The Deadbeat Debate Ft. Iyanla Vanzant

Every time I hear Iyanla speak I take what she saying, apply it to my own life, and start crying. I can feel her energy through the screen and she is so powerful.

Put iyanla an dr umar in the same room so you can break the Internet. 1 video 3 hours. Boom 💥

She was very respectful. Because if this was her show, she would’ve given him the business about having multiple children 😂😂

When Iyanla speaks, it’s like a pinball in a machine hitting so many things in me. ✊🏾❤️💪🏾

I concur Iyanla. “A father has to be a demonstration of accountability, integrity and mastery.” This is a great and timely conversation.

I love how she's holding him up and loving him to wellness

A broken home is a home without both parents and a father that willingly decided to make it a broken home. Stop coddling him Iyanla!

The fact that her feminine emergy was so STRONG that she literally made look like a child talking to his mother. It feels likeeeee... a lot of pressure. And the VULNERABILITY you see in him. That she BROUGHT OUT OF HIM so effortlessly. Its beautiful. And we need to embody amd bring this feminine energy back so that these men can feel COMFORTABLE enough to open themselves up to talk about this very vulnerable situations.

Some truth mixed in with ego stroking 🤦🏾‍♀️

No, he is not in integrity with himself. That’s why he keeps asking these questions.

Please invite Dr Joy De Gruy Leary. Shes a specialist on the post traumatic slave syndrome and how past traumas influences our current behaviour as black people and what we could do to mitigate certain negeative behaviors, thoughts and beliefs. She's brilliant 🙌🏾

I’m a fan of both of them, lovely people… but this conversation was so dishonest. It was filled with so many excuses. The eternal ego stroking of Black men’s ego as a means of unity is what is destroying him. She should have told him the truth x

I love this kind of talking and listening. Our people need to heal and listen to each other. This is good to see and hear.

This interview stayed in the shallow end of the pool, and it needed to go deep. If you go deep, his status will drown, and make room for the truth. He is actually seeking the truth, and you told him a convenient lie. He is not living in integrity and he is out of order. When he came into your presence, he became your assignment. You had a moral and ethical responsibility to him, and you fumbled the ball.. Look again beloved.

She just enabled the shit out of this man and any other man listening. Kids don't know about money, they want their fathers. Please just don't throw money at children.

I feel very similar to Iyanla in the way that she speaks about honoring her grandmother. Many of our grandparents overcame unspeakable adversity to pave the way for us—we must honor ourselves in their name.

I'm disppointed in this conversation. I don't feel that she was as honest and she could have been. I do believe that there was a huge level of ego stroking being done.

I love her tenderness with the black male ! Lifting them up rather than tearing them down as the world does ! She’s the GOAT!

Great interview session Nick! Iyanla was a treat for many of us. Naturally people in the room are confusing her being a guest of yours and this not being a “Fix My Life” episode. She highlighted that you all had a private prior conversation, of which no one knows what was said but she touched on it. Thanks for being so transparent about how those negative comments affect you.

First time I’m not feeling Iyanla…Having children with multiple different women outside the home is never a good thing. I could understand if everyone agreed to being polygamous and they were all under the same roof then sure. Keep it real tho. Also being a provider is important and necessary. Don’t try to soften it…if you don’t have money to provide then maybe you should refrain from having children. That’s for both man and woman. I understand everyone’s background and upbringing may be different but the objective shouldn’t be to repeat or create the same dysfunction.