He's Genuinely Interested, But He's Scared

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“If he’s just trying to have fun, fear isn’t going to be an issue.” Wow. I never thought of it in that light. Gold nugget of wisdom.

He's afraid of commitment because he knows he hasn't worked on his abilities and qualities to become the best version of himself to deserve a GREAT woman and live up to her expectations.

I think if people are still fearful they are not ready for a relationship. No one can help you become emotionally available and strong enough but yourself. People should not be left to figure out mixed messages and quite honestly mixed messages equal a lack of certainty and/or lack of ntentionality. Both of these things are undesirable in a mate, regardless of the root cause of it.

He’s not ready. He hasn’t healed, not honest with himself, communication is not in his vocabulary. He say’s all he need’s is company. This is selfish behavior and no consideration for the other person in relationships. Don’t short change yourself, because there’s someone who’s going to love you as much as you love them.

This can be dangerous and tricky because it’s easy for the heart to make excuses for someone who is just not that into you. You have to be real honest with yourself, and real discerning.

I had to walk away from a VERY amazing man because he just hadn't healed. It just broke my heart but know it was the best for both of us!

All this means he's not ready yet and instead of subjecting someone to inconsistency and confusion he should do the healing first!

This is a fearful avoidant attachment style. They want it but fear causes them to run. It’s stronger than their feelings for you.

when he acts like that Im scared too

Discard the robe of fear and put on the mantle of faith 🙏🏽God will work all things for your good

Yes agree, addressing the fear is key as well as healing. The root of fear is often failure. Fear is often a distorted perception in our mind. The real issue some men & women have is the fear of failing in love and relationships. Often when that is addressed that removes the barrier to love. Love will require taking a big risk & a great deal of vulnerability, as well as trust. Yet the benefits in having deep, true genuine love always outweighs it all. Besides, once you move beyond fear the end results are amazing. What is life after all if we do not fully submerse ourselves in it. Great video.

Healing before getting into a relationship is important

He was passive aggressive so I declined cuz I don't wanna waste my time I told him .....heal first then talk to me when you are ready

He said "I'm afraid things to not work and get hurt" and then 1 month later he walked away and hurt me. ..

This is so me. Genuinely interested but afraid.

I have found out that People in this situation can NOT communicate.....which was for me, labeled as immature. However, I've learned to keep positive vibes, pray on it, and continue to live!! 🙏 Thank you for this... there is a difference!

We both have really been hurt but we really like each other. I felt good about opening up about my feelings because he’s made me comfortable, but no reciprocation from him. I I said something because I thought he felt the same. Now my wall is back up. He holds back and now I am. But he wants lots to build and help me. So many mixed signals. I refuse to be hurt because he’s scared. Now I don’t know his true intentions

An absolute leap of faith.. relationships can be scary in the sense that you can feel vulnerable at times even with a great partner. 💖

Healing sure is key ❤️