Answering Questions About Adoption!

As an adopted child im so happy to see this content. I was adopted at the age of seven months and its the best feeling ever to know that you’re „tummy parent“ love you so much, that they choose to give u a better life. Selflessness! And when I see people like you who are ready to give someone like me a better life, it truly makes me believe in the good of people :) Can’t wait to see the video titled „ Our Baby is here“! Much love :)

My parents adopted my youngest sister. I’ll never forget they had a special ringtone (it was a baby crying) for the birth mother. One day we were all sitting watching tv together, the phone rang, and since it was such a a distinct ringtone we all immediately started crying because we KNEW it was time!! So excited for you both to get “the call!”

As a birth mother, hearing how respectful you’ve been talking about your own future birth mother brings tears to my eyes. Giving up my baby girl was the #1 hardest most traumatic experience I have ever experienced. I can’t speak for all birth mothers but I’ve always felt that my job as her mother was to keep her safe and healthy, and I knew the only way I was going to be able to do that was to find her parents who would be able to care for her in all the ways I couldn’t. Any birth mother would be so blessed to have you guys care and love on their baby with the same intensity as them. I’m following along on the edge of my seat! Also just as a suggestion, I would urge you to think about providing mental health care for the birth parents if it’s not already provided my the adoption agency.

Hi Bella! I'm a lactation consultant and it is pretty awesome y'all are adopting a newborn, I just want you to tell you that you can nurse your baby thru a lactation induction, you won't have colostrum but your body can produce mature milk! You can look into it, it takes time but it all depends on the mom

I'm not being shady to other YouTube young families, but, you guys seem the most mature and taking parenthood seriously is just beautiful to watch.

Intro - 0:00 Why did we end up choosing adoption? - 2:56 When did we start the adoption process? - 5:54 Have you found a baby yet? - 8:00 What age and what gender are we looking for? - 8:55 What race is your baby going to be? - 9:58 How soon could you be matched with a baby? - 11:00 How are you preparing for a baby? - 13:08 (Quick Question: Do you guys want to see a nursery tour? - 13:25) Are we doing a domestic or international adoption? - 14:34 Could you potentially get twin babies? - 15:33 Are you going to be doing more fertility treatments in the future? - 16:22 What bothers you the most with adoption? - 18:18 Are you going to tell your kid that they're adopted? - 20:34 hesitant

As an adoptive parent - just wanted to share some things I’ve learned regarding language 😌 the more person centered name for the birth mother at THIS stage would be “expectant mom” as she is still in the process of making the decision to place her child. Additionally, a more appropriate phrase for “giving up” is “placing” or “placed the child.” Just thought I’d share what I learned ❤️

I’m an adoptive Mama and I can attest that the moment you set eyes on your baby...your heart grows so full. Adoption was how God planned to expand our family and I can’t imagine life without our daughter. I know you will feel that way too!

First off, I'm generally a silent viewer but I couldn't help but respond to this video. I have been watching y'all since C19 hit and I've stuck around through all of the content you posted. from pranks to the devastating news of infertility to finding out about your adoption. I have stayed around because you guys are soo inspirational!! you guys handled every high and low with hope and thankfulness. you guys deserve the world and every inch of happiness that this baby will bring you!! Next, I'm so excited for you guys!! I was adopted and as an adoptee I know personally that it will mean the world to your baby when he or she grows up to know that you documented your whole journey!! My parents documented my adoption and we have a tradition that every year on the day I was adopted we watch the videos so that they can relive that precious moment and so I can see what I don"t remember. You guys will be amazing parents and examples to the little baby that you will get bless!! and remember that everything is in God's Plan!

I highly recommend reading the book “The Primal Wound” so that you are completely prepared for what the experience is like for your baby. You will be amazing parents, I am sure. This will just help you to be even better. An adopted child has some special things you want to be aware of and prepared to work through.

I just wanna say I’m adopted with my twin sister from Russia & my parents went back 4 years later to adopt a boy who was from another Russian family. I now live in Florida and have been raised by them since I was 18 months. I’m 24 now & I couldn’t be more grateful. I’ve known my entire life that I was adopted, and my mom journaled through the entire process and I still have it to this day. Watching your process and your story has made me appreciate my family more than I ever did. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and willing to bring a loved baby into your home. It’s such a good feeling to be “chosen” and wanted so badly. ❤️

A mantra that I absolutely love is: “Biology doesn’t make you family. Love does” That is the beauty of adoption ❤ 😘

I’m just over joyed that y’all are adopting! Y’all will be the absolute best parents! Being a mom doesn’t always mean being pregnant for 9 months! God works in great ways!!

As a mother of two adopted children, I'd like to speak into this, if I may. First, I'm so, so happy for you! We also struggled with many years of infertility and loss and have walked the same road you're on. (Sometimes it just helps to know that someone else truly knows where you're coming from.) Second, I feel the need to address the idea that holding that baby in your arms for the first time is exactly like giving birth to them. For me, the reality was that it wasn't the same. Don't get me wrong, It was amazing and beautiful, but there wasn't an instant connection and it did take me awhile to develop entitlement and fully feel like he was mine. A lot of that was influenced by a birth family (not the birth mom herself) who wouldn't give us space so we could gel as a family. Because of this, I felt like I was babysitting long term, rather than being a mother. But we eventually stepped away from contact with the birth family for a time so we could form the proper attachments and then we resumed contact with just his birth mom. Today we have a GREAT relationship with his birth mom, she calls on me like I'm her big sister, and we can talk for hours. (Our son is now 22 years old.) The good news is that when we took that time and stepped away, we DID form those bonds and it BECAME the beautiful thing it was intended to be. Your experience my be exactly as your friends have described, but should you find yourself with the same sort if feelings I had, know that it's very normal and give yourself some grace and some time. And perhaps consider giving yourself some space by stepping away from the baby's birth mom/family for a bit to allow for that to happen. Because it will. It could possibly just take a bit. Third, our son is biracial (black/Hispanic, although he leans heavily toward the black side) and my husband and I are both very white. We didn't care if our baby's skin was the same color as ours either, but know that having a child of another ethnicity does come with some issues. Random people will stop you in the store and try to pry into your business and think it's ok to ask very personal questions. Sometimes I answered questions and sometimes I didn't, because it just wasn't any if their business. My favorite answer to give to the question, "Are you his real mom," was, "Oh yes, I'm not imaginary!" Every adoption journey is different and every story is unique. Both of our children's situations were different and they were each miraculously brought to us. We've done our very best to be the parents God has called us to be and we are SO VERY BLESSED to have our precious kids. We wouldn't trade them for anything in this world...even children born from our bodies...and we love them dearly and fiercely. May your journey be quick and the way be blessed.

Bella talking about how she’s open to all races and how beautiful she thinks all races are made me tear up a little. as a black person, it’s not often you hear ppl outside your race speak positive about other races, in a world full of hate, & racism. y’all are literally gonna be the best parents ever and i can’t wait to see you with your baby❤️

as someone who is adopted, you guys documenting their journey personally in your family would be amazing.

As a child that was in foster care and then adopted I can’t express how excited I am for you both and your new child . Good luck to you because it won’t always be easy . You both seem like genuinely good people and soon to be parents . ❤️

I love when Bella said “things I would have taken for granted if I didn’t go through this journey.” We experienced 2+ years of infertility. And now I have a miracle 5 month old. Whenever he throws up on me or wakes me at 2 am or cries in the car, I just feel this overwhelming sense of “this is what I longed for.” It makes the worst days as a mom still feel like the best day ever. So happy for you guys! ♥️

My sister and I are both adopted, and I watched my mom struggle with infertility for years. I have also placed a child for adoption, and it was a great decision for that time in my life that I have never regretted. Knowing that I was giving a baby a better chance at a good life is a good feeling, and you will be that for your future child. You guys are going to be the most incredible parents, and I am so excited to watch your journey unfold❤

I’m so excited for you both! I was adopted at 7 months from Guatemala! I’m so appreciative of my adopted parents for giving me a better life here in the US rather than the rural area I was from in Latin America. Something I admired from this video was how you both said you’re going to raise the child to know about their culture and embrace it. I didn’t know much about Latin American culture as a kid which left me feeling very uncomfortable in who I was in many aspects simply because I didn’t understand. My birth mom was never really talked about and was referred to as “the lady” and all I know to this day about my bio dad is that he was from Mexico. As I got older, I decided to go on a self discovery journey and even learned Spanish and the rest of my culture. Most importantly I’ve learned to love my Hispanic heritage. So just hearing you guys say you’re gonna raise your kid from a young age to understand where they come from so they will be culturally aware and appreciate their roots from the very beginning was like music to my ears. That will seriously reduce identity crisis later on. U guys are going to be the best parents. 🤍