When an Emotionally BROKEN Man is Using a Woman, He’ll Show These Signs!

Love yourselves ladies. It's hard to walk away from the familiar but we have to break the cycle. My dad is a broken man. I always wanted better for my mother but she chose to be a martyr. I refuse to have the same sad life. He's right, most men are looking for mothers they can take advantage of. They put their hurt into you by treating you like shit

Avoid any men and women whose actions do not match their words. Run!🏃‍♀️🏃

It is just EXHAUSTING, having to wonder if someone is interested in you. Well, if you have to wonder - he isn’t. 😢

Do NOT engage with a guy who says he doesn’t want a relationship. You CANNOT change his mind. Don’t date potential. It’s a waste of time.

A user will confuse you. And he will accuse you of being a user.

One rule I was taught and have always lived by: "If a man pressures you, or makes you wonder where you stand, or if you feel confused at all, stand down and back away.* And don't give some emotional speech about it; just simply become less available and step away from that 'whatevership' and do you. Go out with other people, get busy doing other things. You teach people how to treat you. When they see you're busy and living life, they may either decide that you're worth getting to know better, or they may not. The point is, you have to put yourself in a position where you're not beholden to their whims, where you are not codependent on their treatment of you to know your worth. Start acting like you know your worth, and when someone starts treating you like the above, add tax!

I can tell you that being used by a guy hurts like hell especially when the guy doesn’t want to talk about the fact he used you. Not to mention get frustrated when you’ve brought up the fact you felt used.

“They are not looking for a girlfriend they are looking for a mother or a nurse” got to me and I’m glad!!

Wow that hit me hard. The last guy (childish, fun, putting blame on others, not taking ownership, looking for a nurse/mother, can't talk about emotions, ridiculing me when I give negative feedback) is my soon to be ex-husband. I did not know there is such an exact type described in psychology. I have been feeling used by him for a looong time.

My ex of 5 yrs was a 'childish man'! Very surface level when it came to our relationship. Loved joking, being the center of attention but was useless for everything else. And after a couple of years I was just his mother! Paying all the bills, doing everything for him, and when I brought that up as an issues he would say things like "relax" and "why are you so dramatic?!"

Literally my ex. Super fun and flirty in the beginning but then flipped on me like a switch. Started acting like me communicating my emotions that were “negative” meant that I was always starting fights when really I was just trying to have a conversation. He also said my past caused him trauma. Then he iced me out completely even though he told me he wanted to marry me. What the heck. 😂

A Broken Man will Break You. Put your Boundaries in place and work on healing yourself.

If he's confused Just refuse Don't get used 😂

@3:47 RUN ! I stayed and compromised my own mental health. Now I’m healing from my own issues and his demons. Stay away from men (or women) like this.

If a man interferes with your happiness and state of mind…… let him go! Love yourself more!

It’s easier to find and learn a new hobby than to have a relationship!

Loving someone who always accuses you of things you didn't do hurts. ALWAYS loving and then always being ridiculed...

i know a guy exactly like that. confusion, silence treatment for months, hot-and-cold behavior... it was a torture. and it took me time to realise - it was not me, it was him who was damaged. and it was a very painful experience, because he seemed like a "good guy"... thanks God he is out of my life now. i wish him all the best though. and i will know better next time) thank you, Brian!!!! you are the best!!!

If you have red flags at any point in your dating relationship ... RUN ... don't walk to the nearest exit. Narcissistic Sociopathic, broken child men don't change, don't work on themselves, because they don't see or believe they are the one's with the problem. You can't "fix" them, you can't heal or help them heal, you can't hold them up enough, you can love them enough, you can't support them, you can't ... anything enough. They will push you so far down a black hole, you may never find a way out. It will be your fault they are unhappy, cheat on you, that it's not working out, etc. It's not worth the turmoil you are going thru or will go thru, it's not worth changing yourself in hopes you'll be what makes him happy. Because you'll never fill that black hole within him (or her). I know ... in almost 30 yrs, the only thing I managed to do .... was to lose who I was & become miserable. I can change me ... but I'll never be enough of anything to fill that void that has forever damaged him, long b4 I came around.

Everyone is damaged goods. If you're waiting for a person without baggage, you'll wait forever. Look for the one who recognizes his own issues and is working on overcoming them. You must be willing to work on your own as well.