Adult with Autism | Autism & Self Worth | 16

Even before I get further into the video I want to point out the most valuable poor-person-AC you can get, freeze bottles of water and put them behind a simple box fan to cool the air that the fan circulates. Saved my skin so much growing up dirt poor. It'll last a few hours which'll help you sleep on the worst of nights.

Who else hates summer? Er, me. There's more people out and about for a start, they're all being noisy, everyone is chatty like "Lovely weather, isn't it?" No. I hate everything about it, especially the extra noise. Give me a heavy blanket in the cold any time. Totally relatable, Paul. Literally dreading summer right now.

I can’t stand extreme temperatures, nor too cool or too hot. I do suffer a bit from SAD in winter (from January to spring) since I function on sun batteries :) ... so blue skies and temperatures around 25ºC are ideal. For too many children growing up is a struggle and that erodes our ability to build a healthy self-worth. With age, and another set of struggles, we learn how to set boundaries and realize our own individualized worth. It’s an inside job of self-discovery. Great video, as always!

Great video Paul! Good on you for stepping up! Looking after yourself is very important. When you do that you are ready to be there for other people. I struggled with that for a long time. Sorry about the dentist. You know I feel the same way and to have to go back again is a nightmare. And your teeth shouldn’t feel that way by the way! I am cracking up about Plato and Socrates. I thought you were being very “BIll and Ted” saying it that way😂.

This was posted 2 years ago, but I'm glad I found it now. You explained the self-worth part so well. You know that you do an excellent job. That's not the same as self-worth and you point out how people have previously taken advantage of your excellence for their own advancement without giving you anything. Standing up to this behavior is the self-worth part. There are some things I'm very good at, better than most people. But this is not the same as self-worth. I've always hidden the things I'm good at to avoid the jealousy of others. And I've let people get away with poor behavior and didn't stand up to them. However, over a recent family visit, a couple of family members behaved badly toward me and I did stand up for myself. I didn't do it well, but I did it. This helped me realize that I'd also been taken advantage of, for one thing, and that I don't plan to visit in the future, for another. I can, and do, forgive them their bad behavior, but don't need to put myself in the situation to be treated poorly. I believe they do this unawarely and perhaps self-righteously and not maliciously, but it is still "cheating" to not consider someone else's self-worth and also to take advantage of them. They feel they can do this because they think they are superior. Why? Because my autistic characteristics put me "down" in their neurotypical heirarchy. That is the self-righteous part. I would never do these things to them. This dynamic makes me wonder if this happening throughout my life, while trying not to be noticed for my excellent points has led to my poor self-worth. As I work my way out of the post trauma burnout, I am coming to understand plenty. Thank you for your excellent videos that have helped clarify certain things.

Thank You so much Paul, i love the way you break down the situation and explain it.

Love the glasses 🤓!

Paul, Excellent ideas about setting healthy boundaries and reminding yourself of your own worth. Some of us were raised to work our fingers to the bone and still felt unworthy. Some religions reinforce this by teaching we all have original sin and are defective at the core. It takes consistent effort to rewire our brains to believe we are a worthy “child of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have. right to be here”! And your eyeglasses look handsome too.

O man I feel u about being hot and thereby summer is not that great it always gets too hot and I can't stand it. And for a little background I live in Canada lol. There's a lot of nice stuff about winter and also fall and spring. I loving seeing everything come back to life in spring and playing in leaves in the fall and seeing the snow, it's so beautiful falling

You made your point perfectly 👍

I'm a year late to this video but just had to leave a comment. My grammer and vocab aren't the best so bare with me 😂 I'm still processing my recent diagnosis and trying to make sense of it all. I can have the 'imposter' syndrome at times but listening to other peoples experiences of being autistic confirms my diagnosis for me. I too prefer winter as it means I can hibernate and stay cosy. It baffles people when I tell them. Ive allowed the jobs that I've had to completely dominate my life. I always felt like I was less worthy or important and tried my best to please everybody else, perform at an unrealisticly high standard at all times and struggle to delegate workload in case colleagues thought I was being bossy or rude. I tried far too hard to make people like me. I would come home after 13 hour shifts and spend my time at home mulling over social interactions, my performance that day and thinking of ways to improve and to be the best nurse on my next 13 hour shift 😵 I found it completely draining and had to leave work due to it affecting my physical health. Now being unemployed has affected my self-worth in a big way. It's a vicious cycle. My experience of medical doctors and their thoughts and attitudes on a late adult diagnosis has shocked me. Hardly any support there so we have to stand up for ourselves otherwise people can take the piss. I'm falling asleep after that rant 😂 great videos 👍🏻 thanks a mill

Another option is to connect the air con hose to the loft through DIY loft hatch which can be made from polystyrene foam board. That way windows are closed. Concept checked, my husband did it this year and it works😊 it is actually even more efficient😊 It is noisy, but it's efficient enough so you don't need to be in the same room as the unit. As to the dentist, can you go somewhere else for second opinion just to check if your dentist did a good job? I was always very lucky with private dentists, unlike with NHS, but it's worth checking out. Another appointment but a peace of mind🙂

I am the exact same way I love winter and hate summer, I was diagnosed with autism this year in fact, and I now know my aversion to heat of any kind including hot food, I can’t eat hot food at all or hot drinks, everything I ingest has got to be body temp or lower is due to my autism

Verru good video 😊😊😊😊

you can get headegg from too much coffee, cafeine

I know this is an old video. But maybe you have a stigmatism in your eyes. I finally saw an eye Dr. And thats all it was. Forcing my eyes to see straight is fine but it will give me a massive headache. Idk. 😅 Funny to my that I live in New England but I hate the heat. So I'm sorry your dying from heat. It's the worse. As for self worth. What's self worth? 😏(10:08 I wasn't even thinking it until you said that! ) Seriously, everyone is more important then me or what I want and need. Just taking time to recharge makes me feel bad so I'm not really recharging I'm just depressed and feel bad for taking time for myself. I force it, I hope eventually I can actually rest. Also, you don't sound like your talking fast to me. I talk fast. lol. Music has to be meaningful.

Have you looked into a mini-split air conditioner?they're around 1.300 us dollars.