Therapists, what is the worst patient you've had because of how messed up their childhood was?

not me clicking this to make sure my therapist didn't spill the tea

The worst thing about this video is you know most of the people who did these things to these kids were not punished at all or hardly at all. We as a society need to stop this NOW.

My mom and dad volunteered at a mental health facility long before I was born. My dad once tried to encourage a 6 year old boy that it was time take a shower and the kid FREAKED. Tried to attack my 6’3” dad and didn’t calm down until someone suggested a bath instead. What NO ONE told my dad was that the kid’s dad would put him in the shower (it had a door), make the water scalding hot, and trap the kid in there

In college I had a professor who was a social worker. He told us a story about a man who had a really sh*tty father growing up. One day the dad took the kid and their dog to the woods and purposefully stomped on the dog's back, breaking it. As the dog was writhing around in agony, the dad handed the kid a plastic bag and said "you're not going to let him suffer, are you?" And walked off. The kid had to suffocate his own dog to put him out of his misery. Just hearing that story traumatized me a bit. I can't imagine what it did to the kid.

28:30 as a victim of childhood sexual abuse, I appreciate that you are advocating against the censorship we face when talking about our struggles. SA and victim blaming are systemic issues, we cannot fight them if we cannot talk about them.

As someone who was severely abused as a child I would like to thank you for bringing awareness even if it is uncomfortable.

The first video... I had to watch as my moms drug dealer boyfriend grabbed my kitten i found, break his neck, and throw his little body to dogs who then mauled the kitten until his organs fell out. I was 7 or 8 years old. I can remember screaming holding him until he took his last breath. Im 30 and it still destroys me. I've had many other horrible things happen to me, including CSA just before this incident, and I'd rather deal with that over watching my only friend get murdered in front of me. It broke me and to this day I have issues with people and lacking empathy for a majority of humans. Now animals.... I'll lay my life on the line for them. Humans.... Naaaaaaaaah!

Trauma has the ability the heighten empathy or remove empathy altogether due to desensitization.

That detransition case is similar to one in the US where a quack doctor used a case where a one boy out of a set of twins had a botched circumcision and pushed to forcibly transition him into a girl. That doctor was trying to push research claiming that it was nurture over nature that determined gender, but he was also falsifying data like how the forcibly-transitioned child generally refused typical girl roles and toys and was more interested in things which generally drew boys' interests. He eventually found out, detransitioned, but unfortunately the mental toll of it all would lead him to take his own life

...This video left me seething angry, at the ..'parents' who treated their children in the worst way possible, but also breaks my heart, at the children who were ruined by their PARENTS. I genuinely hope the 'parents' receive their judgement. Story 16 reminds me of the Canadian case of David Reimer he was born a male but due to a botched circumcision he was then 'raised' as a female, I'm not doing the case justice in this comment. The whole story was an absolute mess and sadly iirc David is gone. It was used as inspiration for a Law & Order SVU Episode. The true case is a horrifying disgrace on so many levels. David deserved so much more.

The undertone in this video is the saddest. Often the most fucked up cases have situations that it's almost impossible for victims to grow out of it, and there is pretty much nothing to lighten the burden for them. Let alone for them to start healing.

Story 16 is actually the lived experience for many intersex people, but the fact that this baby just didn't have a penis the doctors thought was big enough is next level. I think the medical system does changes like these on babies less often now, but I'm sure it still does happen all too often. While trans folks can struggle to get the care we need, intersex children have it decided for them. Different sides of the same coin, but both ruin lives. Don't decide people's genders and sexes for them.

This is why I feel bad for such a stigma surrounding mental illness, you often hear so much negativity about cluster B disorders, especially narcissistic and borderline, like the people were actually born like this and chose to be this way. 98% of the time they are caused by severe trauma and the disorder is a coping mechanism that the nature created to protect these kids sanity. It´s easy to look at someone with NPD and say they are evil, but to be ablo to see them as humans with mental illness is something most people can´t do. It´s hard because they inflict pain on others, but at the same time this is because someone else inflicted the same, maybe even worse pain on them. It´s a tragedy of a human life, not evil.

Sometimes, I wish there was a way to volunteer at places like the orphanage for abused children and just be with them. Not get them to talk about anything, not to try and diagnose them or anything. But to just be a regular adult who comes by and plays with toys with them, colors with them, asks about their favorite color, or even just sits in the room quietly while they stare at the wall just so they have a bit of company. They know why the therapists and doctors want to talk to them. It would probably be nice to have someone who is there to just be with them. It would probably be a good way to foster good relationships with adults and caretakers, but the possibilities for abuse or to accidentally mess with their ability to form attachments/give them abandonment issues is so strong.

This... unfortunately reminds me a lot about my own childhood. I had a bad childhood, and still suffer from problems today, but the things these kids went through... it sounds so much worse for them. From one broken kid to another, my heart goes out to anyone who has been affected by childhood abuse in any way.

About bringing awareness to these stories: I had a fairly suboptimal and traumatizing childhood (not nearly as bad as the stories in this thread though), so violence amd abuse are natural parts of life to me. One time at work, we were joking about being violent in conflicts and I said "nonviolent conflict resolution?that's not how I learnt it at home!" and my boss was shocked and asked me in a very serious tone "really?" - "yep" - "wow, I thought those times were long gone." he answered (I'm 20 and he is 50). I was surprised that violence is a topic so far from reality for him, but honestly, I'm just happy for him that he did not have to endure violence, and it shows. He is one of the nicest, most psychologically resolved and resilient people I know. To all the people saying they turmed out fine in spite of the violence and that we shouldn't complain: you did not turn out fine. Instead of being aware of your problems, you pass them on.

I am very glad my parents "just" ignored me and my issues as soon as I became a weird teenager. Teachers also ignored my issues and schoolmates bullied me into oblivion. I am now 25 and have the self confidence of a queen. I will never be like before. I will always need medication to keep me stable. But it is ok. I am autistic, it turns out, and I deserved nothing of this. I am a good kid and I will do great one day. I have no emotional bonds to my family, but my friends mean everything to me.

Ended up abused as a toddler locked in a restroom with the lights off, starved, and beaten. Later throughout my childhood I broke my left collarbone multiple times. Ended up training in martial arts, and learned self control. Barely saw my dad. Mom was homeless. I lived with my grandparents.

ScoobyDoo taught us: In the end, the real monsters are always humans.

To anyone who needs to hear this today. Your loved I love you Im here for you Its okay Everything in the end will be ok Feel free to vent in the reply comments