Stop following the stages of grief… Kati unfiltered

7 things NOT to say to someone who is grieving: https://youtu.be/ZjCtr4zQGIQ?si=dN4xFQv3LoFggMOS

One of the most powerful thing my therapist told me was “ I have worked with many grieving people but never someone who lost their soulmate”. I’d waited until I was 61 to meet my person. We married and he suddenly died 9 months later. Still grieving and will think of him and his love for me everyday…always.

In my experience, grief never goes away, some days it's like carrying a stone, others like dragging an anchor.

My mum who died was an extremely toxic person who neglected me. So there's been no stages and instead very complicated emotions and crazy anxiety

“Stuck”… what you’ll hear over and over when your grief exceeds the allotment of time allowed for someone else’s comfort.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross outlined the stages of grief for people who are dying, terminal cancer patients and such. They were not intended for people who are still living. One aspect of grief I think isn't talked about enough is disenfranchised grief—grief that you feel like you're not allowed to feel. Addicts feel it when one of their friends (who they often got high with with) dies from an overdose. Someone who had an affair (and stayed married) might feel it when the person they cheated with dies. All grief is valid grief.

I wish you would have included the grief from losing a pet. It's so hard some days thinking about the last day of having to euthanize the poor suffering soul. I'm completely haunted from the cries and the one pic i took thats still in my phone. You're so right it's so heavy some days. Loved this video

I'm a therapist that works with people who has lost loved ones to suicide. I have also experienced all types of these losses. I have worked as a grief therapist. I have always thought that the stages are B.S. I am going to be sharing this video with my Survivor of Suicide Loss group. Thanks for this timely video.

It's a difficult, but oh so important topic. I lost my brother last October, and the pain comes in waves. Each loss seems to trigger a past loss.

I’ve been a widow for over 30 years. From the sudden death, a misdiagnosed heart attack, of my husband. Our kids were very young when their dad died. The grief comes back, not as strong, when the kids go through life achievements we would have celebrated together. Being a grandparent without him is sometimes sad because I know he would have loved being a grandpa. I tell people grief is something that will be with you your whole life. Not intensely as at first but there will be moments when it comes up. Anniversaries, birthdays special celebrations.

My therapist made me realize that I needed to grieve my child having autism. I excepted and we rolled with the diagnosis. At a point you have to grieve your dream that wasn’t how you anticipated.

I lost my Mom to suicide almost 3 years ago and I feel like I've been on autopilot for a long time. I don't feel like I've been moving through any stages.

I lost my mom about 4 years ago when I was 20 and I never went through the denial stage or the bargaining stage. I was just mad; like really mad. I remember just having this anger and lashing out at anyone who said "I know how you feel." That was an insult. My mom will never meet my partner, she will never help pick out my wedding dress, she will never crochet a baby blanket for my children like she promised. I still feel that sadness and anger and it's been 4 years.

I recently lost two dear friends, both unexpectedly. One person passed at the hospital, and the other was murdered. My grief is marked with anger and regret. The murder has deeply affected me because she asked me to tell the authorities about the abuse and the death threats if anything happened to her, but they dont believe me. He's going to get away with murdering my friend. I miss my friends already.

My mother was autistic. She worked very hard her whole life. For me...her oldest of five.....she was overwhelming to have a relationship with. She was always on the edge of a meltdown. She passed April 2023. I felt relief....then saddness....then relief. I shredded many family photos. The photos triggered so many emotions in me that I don't want to experience anymore.

I've grieved my parent for 6 years now, and all those stages comes back in random order. I've also grieved my old self for a long time, and the life I could've had if I never were bullied or got burned out. I'm FULL of grief.

Grief, to me, is a mountain, tall, sharp, no way to "get over it" it will always be there. But with practice, time, and compassion, i can build a trail around it. Sometimes the trail can be difficult as well, but at a point i accept the mountain, and be glad i didn't get taken out by a rock slide, building my trail.

I lost my dad in a car accident 59 years ago. Just to mention of his name makes me weep. 10 years ago, I went through two years of grief therapy. I avoided it for 49 years, not intentionally. But when the grief hit, it hit me like a ton of bricks. Not sure if there was any stages in my grief. This was a great video.

One of my problems is that I don't have people to discuss people who've passed away with. I'm estranged from family, who turned even more toxic after the deaths, and either aren't emotionally affected or just won't acknowledge it. It's very hard to find people willing to talk about grief if they didn't know the people you need to talk about. I haven't had any support through any grief, it's all had to be done through therapy. But sometimes I just want to talk about them, just because. In the last four years I've lost both toxic parents, and thus had to deal with other toxic family members, who were more concerned about the inheritance. No emotional support or comfort whatsoever. A lovely friend, one of the kindest, sweetest people I've ever met, who I miss way more than my parents. Her family aren't good with emotions and crying felt unwelcome at her wake, so I wasn't able to express it. And my beloved cat of almost 10 years - a constant companion and pretty much the love of my life so far 🩷 I think people disregard pet grief, but it's the purest love there is, they see us in all our private moments and just want to be with us. It's been a lot to bear.

Agreeeeeeeeeeeee with this!!!!!!!!!!!! Time to start seeing and handling grief differently. Society needs to change immediately!