7 Stages of a Long Distance Relationship

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Published 2020-09-28
Long-distance relationships are extremely common. An estimated 75% of college students will be in a long-distance relationship at some point during university. While some long-distance relationships start out that way when couples meet online, this video focuses on the transition from close-distance to long-distance relationships. That being said, the last three stages apply to any type of long-distance relationship. So, here are 7 stages in a long-distance relationship.

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Writer: Carley Swanson-Garro
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Storyboarder: Yi Lin
Animator: Ben Carswell
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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All Comments (21)
  • @kkimda5781
    If you're in long distance relationship, remember: PewDiePie and his wife were in LDR too, and now look at them <3
  • @DontBemadAtMePls
    Who else is in a long distance relationship just miss her or him so much and watches this video ?
  • @ally6233
    If you’re feeling doubtful, here are some pros of LDR: 1. You learn to really cherish moments together because they are rare - every time you see each other feels like a vacation 2. You get to focus on yourself and build up your life knowing you have their support whereas it can be easy to get lost in a traditional relationship and lose sight of your life separate from theirs 3. You learn to communicate really well because sometimes communication is all you have when you’re apart
  • @Abhishek-vz6ud
    Funny how i overcame my long distance realtionship challenges. We were about to breakup. Both of us held grudges. But then i accidently found this couple quiz game. I think its called lovify. Its a 2 round game, first you answer then your partner has to guess. Got to know my partner well. Maybe sometimes we are just finding reasons to break it and not to save it. All LDR couples, trust me when you finally get to meet, Its gonna be awesome :)
  • @allysondelaguila9010
    Long distance is even harder when you have no friends 😞 All I want is a hug from my bf 🥺
  • @rinabobina8453
    To give someone some hope: My husband and i started out long distance and next May will be 10 years since we been together.🥰🥰🥰
  • @zara_went_aesthetic1612
    Me and my boyfriend met online about almost 2 years ago. We lived on different continents so we never thought dating was an option. We were like best friends and talked all day. A year later we decided we want to be together despite the distance. Although it’s been hard, we made it work. I think it was a good thing because we fell in love with each other before we even entered a physical relationship. I moved to the same continent 3 months later for college. We were still in different countries but same time zone and it wasn’t as far. It’s been almost a year of us dating. Next month he’s flying here to meet me for the first time. If you really want it, great things can happen :))
  • @radwa1879
    I'm in a long distance relationship with the man of my dreams. At first it was extremely difficult for both of us because we didn't really know how to communicate well to each other but we figured it out. We always spoke on the phone whenever we had free time, tell each other about our days, talk about any doubts we had and reassured each other. Another thing that surprisingly helped was getting each other small gifts so the other person knows you're thinking of them or even sending letters! We would also visit each other once or twice a year if we could. Now we're both getting married and I feel like our relationship couldn't be stronger. Long distance relationships teach you to be vulnerable with each other and give that extra attention
  • @maxroonie
    Don’t lose hope me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years we finally met this year.. it was the best.
  • @Raja-bz4yw
    I'm currently in a long distance relationship...i love him a lot. :) He's a great guy and I hope we stay together for a long time.
  • @HachiHiki
    I met my girlfriend through the internet back last year. We dated for 6 weeks until she decided that she couldn't do this long distance relationship thing. We started dating again back in January and I can tell a lot of stories about it. But the thing that makes our relationship so special is how proud we can be of each other if we genuinely reach a point in the future where we can wake up next to each other every morning one day. I've already visited her twice. And I'm going again in October and she is coming over in December for christmas. If you, who is reading this right now, are in a long distance relationship, then always think of how proud you can be of yourselves for committing to such a thing that requires lots of determination.
  • @jasonprechtl8182
    Me and my current girl have known each other for going on 9 years now. For 8 of them we had not EVEN seen each other in person. After going through my share of relationships I had tried LD relationship before but nothing has compared to this!! That feeling of being in person, weather its different cities, different states (my case) or even different Countries!! Seeing your beautiful and loving significant other is one of the best feelings I have ever experienced. After all the time of listening to her voice and imagining how'd it feel to hold her in my arms I finally got the chance. That bus ride to her took FOREVER!! Now though, 9 years in the making, we will be finally be residents of the same state! (may sound corny but so what ;)). No more of "how is the weather there?" "I wish you were here..." or "you should have seen what happened!!" To all who took this approach to love I salute you because just as I've experienced, when you are truly in love distance is just a state of mind.
  • @benazirsultana2612
    "There they are going out with friends when can't even eat properly because you miss them so much" that really hits different 😭
  • @maddicatxo
    Did long distance for 19 months and it was never easy. If you have enough love for that person and strong will you can make it through. We constantly were reminding each other that the distance was temporary and we would be together soon. We ended up marrying each other and now almost two years later we’re happily spending our lives together. To all those out there with long distance relationships, stay strong and focus on the finish line❤️
  • @lilbubbletea5293
    I recently found myself in a long distance relationship. In a way, this video was comforting to see that what I am feeling can be felt by many others in LD relationships. My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months now and we have definitely went through our ups and downs. We met in person last month and it was honestly the best two days I could have asked for. But as an overthinker, I tend to get in my head when something feels off or when we get into small arguments. I am afraid i developed codependency being in our relationship and it makes me scared. I just wish I could stop overthinking and feeling this pain in my chest :( This is my first relationship and everything feels so new and overwhelming sometimes.
  • @littleflowers7678
    My girlfriend and I have been long distance for over a year after we had been in a close-distance relationship for six months. Through this experience, I've found that although I miss being able to physically meet up with her, I feel like both of us have learned a lot during our time apart. One of our biggest challenges was during a time when she began feeling unsure about our future and despite these doubts, which I had at times as well, we talked about it and worked through it. I'm saving up money to visit her before the next academic year and we're planning on going camping!
  • @jamilylaipoon1101
    Im in a LDR and the most heartbreaking part is the parting. I'm so tired of being separated with him everytime. It sucks but after LDR you'll be the toughest couple ever❤️
  • @thefairydina
    A long distance relationship is super hard to maintain, but if you do manage and ultimately find a way to live together, it’s the best test that any couple can go through. We started dating long distance with my boyfriend, it was hard for months, but when he finally could move to my country (France) we were SO IN LOVE and knowing each other SO MUCH for having spent countless hours on the phone talking… that nothing could break us apart. Now we’ve been happily living together for more than 3 years and I still love him more than I ever loved anybody, and feel loved the same way ❤️ Sending force and courage to every couple going through that hard trial, believe me… it’s worth it ❤️ Edit: 6 years together tomorrow, and counting ❤️ hold on to your special someone everyone!
  • @African_Yoga_Girl
    Currently in a LDR! I never thought it was going to be so hard. Because we both supported each other emotionally and physically. I have felt all of these stages and I can say it’s worth it when the two of you stay committed to each other regardless of the distance. To those of you starting out on this journey, don’t let the break up rates and statistics discourage you. Communicate with your partner, trust them and you stay committed on your part. Spice up your relationship too, dates night, movies or even read something etc., it’ll make your bond stronger and make you fall in love all over again! Sending you all my love!!!❤❤❤❤❤