The Hard Truth About Dating in France #018

Sometimes as a man not fully pleased with the patriarchy and a bit scared by (pseudo) feminism I find Alice content a bit triggering but insanely spot-on on all of these topics. I am pleased there is at least a person talking about this stuff that doesn’t come off as batshit crazy nor pandering to a male audience. People like her are what we need to change things for the better (and this podcast too).

Alice has some great things to say!

Brought a great point about the expectations & flaking, my perspective in how I date is to who would I do the labor of love. There is definitely a culture phenomenon on the ghosting. For me, the few times I ghosted/left when I begin to realize I’m wasting my time. Great conversation!!

Alice is an insightful creator, her videos and views on sociology are valid

So why interview a French woman in a relationship about dating? She has not been on the dating scene for a while, she does not have first-hand experience. At least, interview a single woman who is trying to date, ugh

Great convo!

Surprisingly i discovered by dating japanese that sadly cheating happens a lot there with mistresses etc and many dont even consider prostitution as cheating I was shocked

What happened in the Czech Republic?

Cheating should never be tolerated, its absolutely not a latin thing that is completely ridiculous and I come from a latin culture myself but this is just an a societal acceptance for this country not a cultural thing. It is absolutely questional more that people really should really evaluate. I don't think anyone should normalize it.

Very telling that she talks about internalized misogyny and stereotypes (28:30) as on her channel she has a video about passport bros where she criticises the men but gives zero agency to the woman. Everything wrong with the mixed race relationship was purely the fault of the men (They only find western men attractive due to historical power dynamics and whiteness) and the women were nothing more than pretty wallflowers. I found it quite strange that a feminist would have these feelings towards other women, but her comments on this video show it wasn't a one off. Interesting guest.

Repeated similar bad experiences lead people to labeling others. There's a modicum of truth in it.

Hello, Thanks for the video.

In a world of instant gratification, everybody loses. FOMO, constantly discarding the "now" to "monkey branch" to a future that must be "better" on and on until the clock runs out. Selfishness is not the ultimate good. A good start would be to opt out of all social media and get back to the real world.

If flirting's not cheating, then what's cheating ?

Thank you for video ❤listeting to this i am so happy i am married 😂thank god😂

What stats? From what study? The girl makes wrong life choices on who she decided to date and all by magic everyone is flaky.

I felt the issue was in India only but after this video it seems as universal problem

I'm very committed - to non-committment.😮

Guys try but they are shot down.Two girls didn't even tell their name. one was tryna make eye contact after not telling her name. Still looking back and back again.one was even in my class.

The point about being flakey is well put! I'm one of the people who is flaky too, and I put it down to a lack of clear transition to adulthood. I never understood what responsibility means, so I don't feel responsible for anyone else except myself. I'm not even sure if this is an ok mindset to have. Eventually though a total breakdown of marriage will lead to pockets of absolute isolation and total liberation, some level of extroversion will be required to be functional. I think we need to radically shift the way babies are born and raised in order to correct this issue as well. Here is my ideal life- I don't marry anyone ever, I want to have children but they are raised by a service where I and my partner meet them at my convenience, all obligations of child raising are taken up by specialty nannies at these services which i pay for (because i still want to pass on my genes). But what happens when I'm old? I hit 60, and then the dating scene ends, I have nobody. Gosh i'm confused.