Fear of Confrontation | Stephanie Lyn Coaching

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Its hard to set boundaries particularly having no back up from emotionally immature parents since childhood. I didn't think I had any rights to express my opinion.

If i talked back or tried to stick up for myself, i would get screamed at, threatened, or hit or beaten. I am afraid of authority and confrontation and it has crippled me and stunted my development and life.

you know what's sickening when you tell people what bothered you, and you Tell them what you wish they would do, and they do exactly what you ask them not to... Toxic people live for that, stepping over your Healthy Boundaries I've learned to remove myself gracefully and humbly....

“Be the person you want to attract” love it

I'm literally terrified of standing up for myself. When someone confronts me I feel my heart sink into my stomach and I get anxiety and I try to please and appease the other person. As if it weren't enough I keep on going over it in my head for months/years!

Narcissists and toxic people hate any feedback they perceive as negative, even when putting it in "I" statements. Anything that isn't about them sets them off.

I'm almost 30 and just learning how to do this. It is very difficult because I've always "let things go" and I'm the only miserable one. Here's to my 30's.

As a man, I refrain from standing up to myself because it would be an acknowledgment of the hurtful action. If I remain quiet, it gives me a sense of security in the sense that it did not affect me. However, I've learned that this is cowardly and there's nothing more empowering than recognizing when something in fact has hurt you and standing up for yourself.

I clearly remember sitting at the top of the stairs many a night listening to my parents yelling at each other and feeling sooooo sad and alone.

It is true: I spend 99.9999% of my time venting to my friends & loved ones about somebody who wronged me, said something unjust unfair about me, to the point that my friends & loved ones get angry at me and distance themselves from me, rather than confronting the person who wronged me.

I think that, unfortunately, enemies can sense when you are struggling to define yourself and in those situations you find out, by standing up, who your friends really are.

I am 58 years old and have finally figured out how to handle confrontation in a positive gentle way to show how I feel without hurting the other person and still getting across what I need and want. Being kind and gentle but firm. I love myself 😍

Yess to all of this!! I can’t believe at the age of 45, I am just now developing self worth/confidence. I was always fearful of confrontation or rocking the boat out of FEAR... fear the person would not agree, leave or the relationship would end; platonic and romantic. Confrontation is an unavoidable part of life... I feel so free ending co-dependent, people pleasing and fearful behaviors... Avoiding the possibility of the relationship/friendship ending and keeping them together at ALL costs IS NOT WORTH IT!!! 💖

This is all spot on. The confusing part to me is that in my experience most people do not like being disagreed with. The moment i voice my feelings that don't agree with someone else they get offended and in some cases will never speak to me again. It's a challenge to be true to yourself and voice your feelings when there are so many people that just are incapable of having a constructive conversation that disagrees or challenges their behavior.

This is an issue I struggle with and never was taught how to speak up for myself in a healthy way.

Communication between people ,is the most important skill.

Sadly I'm still learning how to do this.

You said two things: A person who fires back at you - a person who you never talked to. Let's do one: That person "Sue" has anxiety, processing issues, misunderstands... Sue bites my head off over a simple conversation or me stating my thoughts. I am not at fault for this. I will now keep Sue at a distance and protect myself. That is how controlling people control- they bite our head of so that we don't stand up for ourselves again. With someone like Sue, I will avoid for my sanity. I am the nice loving empathetic person. I will not be abused by those like Sue again. Sure, I can call her out for this - I will if I have to live with her, however, if not, I am staying away from an abusive person who doesn't let me have a normal discussion and talk freely. It is not my ego, it is that someone else has issues and takes it out on me. Yes, their problem, but I will stay away from them. Normal people like me do speak up for ourselves. Boundaries save my sanity.

More like fear of not being liked. Once you overcome that, life becomes easier. I'm glad my narc ex was a tool the universe gave me to teach me to heal my childhood wounds and become who I was meant to be.