Feelings: Handle them before they handle you | Mandy Saligari | TEDxGuildford

Had to catch my breath when she said she asked the parents: "Why would your daughter feel at home with people who are troubled?"

I'm learning to give myself the love I desperately want to give other people.

“Why is it her role to be an emotional shock absorber” omg that hit, that hit so hard. Thankful for this

Literally burst into tears at the part when she said that the girl who was once a goody two shoes goes on to be with someone high maintenance because she’s so used to seeing her worth through the lens of being the caretaker all the time 💔

This video clearly shows that how you have been treated in your childhood greatly influences how you will feel about yourself when you grow up .

This is one of those rare ted talks where the speaker doesn't act to hold your attention. She is natural and really knows what she is talking about.

How to take care of yourself; 1. Say nice things to yourself. Create a relationship with a part of yourself that might feel vulnerable. 2. Write down what you're grateful today. 3. Simply be your own best friend. Treat yourself like your own best friend, ok? 4. Self-respect; it's not always just about giving, but it's also about receiving, the ability to say 'i need help', or 'no'. Be true to yourself.

I broke down in tears when she described the whole "good girl"... I felt everything to my bones.... Because lately I felt tired of everything and wanting everything and nothing from everybody and nobody at the same time... I really had no idea this was me...

This 18 minute speech taught me more about who I am then 2.5 years self isolating watching around 800 hours of YouTube obsessively trying to find these answers and 34 years of caring about everyone but myself ending up all alone at the end anyways. Tears flowing Thank you so much for validating me for the first time.

"..remain invested in the curiosity, instead of in the offense - when we meet people.." Well said!

I need to rewatch this again and again. YouTube, bring me back to this regularly.

"And actually what you wanted to do was get out of your skin, leave that behind and be someone else!" Daydreaming addict, here. This pretty much sums it up and it looks so simple, or perhaps it's being older and being aware I'm not the only one, but growing up the shame was so profound. So insidious. How can you ask for help when you dont believe you deserve it? What a poison. I'm thankful for the people who have the courage to give themselves a chance and who develop such wisdom to share with us-- especially when therapy is not affordable. Thank you Mandy

emotional healing to remove the feelings we try to "medicate" . once you give up on others approval then life truly begins

You know it's a great talk if you take your tablet with you when you take out the trash because you don't want to stop listening for even two minutes!

We can't change those who hurt us, it's an inside job within us. Gratitude is very powerful ❤

2 days ago I had a breakthrough in my CPTSD first time. I woke up feeling like I weighed half of the prior days. After 10 years I was finally feeling better. I am so grateful to God and my family and friends. Tomorrow is my birthday 🥳💜🙏🏼🤗🦋🍀🎂

She hit the nail on the head! There is so much healing from childhood wounds that this TED Talk provides. One might just have to listen to it more than a dozzen times to really let the message take root in one's mind!

Watching this while getting ready and now I'm crying and my makeup is ruined. Thank you for such a beautiful talk.

I was branded 'difficult' by my dad, but also my mum's rescuer when he upset her. Interesting. This woman knows her onions.

I'm currently watching this talk for the fourth, consecutive time. Life altering. Thank you Mandy.