I'm thinking of leaving my GF of 3 years, who was r*ped, after I was excluded from her recovery

THIS IS THE FULL STORY

I was sort of in this situation. I was dating a girl who got raped and I tried to be an emotional support. One day, she flew off the handle and asked me why I didn't love her or be intimate. I tried one time, and she broke down crying, saying she couldn't cause it was traumatizing. I didn't know what to do, and no one would help me figure something out. She didn't even want therapy. Another day, she cheated on me with three men all at the same time and blamed me for it. I left. I left and never looked back. I knew then I could not survive if I stayed. Call me a bad guy or not, but for my survival, I had to leave.

OP was mentally ab*sed and alienated for a over a year by his gf, her family, all the professionals, and his sister. OP is a victim in this as well. He was left alone. This whole story broke my heart.

If I was him, I would have walked as soon as she said she cheated and when the therapist defended it. I can’t even

listening to this felt like slowly watching someone get sucked deeper and deeper into a black hole while helpless to do anything except watch in horror as they pass the event horizon, knowing there's no turning back anymore. poor op, this isn't going to end well for him

If a woman asks for advice about a guy who is mentally unstable, people will tell her to run and that she is not responsible for being his therapist. If a guy does the same, he is told he must be her rock.

OP was being emotionally starved out of his relationship and the sisters response was "Are you really going to leave my sister?" I feel like this was an inappropriate as the behaviour of everyone in this story.

She's going to absolutely destroy this man in the long run.

All of the girlfriends “supporters” and “advocates” are not helping the gf with her recovery!! Enabling her. Being SA is absolutely terrifying - trust me, I know; however, you can’t enable the victim by allowing her to become immobilized. Don’t treat her like a broken dove. OP now needs therapy from dealing with the gf’s horrible therapy.

Hearing Sarah say "you wanting to break up with me was a wakeup call" is so sad. It kinda shows how people really take your kindness and devotion to them for granted. They'll do things that hurt you because in their eyes, you'll never leave. Kinda heartbreaking.

Anyone notice this.. She didn't go to see him for lunch because she was being intimate with another guy. But when OP updates us that she was being assaulted at work, they were in the lunch room eating. But in her 'journal' never mentioned that she was supposed to meet up with OP for lunch. She just went back to work. She was spending lunch with that guy, when she was supposed to be with OP. Seems like history revision to me.

How convenient that the girlfriend is suddenly absolved of all guilt and is suddenly a saint. I guess we're also not supposed to pay attention to the inconsistencies in the story. Either the whole story is fake or OP got duped into staying with a cheater and believing she hadn't cheated.

I watched the full video, I still believe OP was manipulated and this relationship is gonna ruin him in the long run. The Problems are: 1) The whole family, even his own sister were against him for the longest, even calling him a disgusting pig. Yet now all of a sudden some journal conveniently explains it was not her fault. 2) Nobody in OP's life was truly there for him aside from his sister for a single moment where she stood up for him. The girlfriend literally agreed and consented to being away from him for a year without a single giving a shit about him. Then she and the other girls have the audacity to shame him or gaslight him into thinking it's "love" on why he should stay. Clearly this is a lie, none of them showed love to him. Else, they would've seen right through the bullshit given by the r*pe advocate. 3) Self-defense classes or not. This man has a ELITE level of communication, Empathy and patience that the girlfriend is not even close to. Nor do the people in his life appreciate properly. Nobody gave a shit about him despite him clearly being an incredible man. Her family, her and even his own sister are all wrong regardless of the r*pe advocate kickstarting this shitshow. Him going through with the relationship is signing himself up for more misery because life will have downs again where he finds himself in the same limbo state. The 4 days of happiness is just a honeymoon phase where he is yet again blinded by the short-sighted love of his girlfriend, making him forget about the root problems of how she and all of the other involved parties handled this issue. TL: dr this guy is a incredible man. These people have no good excuse and he is now trapped in a short-sighted honeymoon phase until he is abused more by all of the parties involved when life brings another calamity. He really needs to stand up for himself regardless of the names or how people deem him. It's okay to be selfish when the alternative is mental suicide.

OP really out here being treated like a doormat. The one time that he was gonna decide for himself, he was gaslit into retracting it. What a sad situation he was in.

Call me a shit person but I would have left her in a few months of going through that. And hearing about another guy I'd leave immediately. It's selfish, but sometimes you have to be selfish to protect yourself.

wait nobody even ASKED HER who she wanted there after the attack? Seems like a pretty fucking important question

~7 minutes in: She cheated on him. At ~35 minutes she makes up a BS story, and (probably fake) journal to convince him she didn't cheat. Oh, and don't forget that everything was the fault of the counselor at the hospital and DEFINITELY none of her own. He is an absolute idiot and doormat for not leaving her and cutting her off when she confessed to cheating in the first place.

props to op for trying to be as honest and objective as possible, and calling out his own bias in the edits. it shows that he truly cares about the situation and isnt trying to victimize himself.

Honestly she broke up with him first, without even saying the words. Just the way she treated him, and abandoned him. He feels guilt for abandoning her but in truth she abandoned him first. It's always so funny how people will use and abuse you but as soon as you say "enough's enough, I'm leaving," they love you more than anything and all the love and affection they withdrew from you comes out in spades.

It pissed me off how much of a doormat OP is.