Moving On When Your Marriage Doesn’t | Therapy & Theology

As a divorced woman I think part of the healing is acceptance of the reality or situation.

Hello there, New viewer here. I am so glad I found your channel. My husband just divorced me after 35 yrs. & I have been struggling with Divorce because of my Beliefs. I Thank you so much for your research & sharing your guidance. My husband made me believe all of it was my fault but your show opened my EYES!!! God Bless!!!

Thank you for this. I have been struggling tremendously. My husband left me on Christmas due to his drug use, didn’t talk to me for weeks until he needed money. My “friends” told me I didn’t have any biblical ground for divorce and said if I did get a divorce I couldn’t be in ministry or get remarried. Broke my heart into even more pieces. 2023 was a year from hell because of his addiction. I have been listening to this everyday to help me move forward with this divorce.

This episode is saving lives. After 3 years of separation I suffered through emotional and verbal abuse because I felt soo guilty to give up. I filed finally today. I wish our church studied this deep into the hebrew wording or that text. Thank you Lysa .

I have been in this horrible marriage for 34 years because I believed that the only reason God allowed divorce was due to infedelity. 😢 Thank you for this session.

I learned a long time ago to enjoy my own company - healing process must begin there...

Currently going through divorce and this video speaks to my heart so much. It was never my desire to go through this, even after he committed adultery I was willing to work on us and the marriage. But he chose her over me and our two young children. My heart hurts still but God is good, even in the valley.

The part about celebrating and getting to know yourself is so important. I went to Barbados to celebrate my 60th on my own. God provided everything I needed, and He took me on another part of my healing journey. He is a good, good Father.

Thank you for this; it has helped me with some of the “guilt of divorce” and sure others too. At age 60 after 36 years of marriage, I was presented with divorce papers and obviously stunned. Yet a year later as I’m now healing and choosing to move across the country to be close to family and live alone, I see how God has been protecting/ guiding me all along. I know God has a plan for me as He has for you; He will never leave me. Thank you for your work.

34 years of secrets, lies, abandonment, talk of divorce and now I'm enduring religious abuse and more abandonment from friends/family/pastors - their well-intentioned advice is like layers of toxic, heavy lava smothering what little life is left in me ... and to date is THE worst, gut-wrenching experience besides finding out the double life my husband has lived. Lysa, Jim and Joel, I cannot thank you enough for bringing these topics to light where God can do HIS healing in me. Through your podcasts, I feel like I can see a Promised Land. I am finding the courage to walk into my healing. Keep going, you are making a difference in the church! I'm so deeply grateful. Shalom

Thank you for clarifying, I have allowed myself to be held captive with the understanding divorce is not allowed. My husband is a minister/ narcissist, he uses the Bible/ scripture as a weapon to keep me in this marriage. The lies, gaslighting, manipulation, has been consistent for 4 years. I believe there is healing for me. I have detached myself from this marriage, Because I know that he will not take responsibility for anything that brought this marriage to a place of destruction.

Dr. Joel is such an addition to this program. Love his contributions!!!

I’m feeling so validated after watching this. Thank you for allowing God to use you.

Stayed too long, God doesn’t hate me, validated… free in Christ!🙏

Grief for the death 💔of a dream of what we were both hoping for; at the wedding decades ago. Seeing glimpses of gratitude and grace, as the Lord heals my family’s losses. 🕊 Father God is soooo Faithful & True. Working diligently to heal my own picker or attachment styles and to truly know my own heart and blind spots. Praying always… 🙏🏻

Thank you so much for these Lessons. I am going through a divorce now and I appreciate the sound biblical teaching to help me to heal and gets through this horrible trial. Thank you Lisa for being so open and sharing. You are helping so many of us. Praying your dating season goes well and God blesses you with a man who Loves God first and loves you like Christ loves the Church. I hope to find the same in the future as well. Be blessed. ❤

Praise God for this teaching. Yes I stayed too long with that teaching divorce is not an option! Too many affairs so I finally filed and going through divorce! What freedom you are helping us get to!!!!

WOW I just found this thank you. My husband and I have been separated for 4 years. He has filed for divorce but has been sitting on it and not moving forward. I was a homemaker for 15 years. I don't know what to do. We both have faults and God was not our foundation.. we have two teenagers who live with him. I took these 5 years to heal emotionally mentally physically and most importantly SPIRITUALLY!! I fell in Love with Jesus.. I am all in for my Lord and Savior ❤️ I am now a true follow of our Lord Jesus Christ... My children are actively and loving the church they attend with me on Wednesdays. Glory to God!! My son just went through deliverance on Monday after I took him and his sister to see . He is 16 she is 14 . There was lots of abuse emotional verbal ECT... He still is very prideful and will not take responsibility for is wrongful doings. I have taken full responsibility for my own actions. He says he forgives me but blames me because I got an injection against him. I had to, to save my life he is in total denial.. I have released him and broke the soul tie between us. Now it is between him and God. I truly want the Lord to heal his heart.. We fall under everyone of the broken 💔 covenants of Marriage. What do I do?? I am completely healed emotionally mentally physically I am healthy !! I have a wonderful church family and I am living out my true calling and finding who I am in Christ Jesus!!! How long am I supposed to wait is he going to ever repent and want healing??? That's what I am praying for Not for me or us but for my husband's spiritual freedom!!!!

Wow such an eye opener 👏 conversations, we usually stay too long, so comes alot of grief and regrets 💔, and also how to exit in a toxic relationship, thinking about one's stability and how to navigate through, when we leave, but the truth of the matter is there is no formula in leaving a bad or unhealthy marriage, reach out to family and loved ones and God will surely make a way, where there seems to be no way.

Oh taste and see that the Lord is good. I was so desperate in need of a conversation like this, so I would know, I'm not the crazy one. And Abba sent you Lisa across my feed. I've been around some form of recovery almost my whole life. Mental Health has been my circle since 16 years of age and now 66 years old. Lisa you are so blessed to have these 2 beautiful men in your life. Thank you all so much. I will continue to be bold and loving liken unto a Lion and a Lamb. Being single doesn't allow for a male and female relationship, at least in the last 23 years it hasn't happened for me...Females quite complicated but loving once you understand the spirit of that person and keep healthy boundaries. Blessings