How Narcissist Betrays YOU to Become Himself (Compilation)

These people appear to be so normal when we meet them but they are really not well mentally.

You know that you are not the narcissist when you are able to watch these videos and deeply try to understand what’s happening. They will never listen to videos like this and if they do, it is to insult you. They hate the truth about themselves.

The first sign the flip has begun is the stare. You’ve done absolutely nothing and yet you wake up and they have a different look on their face you’ve never seen. Almost a disdain. That’s the first sign.

After a while, you start to notice a huge difference in their personality from when you first met them. The more comfortable they get, they will say things to let you know exactly who they are and what they are doing. When you are blamed for something or things that you didn't do, they are doing those things or feeling that way. Watch the actions and listen.

Exactly the way you describe, my husband of 32 years knew he has to leave his fantasy life (with his side trash in another city), and come back “home” as he called it, when his cancer got bad so I could take care of him during what turned out to be his last 4 months. I took great care of him even though he tried to destroy me on his way out, he lost. It’s now 10 months since he died, and I’m still dealing with the emotional mess of it all, however, peace and healing are slowly replacing chaos and torture now, it’s a good start

Being with my ex narc for the past 6 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

This is so spot on. My husband of 17 years told me I’m just like his mother (who was strung out on drugs when he was little, would leave him and his brother for days at a time to get her fix). 🤨 I am nothing like his mother. I am a great mother to our kids and he envies that so much! Also, during the discard phase, I asked for a divorce and he went into hiding mode inside the house. I couldn’t even talk to him about a possible amicable divorce. I finally had to apologize for all my wrongdoings and his response was he has prayed for this change in me lol. He told me the only reason why we were able to talk was because my approach was calm and I didn’t have an ego. It’s always me, me, me… always my fault! I’m so over it!

The narcissist's mind is a haunted house! Love this Dr. Sam. Hall of mirrors 😢 Wow

I will never forget the moment when I hugged my ex narcissistic boyfriend, him sitting down, me standing up so his head was resting on my chest and then he said "MOMMY"... Cold chill went down my spine and I could tell something was wrong. After he discarded me I came across this lecture and I couldn't believe it, he really saw me as a mother, so amazing, everything said is spot on

They live in such a world of delusion and fantasy. It seems to me that they are never in touch with reality.

I pray that in the near future, many begin to USE these videos to their advantage by being far into their healing process. This personality disorder is becoming the DOMINANT personality type.

Wow, even just at 7:14 I am totally shaken up. I remember our first year of marriage having so many arguments and fights and frequently I would tell him I don’t think you really love me. I think you love the idea of me. turns out I was right. Literally. that is such a trip.

Good Lord! My last relationship was textbook! From initial idolization to eventually sadistically punishing me.

He pushes her to cheat, be with another man, so he can excuse or rationalize himself in his own cheating ways

Finally the King is back

Narcissistic persons were like living tragedy. Wherever they perform , people cries

I've not been able to grasp why one of the last things he said to me was that he can't trust me anymore, and genuinely meant it, when he was the cheater. Now it all makes so much sense. Absolute lightbulb moment. Thank you.

I must say I'm okay with the narc getting stuck with my bad introject in his mind. It serves him right for trying to mess with my healthy brain... 👍👺🤡💩

The whole idea of narcissists making people into avatars of either all good or all bad explains why they cannot interact with people interpersonally as they are, as imperfect/ perfect humans. Thank You Dr. Vaknin, for your very informative videos.

This is so true! My ex was so sick. The things he made me do then turn around and say how bad I was bc I did these things. He would always say “you’re going to leave, ask women leave”. Irony, hood evil mother used to say the same thing and laugh about it…laugh about me leaving him. She even told me that I love him too much. They’re so sick. The only solution is to run! They are always victims who use reactive abuse and get a high off of your reactions. They destroy everything good!