It’s not about being nice. You can still be nice. It’s just about being assertive and sticking up for yourself.

I absolutely love this man and I’m 37 now. He is right about our development as men. I’ve wanted to have my own family since about 26,27 myself. I haven’t since there are many factors that play against me but it great to have someone like him out there that explains how you are in such simple way is refreshing. I’ve never been a fan of everyone is different, everyone is unique and special. Sometimes a simple bell curve is all someone needs to understand more.

Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance wealth, a great career, purpose is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

“Try not to hit the other kids with a truck any more than necessary.” 😂😂😂

Finally cleaned my room after getting yelled at by this random man to do it--never worked when my parents told me. Now I feel much better.

"You will line up to be exploited" is such a hard hitting and apt way of explaining the potential dangers of being overly agreeable.

He is just so damn smart. This lecture has no time limit...it is just as important today as it would have been 30 years ago and 50 years from now.

I wish he was my college professor... wouldn't miss a single class

"If the truth shall kill them, let them die." Immanuel Kant

I was seriously stunted socially as a kid and I still remember the alien feeling on my very first day of school. It was almost exactly like he said, I was the 2 year old around 4 year olds, at least to some extent. While watching this is no miracle cure by itself, it's nice to get a pretty solid explanation and possible solutions to make up for it.

Watching this clip I realized something about myself that I have been too afraid to admit to myself, which is I'm a very agreeable person. Not necessarily to my detriment, but I'm too concerned with pleasing people and will go to certain distances to achieve that. I would like to believe that a part of that is because I have a fair amount of compassion and truly want to see people happy, but I will have to find a middle ground as I go through life. I'm 26 so I hope I will have time to make the necessary adjustments before I get to settled in my ways. This lecture clip was truly insightful! 🙏💯