My Honest Advice for Young Men

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Published 2024-03-24
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Becoming a man of value is no easy feat, but it doesn’t mean you have to continue to drag yourself from dumpster fire to dumpster fire in search of success and respect.

There are better ways—ways that I wish I knew about when I was a young man chasing parties, and women, and social status.

So listen up my dudes, in this video I’m sharing all the best ways to build self-esteem and earn respect. And do it in a way that you’re proud of.

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All Comments (21)
  • @niksatan
    I usually hate BS self-help and "life coach" landscape, but you are the one exception, thx Mark
  • @zalseon4746
    Thank you for including "just try damn it", i spent 13 years trying to become an engineer and it's finally happening. I graduate this summer and start work. I was told I would never make it in the military. I served in the Army for 8 years and that's how i funded my education. Seriously people, just try. You're a lot stronger and smarter than a lot of bad people want you to realize.
  • @naobolliger9188
    Thank you, Mark❤ I'm a 54 year-old mother of a 29-year old son who goes through a bit of rough pach of his life, I see this fantastic summary of advise that I couldn't put together by myself! I just sent this message to my son. First, you helped me with your book years ago and now defnitely my son... you are f-ing awesome😎 Thank you again, Mark!❤
  • @itsmefungus
    I'm pushing 29 this spring, but I don't think My younger self would have listened you with this mindset I have built up recently. All it took was a harsh break-up and I needed to value life a little better. I started working out finally in My life, I have been obese for the better part of 13 years and at My highest peak at the moment. I still consider myself "young" and best of all, motivated. Left my shitty Job and applied for school, got to school at the start of this year, hitting the gym and focusing better on what shit I'm stuffing through my mouth. I randomly saw one of your experimental videos with public anxiety, wich I can't relate to, but ever since have been watching you and listened to all the pods? I love you Mark and I thank you for all the inspiring words that you share and you give a nice grasp on life, of how to lack a little shit to give. Thank you ❤
  • @CrystleDragon
    As a woman, I found this video useful to understand men a little better. I also learned some stuff for myself. Like, yeah. I do complain too much. It's how I process things, but I realize I do it a lot, and I gotta work on that. Also: nothing is hotter than a man who is emotionally mature and supportive, imo.
  • @mrnaizguy
    I discovered you at 19 and started to binge your books and online content. Now I'm 26. Got my education in check, got a relationship with the most wonderful woman that I couldn't even imagined back then, immensely grew my confidence and emotional maturity and managed to untangle all the emotional baggage and mental health problems that I had. You were and are a big help in that journey. Thanks Mark.
  • @musicbysazid
    00:00 🌟 Define your usefulness to the world as a young man to become a net positive for society. 00:58 💑 Choose a long-term partner wisely as it significantly impacts all aspects of your life. 02:52 🕰 Value in a man compounds slowly over time; focus on long-term growth rather than short-term gratification. 03:51 💡 Continuously educate yourself beyond formal schooling, focusing on life skills and emotional health. 06:10 🚫 Earn respect by giving it unconditionally and focusing on bringing value to others. 07:41 🔄 Build self-awareness by understanding your motivations, fears, and behavioral patterns. 08:12 💪 Seize the opportunities and freedoms available today by taking action and continually pushing yourself t
  • @SouryChery
    He saved almost every young men from scrolling hundreds of improvement video by just 10 minutes. Truly legend.
  • @vonmoose5285
    Love the message, Mark. As a child-free woman, I sometimes feel like I'm in the same boat. I have to prove my value as I've chosen to forgo an expectation of my gender. More men, young and old, need to hear words of support that will guide them to be better rounded people and not just chase the clout.
  • lol I burst into tears at "just try". It definitely sometimes feels like trying is nowhere near enough, this is a nice reminder that trying is all you really can do. I love Ted Roosevelet's idea of the man in the arena. Thanks for this, and many other lessons Mark. Will be returning to this one periodically.
  • @tomsterbg8130
    Cringing at your past self is the best way to know you've grown up. Thank you for reminding me this with your last few lines!
  • @risenmeqs9806
    As a 25 years old guy, i love your message! I am always on the "improve" path, go to the universiy, have a good paid job, workout alot, eat healty, en try to be better with woman. But sometimes i dont know more where i live for. Your videos helps me alot with my journey, and it confirmed me tht i am on the good way. Thank you for sharing this
  • @spennythespoo
    Regularly watching your content is one of the most uplifting parts of my day. Thank you, Mark! ❤
  • What I absolutely loved about this video is how well it relates to young women as well. Really high-value content.
  • @myjourney9730
    Oh god, I wish I had this video when I was 16. I’ve had to figure out a lot in the last 2-3 years, and after looking back at the people I use to be considered worse than just a year ago and am now held in a higher regard comparatively, the work I’ve put in over the last year is just starting to bear fruit. I didn’t cut out, but stopped feeding into the drama loop cycles that a lot of my old friends fell into. I didn’t cut anyone out, but I stopped engaging in the pointless drama cycles and it’s insane how much you can learn about yourself just by choosing to observe the toxicity of others rather than feed the cycle out of boredom.
  • Mark u have literally Changed my whole mind and the way I used to think about everything. In the midst of bullshit advices that roams around the internet You'r advice, Opinions are Legit Real life practical things... Thanks for everything.
  • Thanks Mark, 23 myself. Was going to skip the ad but something told me don't. I am a master in self sabotage right now. Therapy has been something on my mind. Again,I am grateful for your contant. Grateful for finally pushing me over the edge, and thankful for having found you.
  • @akashjagtap108
    My life has changed since I started watching your channel . Thank you mark💯
  • @mrtheozzy6227
    It's a blessing meeting you, Mark. 🙏🏿✌🏿🤝🏿