China's Struggle With Domestic Violence: A Potent Patriarchy | Undercover Asia | CNA Documentary

People keep saying "it's not just China". Yes, we know that. Everyone knows that it's a worldwide issue. But right now Chinese activists and survivors are trying to raise awareness about their experiences.

As a Chinese girl, I never imagined that a husband would beat his wife until one day I went to my aunt's house and saw my uncle start beating my aunt because of some issues, I was terrified. Their son stopped his father and began to fight with him.In the end my uncle beat his son's head to bleed, and our whole family ended up going to the hospital. Only after that did I enter the real world that domestic violence can be all around us.I sincerely hope that women's rights and interests can be guaranteed in any country.

Better be single than marry a man who gives you hell

Stories like this made me feel thankful for being single.

The problem is they take marriage as a “must” and something must be wrong with you if you’re unmarried. This stigma pushes many women just to quickly marry.

So basically the women are punished and sent to prison for defending themselves, but the men are allowed to abuse them with little to no interference from law enforcement.

Interesting that the man who admitted he was violently abusive to his wife ended up with custody of their son.

My dad never hit me. Even if my mom asked him to hit my palm with a rattan stick he chose to hit himself to produce that hitting sound. Thanks to him I know how a man should treat his wife and children. He taught me if a man ever lay a hand on you once you must run for your life, never ever look back though he might cried and kneel and beg for forgiveness. Compassion for these kind of abusers means you're being cruel to yourself.

They say, growing up at a single-parent family might cause psychological problems. Are you serious? You think, being surrounded by violence ever since the day you can remember and seing your father beating your mother day after day has no inpact in the child's mental health?

Daughters seeing their mother’s beat to death is why they refuse to get married when they grow up. They don’t want to be next!!! Duh.

It's just not safe for women anywhere. And most of the time, it's violence in our own homes from Fathers, brothers, husbands, boyfriends...

I always follow my motto: strive to be an independent woman or man. Never become absolutely dependent on your partner. Make it so you can leave the house with your kids anytime you feel is necessary

Abusers don't deserve a place in society 😔💔

Domestic violence should be tried as attempted murder. It breaks my heart to see these women being beaten, raped ,and killed.

Some man are so insecure and jealous of their partner .The only thing they can do was abuse them or killed them. You better off alone than having abusive husband or partner.

You’d think they’d treasure their wives more considering the gender imbalance in China and how difficult it is so get married because of that...

Last year, a husband tried to murder his wife on Rosh Hashan's eve. They fought and she tried to leave. He didn't let her. He stabbed her 20 times and hit her more than 100 times with a rolling pin she used for making bread for the holiday. She screamed for him to take their 1-year-old child away to the room - but he insisted to let the child see and hear everything. He knocked out her teeth and broke her eye sockets, skull and arms. He tried to choke her. He even yelled "Why won't you die?!" at her. Their kid sat in the pool of her blood, screaming. A neighbor heard the whole thing at practically had to break in into the apartment to make him stop. The police took 20 minutes to get there. He took the child and locked himself in the bathroom. After he was arrested, it was ALL OVER the news. The entire country was in shock. He asked the judge to give him a gag order because he thought the whole ordeal would "harm his good reputation as an engineer". THE JUDGE OBLIGED. Everyone was so angry, that some hackers took the matter into their hands and published his name. She was in the hospital for 4 months. HE STILL HAD RIGHTS over the child and HE REFUSED to give permissions for the child's medical care. Our government had to make a new law to take away his rights (a man or a woman that was accused of abuse - has his or her parental rights temporarily removed. If convicted, permanently removed). The Jewish religious court gave her a divorce VERY quickly. Usually, it takes years. His excuse for doing what he did? "She insulted me" It took one horrible case, for some laws to finally change. | Sad.

I was a student in the capital. I fell in love madly with the boy from the capital. Everything was a fairytale. I am European, he was studying abroad before we met, so cultural differences was not as big. But one day..... The demon came out. I didn't know on what planet I am. No one would help me. I was alone in a foreign (this) country, even the police didn't help. They just film him throwing glass bottles at me and my classmate. Stalking me after I ran away, threatening me in the worst possible ways. I was just a student there, no family... He was and is a monster. He crooked my life. I will never forget the blackness of his eyes when the beating started. The last time when I fell into his trap he even abducted me and his own mother helped him to put me, all beaten up in his apartment (with bars on windows, who was in Beijing knows many of building apartments has bars) and locked me in. I don't know to this day how I escaped him. You cant imagine the details. To this day I feel ashamed. To this day my family doesn't know, cept my brother whom I begged not to tell anyone. I haven't believed in evil before i met him. The irony of it all started from love. My life is crooked since but I am grateful he didn't took my life. I can't imagine what would have happened to my family if he did. To this day im silent, as a foreigner to speak out not in favor of a country that gave me much education and many good moments... You know the game. Nevertheless, domestic violence is maybe the craziest thing ever. The one who loves you, destroys you and brake your bones. I hope things will change one day. One day soon. Violence against women is immense. Broken heart, broken thoughts

I know a woman who couldn't get away from her abusive boyfriend, she had two kids with him, when he insisted she marry him, during the reception he started saying derogatory thins as jokes about her, she excused herself to take the kids to the bathroom, and just kept going, straight to the airport, never to be seen by him again

I'm American my ex was emotionally and verbally abusive, u can't explain how low I was. I had no emotions. One day he hit me,I ripped a solid wood shelf off the wall and beat him til my daughter called my sister and she came over. He tried to say he didn't know why I was losing it. My daughter told exactly what happened. I have two other sisters one has been married to her abuser for over 50 years the other has Bern married to her abuser for 35 years. My ex left one year after I stopped the abuse. Best day ever. I'm very happily remarried have three daughters and grandchildren.