How Your Birth Order Shapes Your Marriage - Dr. Kevin Leman

My husband and I are both first born and have been married 51yrs. I chose him due to the fact he was a Christian and we both went to the same church. He has always been my rock but we both think our way is best. It has been a challenge at times but I tend to give in more than him. Our marriage has always been our main focus. He was also a Marine when we got married which fits in with his need to have his way and I understand. I feel so safe knowing we will continue to grow old together ❤️

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've learned that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years back, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to work things out. It was a hard time, but we got past it.

I’ve always been interested in birth order. It’s not an exact science, but birth order is more about family dynamics and roles than anything. Each child is born into a different family.

Ive ALWAYS ALWAYS been introduced by ny 2 older siblings to there friends (im the youngest) as their “baby sister” in my much younger years id get so offended and blurt out “im not a baby!” LOL even to this day im hitting 50y/o in a few months and Im STILL introduced to people by my sisters as their baby sister. It use to be annoying in my adolescent and teen years but now as a grown woman i adore it and will forever keep and hold that title❤️

I read his book, first born here. I read myself, it’s great for understanding yourself and it makes you aware in order to smooth things in a relationship.

It’s much more than birth order it’s more the way we were treated by parents and the role that is assigned to us by parents especially if they are narcissistic toxic parents. The first born gets it the worst

I’m a first born. But I’ve had learning disability and difficulties in my growing up years. That I gave my birth order rights to my sister the middle child. I’m still older but I listen to her like she’s the first born. And she definitely has a first born kind of personality too. I married a first born. He’s definitely as you described! And UGH!! It’s so annoying!!!!! Edited:::::::::: OH!!!!!!!!! My mom was not only criticizing and critical of me the older child. She was abusive towards me. Not my siblings. ( because I definitely frustrated her as an ADHD child, before there was a diagnosis for this). So it makes sense why my middle sister is the “older sister”

🎉Judgment pushes you apart, feelings bring you together.

Happy Summer! Love these videos with your folks!

I miss Dr Lemans podcast. His wisdom speaks to me.

I read his book around 20 years ago and always share birth order with people I know.

Thank you . This is so helpfully!!

This is understandable. We are a lot about our environment. It does condition and wire us into different perspectives and personalities. And that all begins in the family setting so this resonates with me.

I am the youngest of four and we are pretty close in age, I am not a manipulator and I definitely am the organizer of the family!

My hubby and me have been married for 22 years both first born. He is 4 years younger than me. He is my little brothers age. He had 3 younger brothers. He is a PK. This is both of our second marriages. He had one kid I have one kid. The kids as kids when together fought like cats and dogs. But would defend each other to any other. I was single mom for 13 years.

What a great book. I need to get another copy of it.

My husband is the eldest and ONLY boy no matter how you slice it. He has a step dad and a step mom - all girls before and after him (10 women siblings). I’m the youngest (baby) 2nd born girl and have 1 older brother. I was the kid who usurped my brother in most ways because of my mother’s critical eye. It pushed me to get the heck out and do something, anything, well. He took longer to get started but is doing well now! Even though I keep telling him to demand a raise he deserves 🙄😂, he is doing rlly well. I’m super proud of him ❤

I read the book a year ago - I found it interesting. I am excited to come across and watch this discussion...

Amazing 👏🏼

Im so excited about this..i always knew this in my mind, I'm a second born who knew i can't get married to a 2nd 3nd or 4th born i got married to a 1st born and the relationship is so easy.