7 Signs of an Incompatible Relationship

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The first sign is that you clicked on this video with your relationship in mind lol

me: is in an extremely healthy and happy relationship also me: watches this, you know, just in case

I think the most important lesson I learned as a young adult is that true love goes both ways. You can have someone obsessed with you, who thinks you’re perfect for them, and thinks you’re their soulmate; but if you don’t feel the same way back… there’s no way it’s going to work. Dating someone out of pity is not only insulting, but incredibly harmful to them. If you know it’s not going to work out, just be up front and tell it to then straight. The pain they feel now will fade a lot quicker than the betrayal they’ll suffer if you feign romantic feelings for them.

Me and my ex shared the same views and values about everything. Sadly other than that, all 7 in this video checked out. After the breakup, I learned that the "perfect" relationship does not only require compatibility or similarities - it requires maturity, the conscience to constantly give the best to each other without expecting a thing in return.

At this point, my "the one" is legit our fridge.

Be right back, I’m about to go break up with someone

7 Signs of Incompatibility: 1. You don’t ~get~ each other. 2. You’re too different from each other. 3. You try to change each other, rather than growing & learning together. 4. There is constant or highly frequent arguing & conflict. 5. You attain peace by avoiding all of the problems. 6. Your socializing is isolated from everyone else. 7. You’re not attracted to them.

my ex-boyfriend and i were madly in love and so attracted to each other. but as soon as we started talking about the future (i’m talking work, kids, money, where to live and most importantly values!) our disagreements were really in the way of us being a healthy and compatible couple. one of the most important things out there: please introduce your partner to your loved ones. you can’t possibly know how much it hurt me when he didn’t. when he made me feel like i was not good enough.

It’s crazy how you can love someone so much that is so incompatible to you

Here's the thing.... You actually knew that prior to getting into the relationship. The problem is you convince yourself otherwise.

8. One or both partners let their baggage (like from their past, or insecurities) drain any positivity in the relationship.

The “opposites attract” idea needs to have caution yellow tape wrapped around it very tightly. I married someone who was a polar opposite and at first it was fine it as life became more complex those differences became repeated areas of disagreement and leading toward divorce. We also married very young and didn’t think it through very well.

Summary of the video 1. You don’t get each other 2. You’re too different from each other 3. You try to change each other, not grow and learn together 4. There is constant or highly frequent arguing 5. You attain peace by avoiding all of the problems 6. Your socializing is isolated from everyone else 7. You’re not attracted to them

Being alone is often WAY better than being in a toxic relationship. Sometimes it’s just not worth it. Every situation is different, but we have to be realitic if it is only causing suffering and pain. We have to love ourselves enough to protect ourselves if it is causing more harm than good. Some situations are possible to improve, and some just aren’t. We can change our perspective, but in the end, our mental health has to matter. ♥️

I left my wife after 20 years together. I think being so different to each other eventually found us out. At first, that was the exciting part - surprising each other and learning about our very different backgrounds. We got married about 18 months after we got together and began a family soon after. We had 4 children in fairly quick succession and for 15 years or so, had our hands very full. Once the kids became less dependant on us, we suddenly had a lot more time available for each other but found we had silently drifted during those busy early years. All the while there were nappies, school runs, activity clubs, and all the responsibilities that keep you rushing around, we were fine. Occasionally, you might get a sense that you're not really connecting much as a couple in those years but you lie to yourself a little and convince yourself that it's just because you're so busy with work, bills, the mortgage and the kids...........you tell yourself once the kids are a little older, you can get back to focusing on each other. In our case by then it was too late..........we had become strangers with nothing in common apart from being parents to the same children. It can take a while in retrospect to see all this - it wasn't clear to me at first and initially we would blame each other and look for faults in each other to identify what was causing the problems. Ultimately, I believe if either or both of us had recognised that we were becoming distant from each other and acted sooner by bringing it out in the open, we might possibly have survived by making some lifestyle changes. I think we were both in denial and shied away from what was happening to us, pushed it to the back of our minds until recovery was simply impossible. From my experience, the key is to spot these early signs of disconnect and explore them with each other at the earliest point. Don't ignore them or pretend it's not happening. Whatever your family circumstances might be, the relationship with your partner needs to be nourished and cared for. Even in those hectic times where it might seem right to pour all of your time and effort into other responsibilities and demands of daily family life. I'm one of the few people I know who separated without there being any affairs, drinking, gambling, abuse, etc. Staying together however, when the love has died is just cruel on the kids and indeed each other. It creates a terrible sadness in the home. It's better to part and allow everyone the chance to live life in a healthier home environment. For me it was a tough call but a good call - hard at first but eventually the best option from a situation where feelings of guilt and failure can make it difficult to see straight.. Sorry for such a long scribble but sometimes our experiences may help others.........I'd love to think mine might.

Just ended a 4-year relationship with my best friend- and the love of my life, we were drifting apart for a while, and both were unhappy- but we loved each other so neither had the courage until now... this video helped me set the whole situation into perspective- and even tho we were perfect for each other back then doesnt mean we still are. I am completely heart broken, but we did the right thing

I was extremely incompatible and uncomfortable with my ex and it took me a while to accept it. Trying to express my feelings to him was like talking to a wall, I never ever felt so miserable and misunderstood with someone in my entire life. Then I met my now boyfriend and he's the sweetest person alive, I feel he listens to me and I don't even have to make a huge effort to explain how I feel to him, is like he knows, is like we are like in each other's minds, I feel so blessed that I have him in my life.

The fights have gotten so bad. We’ve swept things under the rug for too many years. Been together for 7 years but felt lost for the last 5. I love him. We both love each other. I don’t understand how I can feel so alone with you right by my side. I’m in a committed relationship but I feel more lonely and isolated than I ever have before. Even living alone on the other side of the country didn’t feel like this. How can I be this lonely with you right by my side?

A relationship is about balance and middle ground. It's not easy but worth the work. I'm lucky in my life to have someone who loved me through all my insecurities and we've grown together over 2 decades.❤