grooms that went too far and ruined the wedding - REACTION

As a woman who was married to a mamas boy for 17 years, ladies, I’m going to tell you to run. She will always get in the way, make excuses for bad behavior and turn on you in the worst way. I’m also the mother of 3 sons, all of who I am very close with. My oldest is married. I step out of the way. I am his beginning, but she is his future. For that, she deserves respect and love.

If they don't respect her autonomy regarding her wedding dress, what else are they not going to respect? That's a big ol' red flag right there that is.

I have a story as a wedding singer!! This took place at the church, we heard it from one of the pianist as to why the wedding got canceled: we noticed at the back of the church that the maid of honor was having a break down. We didn’t think much of it, maybe it was her nerves- when the bride arrives she is adamant about speaking to the bride in private. We’re waiting for the bride to position herself at the start of the aisle so we can begin the music and prelude, but then everyone is thrown off when they see the bride walk through the side doors instead of the main aisle, making her way down to the altar by the mic stand. She announces that the wedding is off, as it was brought to her attention by the maid of honor that she and the groom slept together the night before their wedding. Her maid of honor showed her messages and photos of the deed, and was apologetic because they were both drunk and didn’t mean for it to happen. She insisted that everyone make their way to the venue instead of staying at the church to make sure the food and entertainment do not go to waste. The groom kept trying to talk to her but she ignored him the whole time as she walked out the church and into the limo. Jaws dropped 😭

Cheaters don't cheat before the wedding because of anxiety. They cheat because they think it will be the last time they will be "free," as if getting married to a person who loves them with all their heart is a prison and punishment itself. Op is better off without him if that's how he sees their relationship.

At my Mom and Dad’s 50th Wedding anniversary, she stood in front the 16x20 copy of their wedding photo and said… “I wish your Grandma wouldn’t have made me wear that dress” I didn’t know, until then, that my Dad’s mom picked out the dress and made her wear it. It bothered her for 50 years, and on a day that was supposed to be full of celebration, her heart was broken over her wedding dress. Don’t let ANYONE tell you what to wear.

My mother-in-law considered us married the day I met her son. When it came time to plan the wedding, all she wanted to know was what she was supposed to wear and where she was supposed to be. She said she will put on whatever I give her and she will pay whatever I ask. It has made everything so much easier knowing that she’s just in our corner.

I’ve seen so many stories like the one with the groom still breastfeeding. I saw one where AFTER the wedding, the groom asked if he could bring his mom on their HONEYMOON because she was still breastfeeding him. The bride ended up getting an annulment.

About the wedding dress one: even IF she was ok trying out the other dress, its a MASSIVE red flag that hed try to force it on her. Taking the dress SHE bought with HER money back to the store and replacing it without consulting her is astounding. You could make a sail out of that red flag right there. Obvious signs of gaslighting and narcissism. He holds himself and his mother at a higher value than his fiancee

It's creepy how many moms are so romantically attached to their own sons.

For that second story: the fact that he went behind her back and swapped the dress in his mother's favour would be enough to walk out that door and end the relationship. A partner who is sneaky like that and defies your wishes to push through his own (or his mother's) is not a person you want by your side.

Words to live by from my dad: If someone can do it once, that means they can (and will) do it again.

My mom and grandmother had decided by the time I was 7 that I was getting married in a replica Cinderella wedding dress (animated original not live action) and my husband would be dressed as the prince. I still think it's crazy having such strong visions of your kids' weddings.

The fact the entire family knew he cheated....she was betrayed by them all ....that's horrible.

The second story about the wedding dress: GIRL RUN! If your husband and in-law are running the show this early on, just wait until you guys try to make a life together. YOU should be a priority. YOU are his family now. She’s going to end up divorced or unhappy. Not worth it.

The OP in the last story dodged a major bullet. The accident was a blessing because it exposed him as a selfish asshole and his family as enablers and misogynists. Notice how even in their "apologies" they were still trying to blame OP. How it was her fault he cheated because she stressed him out. Or how the mom tried to say that OP took advantage of her by being mad at her son for cheating. They don't care about her, they're upset because no one will be there to take care of their golden child for them.

I feel so sorry for the girl in the last story. It’s not easy to forgive that kind of betrayal and I hope she does get the closure she needs because it sucks to go through that and only be told “it was just a dumb moment that meant nothing”, and then you realize that they don’t love and think of you in the same way you love and think of them. He’ll always regret that moment, that is for sure, and now he’ll always regret listening to his parents and not coming clean about it earlier himself.

The last one hits home personally. The fact The MIL kept telling her she was "taking advantage" when they should have told her in the first place is gaslighting. They look at it like it is just one time but is murdering someone okay just one time? When you cheat, you are killing that person's trust, love, feelings, peace of mind. They will never be the same after that. You may not murder them physically, but you are murdering them in every other way. Making excuses for it is BAFFLING to me.

Brides mom should go to the groom with the ugliest, most embarrassing, most horrible “tux” he’s ever seen and say “oh I’ve just been dreaming of seeing my daughters husband get married in this, here let me return the one you already got” and see how he likes his wardrobe being dictated.

If the groom's mother wants that dress to be part of the ceremony, the groom should wear it.

Not only does she have to deal with the fact that he cheated, she can't even confront or discuss it with him so she has to choose between staying or breaking up when he's not able-bodied.... the whole family knew...and hid it.... then guilt tripped her for wanting to leave.... She a whole victim. She should leave and get therapy cuz no one was right on their side and she doesn't deserve the lack of support from the family