How to Eliminate Workplace Bullying and Incivility | Forence Bigsby | TEDxGreensboro

Informative. Most times when you report bullying to HR, they don't help.

It took my wife more than a year to finally fire a bully. It was ridiculous how many chances he was given. His sabotaging behaviors were very hard to hold him accountable for. He was on three PIPs. He’d do just enough to get off and then start bullying team members all over again. After he was fired it was discovered he had himself a secret server he would hide reports on to create chaos. Horrible human being.

Relatable. I've been relentlessly bullied, and continue to be bullied by my ex-employer. It's so sad.

In my opinion the only way to stop the bullying is to allow recordings because it comes from supervisors and oftentimes from their HR friends who tell them everything.

I had to stop watching because the audio. To everyone going through bullying especially at the workplace or school, stand up; speak up. Tell trustful authorities and loved ones about it. Do not believe it will just go away. Don't allow them to control your behavior and mood. You got this and karma WILL catch up!

Im experiencing bullying. God help me.

Thank you so much for your Ted talk. I have an abusive work colleague. I can’t prove bullying but I can prove targeted and repeated incivility. Thanks for helping me with my words for my written complaint

A lot of work has been broadcast on the perpetrators of toxic environments (e.g. Narcissism) . I love how this focuses more on the other side. The impact observed by the victims. Thank you Forence!

Great talk. Now, if only we had the right leaders in place to embrace these words and implement these strategies. In speaking up recently about being discriminated, harassed, and retaliated against, an employee relations leader told me " If I go back and I find discrimination, then, I'll have to fire people. And I have to think about the risks to the company." I escalated to the chief of hr, and now I'm being terminated as of Jan 2nd. But I am a fighter...so gonna fight as much as I can via the law.

A clue is given in the advert for a job at a firm is the mentionining in the advert of 'working under pressure' which is a code for you will be bullied and is a red flag. People have to do this and in the UK people would have to do this in order to avoid benefit sanctions and accusiations of being lazy/workshy. We know that society enjoys labelling people as lazy or workshy. This forces people into positions into having to apply to toxic abusive organisations. Governments and their civil servants (Jobcentres for the UK) enable this by their policy. One can't deny that. Some people have no trustful authorities especially people with certain disabilities/neurodivergences. Sometimes an unsuccessful application is a dodged bullet.

I have been there, I have advised the management with the same data and HR, and I have been bullied more😅. Changed simply work and I found a better work environment, luckily. Sorry for my ex colleagues trapped in that enabler environment to handle middle management focused on target and their personal wallet.

I love your talk! So raw, so passionate. Thank you for highlighting this important topic!

Forence - great Talk. Thank you for having the courage to share your story!

There's even MORE to this snapshot...in the case of bullying.. In my case...other strings were being pulled as well. Nonetheless....those that participated...are not worth much...in the grand scheme of life. What an ordeal to go through...but I did. Disgraceful!!

I spoke up about a sexist colleague, he turned everything around and made himself the victim and me to perpetrator. I got fired and he is still working there. Even though other people also complained about his behavior. I will never report again. Just find a new job and get out of there.

No mercy and no shame in excelating these infrations to superioris - the problem is a lack of transparency in reporting these "trouble makers" - when they cause one employee to feel like death, they cause the company to die too. This is life, we live - there's no time for games, there's extreme accountability and standing our part in the tribe. We lose the tribe, we either build a new one or we are done. Most alphas were once lone wolves unsung in their role, finding the true aspirational resonance with those they believe in, something they truly believe in. The suffering is the lack of justice instilled and fractured deep into these comfortable zombie aloof bullies to have a great rock bottom moment of realization about their own life, to finally see the mirror for what it is.

I’ve been badly harassed for the last year. My mom died. Then a coworker started to target me and harass. Just got laid off because she was best friends with boss. Karma is a bitc*

Laughable ..file a report with HR😂😂😂

Get the outtta here...your vog. and every buss in America follows the same game plan.

I hope everyone with a daughter reads this certain topics arent funny