Postpartum Psychosis Tragedy: When the Health System Fails Mothers | ENDEVR Documentary

This is a topic I knew nothing about. Absolutely nothing. I know a little more now. And that’s a good thing. Hope you get more insight. I won’t say: enjoy because this is harrowing nevertheless so important. I sincerely hope all who need it, get the help and support they deserve. Reach out if you need help. Please. And if you hear someone crying for help, go for it. Help.

To the man that said "husbands should get involved immediately if your partner seems distressed". THANK YOU !!!!

Unless you’ve lived postpartum depression/psychosis, you can’t begin to believe how horrible it really is.

Back in 1991 my mother had me and when I was 3 months old she was pregnant with my brother, she had a horrible second pregnancy and birth. Back then my dad wasn’t conscious of how depressed she was, but he knew there was something wrong. He asked my mothers younger sister to come and help my mom during the day cook/clean and watch the babies so my mom could rest. When he would get home he would out us to sleep and let my mom rest. They both agreed to not have any more babies and he took her on afternoon walks without us so she can focus on herself. 30 years later my mom says “that man saved my life, we had no idea I had postpartum depression, but he took care of me” that proves to me that when a man loves you and cares he will find a way!

Some women are single mothers even when they live with their spouses.

My wife in tears one night came to me and begged me not to hate her. She then with self hatred told me about the thoughts she was having. We then took steps to keep our child safe while we got her talk therapy that led to chemical therapy. She is now years out and looks back at that as a real close call. Thankfully she was strong enough to tell me. No shame and it all worked out ok. Happy healthy mom and child.

"She was a better wife than I was a husband". You got that right.

This poor woman was taking care of 3 babies 24/7 day and night. One baby would go to sleep and the other 2 would start to cry. All day and night. And their living space was a garage??? Imagine being stuck inside that cramped space with 3 babies, doing it all on her own.

I remember waking up to my wife crying standing over me and she couldn't get words out so I ran to the crib and my baby girl was crying so I picked her up and sat down and my wife said she doesn't know how people do this because she hadn't slept in a week. I calmed her down and called out of work and I gave her a 5mg edible and my wife slept for 12 hours. I was alone with the baby for the first time just me nobody to help just me like all moms do daily. That one day left me exhausted. When mom woke up I told her to go get us food we ate and went to a park and I told her I was sorry for not noticing how hard being mom was and I told her we can take turns every day staying up with the baby so nobody is so tired they get burned out and my wife cried and agreed. The one day I was alone I was quickly hit with the fact that being a mom is a hard task. I literally did anything I could to make it easier for my wife I would cook clean after work and just let her relax and do things she did before we were parents. I was so worried about my wife's mental well being. I still over here my wife saying what I do as a dad and her friends angrily say they never get the help I give and the truth is I was terrified that my wife might break from exhaustion and the real grind of just being a mom. I made sure that my 2 girls were ok (mom and baby). My wife is really a great mom. That night she woke me up crying always pops in my head I feel that was a moment where had I not stepped up and did my part my wife may have suffered something terrible. I will give my life for my girls so I will always do what I can to keep us a happy family. It's ok to speak about this stuff. To the men who see this, working doesn't mean you are done for the day. Get up get coffee and help your wife! Just let her sleep and eat a whole meal without stopping. You may be able to stop something like this. I love being a dad and I will do anything my wife asks to make being a mom easier on her.

We are not designed to raise children alone without help. We are not designed to go months or years without sleep and provide 24/7 care. We are meant to raise children in a village because it is a mammoth task. Something we all need to ask ourselves. When tragedy happens, everyone says “Oh if only they had called me and said they were struggling. I would have helped”. But would you? I struggled after the birth of my two children. I asked for help. From friends, family and the local baby health nurse. If I’d said I was going to harm my kids, maybe someone would have helped. But I didn’t. I told people I was exhausted and hungry and could they look after the baby for a few hours. But time after time I was told people were busy, or tired or had other commitments. I was told I’d be ok. Just sleep when the baby sleeps. Don’t worry about cleaning. But when does the cleaning get done? When does food get cooked? Don’t wait for a tragedy to help parents in need. We could prevent these things happening if we normalise EVERY mother, every parent, needing help to raise their children.

I'm 32 years old and I choose to be child free because I know damn well I won't be able to handle being a mother. I already deal with severe mental disorders so I can't even imagine raising children. May those babies rest in peace ❤

OMG her husband INFURIATES me. So while she was having a meltdown (at 53:05) he decided to work on his car outside?!? And then left?!? I have a feeling that he did not even call her mom. Also even if he did, what good would that do? That's just him putting the responsibility onto yet another woman instead of putting on his big boy pants and helping his wife with HIS children.

I thought I was a tough woman until I had a child. The sleep deprivation, trying to heal my own childhood wounds while wanting to keep my son safe in this dark world. At times, I thought I would crumble into pieces. I bathed only when I had to. People have no idea how fragile the psyche is. RIP to those babies, help Mommies all over the world. 🙏🏾

“I knew she was sick; I knew there was something wrong with her…” Yeah- it’s called having 3 babies in 3 years. Anyone who has not done it, has no idea how hard it is.

My father treated my mom terribly when she stayed home with us. He expected her to handle all of the cooking, cleaning, and childcare, and would scream at her all night if she did the slightest thing to set him off. I am forever grateful that she made it through and kept us safe.

If your child calls you that many times, pull over the effing bus and answer your phone. Her mother failed her. Her husband failed her. She is a victim too. She asked for help and no one helped her. She was sick. We do not take care of mothers.

That father is just as responsible for their children's fate as Carol.

I can’t stop thinking how all of this could have been avoided if he would have hugged her and said “I got this honey, go relax and I’ll look after them now”

Anyone notice when the husband was describing the dynamics of the home and how much Carol had to do at home it's like it finally hit him.......just how difficult it must have been for her doing 95% (most likely loo%) of the home care and child care by herself. He had to take his hat off, scratch his heat and look around with "ohh damn" look! He didn't help her at all!

This is just absolutely heartbreaking. Carol was exhausted, malnourished, overworked and suffering! I wish someone had recognized her pain and struggle. This didn't have to happen.