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Now that I'm an adult I can see that the way my mother raised me really set me up to be a codependent. The way she raised me growing up (to be a people-pleaser, never taught me about boundaries) really made me the perfect target for narcissists and emotional abusers.

Your videos gave me the strength to leave my boyfriend of 5.5 years today... thank you. It was an extremely emotionally abusive relationship

I'm a fixer and selfless. It has brought me nothing but pain the last few relationships. I have allowed my girlfriends to manipulate me and just make me feel like I'm not good enough. Thankfully watching your videos and doing self soothing work has me realizing that I am better off without them. So thank you.

Thx a ton. 1. Self sooth/ love n stand up for ur own wants n feelings. 2. Learn to say no 3. Stop fixing others problems at ur own cost.

People pleasers have to understand including myself that you can’t help a person who doesn’t want to be helped or feels like they don’t need help.

I'm a recovering codependent/empath many failed relationships from unhealthy choices with substance abusers and narcissists. desperate for acceptance and Love my mother was critical ..emotionally absent and verbally abusive. in my sixties now and no longer looking outside for love and validation. I'm free !!!

Thank you for this FREE therapy session the world needs more people like you .

God healed me of the spirit of abandonment. He said He will never leave me or forsake me. He is not like man that He shall lie.

When your putting more effort towards other people's problems or life than they're willing to, that's another sign to me of codependency.

"My happiness is my responsibility." Damn. If only I'd thought that instead of placing happiness on my ex and her behaviours. Dear oh dear. I failed miserably.

I’m CHOOSING to put my past behind me and create a new life to me from NOW ON.

Thank you so much for your help!!!! I can’t afford therapy and you have no idea how much your helping me be so aware!!!

"No one has to agree with me" GIRL. The day i accept this is the day my life changes. I'm not there yet 🤣 This is a POWERFUL video. Thank you 🙏🏾

It's so important for parents to validate their children's feelings. To invalidate them is simply another form of cruelty inflicted on children.

I put up two simple boundaries with my fiancé & he ran off almost a month ago. It hurts so bad that I keep attracting narcs & they mistreat & then discard me. I’m happy for information like this. I realize that I need to heal & work on myself before I ever think of dating. I hate how damaged I am.

Really good information. You cannot give your all to someone unless you have respect for yourself. The idea is to love your neighbour as yourself, not love your neighbour and hate yourselves. Thanks

Took 50 plus yrs, to figure out I can love myself for just who I am and seek people who enjoy my company. Don’t try so hard anymore. Just am enjoying life more...not so worried about the outcome.

4:21 You are responsible for your own happiness, no one else Validate your feelings 5:20 Decide how you want to feel 7:14 STOP! Its not your job to put someone else's needs and wants ahead of your own. 10:20 Know what YOU want, honor yourself, stand up for yourself 11:40 Oxygen Mask Principle 12:05 Let go of the need to fix others 12:49 Understand that Everyone is on Their Own journey 13:29 You can't make anyone happy or make them love you 14:43 You Have To have the Self Awareness of when you are Entering into Codependency - How do YOU feel, What do YOU want?

I am a co-dependent poster child. Grew up never being enough..severe emotional and mental abuse from parents and siblings...I take on everyone's problems..I end up fixing or atleast trying to fix everyone's life and make everyone happy. It's gotten me nowhere. Thank you for this video✨

4 minutes in and I’m already crying. This really hits home. I’m so codependent it’s ridiculous and I feel as if I’ll never be able to break the cycle. I’m trying so hard.