Has a narcissist used THIS manipulative line on YOU?

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"I never said that" "Well , if that's how you chose to interpret it..."

Then they get enraged “that you put words in their mouth.” Now they demand an apology

It's the complexity and nuance of this psychological abuse that makes it so evil. Not only are you suffering, nobody will understand it and will blame you for being too sensitive, a drama queen etc. So you keep it to yourself.

The trauma bonded narcissist in my life has taken so much of me that I have arrived at ‘leaving it all’ as a viable solution to the suffering I’ve experienced for a decade. Be careful people. There are some seriously damaged and cruel people that don’t know themselves and can and will be a wrecking ball in your life, preventing you from deserved happiness. 😢

Narcissistic has an extremely high motor of constant confusion, drama, lying and division. They are relentless and will never get tired of torturing people. It’s truly sickening🤮

„Games of avoidance“ THIS is exactly how I experience it, being forced to mindread, not being allowed to discuss issues.

The reason you can't win is that the game is always unfair. 😮

Didn’t take a job. Stopped seeing my son. Stopped having friends over. Stopped having friends.. Never said I couldn’t but made it impossible.

I'm 47 seconds into the video, but I know this one. Narcs do this type of thing a lit, it's the emotional/psychological equivalent of the kid holding his finger an inch from his sibling's face singing, "I'm not touching you!" (But with malicious intent added). They'll emotionally torture you out of even thinking of doing something and then play innocent.

Before I realized, I was being totally isolated from my family and friends. I had to step back and away from all the Talking Heads to really see what was going on.

What baffles me is that the narc in my life doesn't seem very smart, how is he able to be so completely manipulative and devious? It's pure evil.

Consistently being asked where I am going or where have I been “All day” is the most annoying thing ever

My ex-husband also prevented my parents from visiting us in the same way. He would ask me to invite them, but when they came, he would do everything to make them feel uncomfortable. As a result, they didn't want to come again. When they were supposed to visit, he would get angry even before they arrived, insisting that they shouldn't stay for too long. Then he would get upset that they weren't coming, and when I told him it was because of his behavior, he would say, 'I didn't tell them not to come, where are you getting these ideas from?'

They are masters of being able to "do things in a way that is JUST under the radar, adds to the stress, the frustration, the anger, the confusion, the self blame, the isolation and the general awfulness of these relationships. " nailed it. I've never been able to put this into words that others will understand. Thank you!

I remember no real conversations (2-way) with my mother. I do remember her making comments and then years later she would deny having ever said them. She was a master gaslighter. Having emotions was a big no-no. The one time I remember being hugged seemed like a show for the neighbors.

This is why I try my best to keep things underwraps. I dont want the voice of “hidden” disapproval to affect me and hinder me from living life on my own terms.

They drive your friends and family away and invite their own and expect you to host them. I didn't even realize it was happening. Since I'm in accommodating person I just thought it was normal

Yeap! You nailed it! It never ends! Masters of manipulation! It’s exhausting!

Maybe tell the narc that they did not literally say friends could not come over, but their hostile and aggressive behavior did.