Insider's Guide to Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

I’m not saying this because I have BPD, but what distinguishes BPD from NPD is that narcissists want to hurt others. People with bpd overreact because they are hurt and are in utter pain. Their rage is mainly because they don’t know how to regulate their emotions. But, to be fair, how can anyone regulate the psychological equivalent of an open and infected wound?

I think that BPD and NPD actually have the same core content. Only people with NPD managed to cover it up with creating a false sense of self which helped them stay in relationship with their caregivers.

I am quiet BPD with heavy overlap into covert NPD. They are not so different at all. BPD and NPD are different solutions to the same problem. All cluster B is developmental trauma disorder. We were rejected for who we truly were. NPD is fully false self and therefore a lot more stable, while BPD is caught in constant battle between true self and false self, that is why we are so unstable. My NPD is making sure I can keep up appearances long enough to fall apart when in private (completely alone). My mother is borderline. Father is narcissistic. I'm the very best of both worlds. By all accounts I have a good life even by neurotypical standards becasue I am wickedly inteligent, but I know exactly who I am. It's sad and miserable existance. Essentially, borderline is a failed narcissist.

Excellent help! Thank you! I see a lot of narcissism and/or narcissistic personality disorder without borderline personality disorder too. But rarely see BPD without NPD.

BEST video! I like how you presented the most common NPD and BPD while outlining the overlapping traits of both behavior patterns.

Dr Fox, you must be a psychic! I was searching for a video like this. Thank you for making quality content

Absolute best video. I love exactly how the information was laid out, so easy to process and stay focused on which list I'm on and how that's different. I didn't have to pause and write it down. 10/10 ❤❤❤

I’ve been following your channel for about 4-5yrs. Started when I was in graduate school for my MSW. I really appreciate your explanation and teaching on here. It is evident you are an expert and knowledgeable in the area of personality! Love your content!

My theory is that high self esteem, "Type A" people become NPDs when they have something to be ashamed of or don't feel the joys they could have. They have a "What If" missed world they are trying to recreate.

I believe the core manifestation is the same in all cases bpd asd npd hpd just different combinations and overlays. It is an identity disturbance caused from hereditary and environmental factors.

Very clear great vid ty 🩷

0:42 - I totally have change in affect and feelings towards everything that is in a level behind my "wall". 5:01 - like a politician they always speaking or thinking of competing and or taking you out.

Thank you Doctor Fox for all your help on these disorders. I would love to see a video about NPD vs BPD rage. When to be worried, and possible strategies, while they are in this state of rage to calm things down.

Man these small videos are enlightening.

I had a NPD boss, consider this with someone who's on BPD spectrum what a battle that would cause to others? What happens if the NPD, individual gets called out for something that's they have done, will the NPD, individual blame the situation on everyone else rather then taking ownership for the situation. (Not seeing all the situational factors). If l understood correctly the NPD individual will also push others away to regain control of the situation. Great break down of patterns two types of personalities.

Great video with some insights I've always felt about myself having been diagnosed with BPD but rarely see discussed in this manner, its brutal learning how dysfunctional you are but it all helps to overcome it.... I'm still so intrigued by the biological aspect of these conditions i feel i would have always had this condition.... in my eyes it has to be due the over and undevelopment of certain part of the prefrontal cortex as neurotypical people go through the same trials and tribulations and develop a healthy sense of self and therefore healthy coping mechanisms. I would love to hear your thoughts on this based on what studies you have come across.

Thank you so much for making these videos I really needed this one I was starting to think I might be a narcissist lol nope just bpd 😂 ❤

@DrDanielFox I’m wondering if much of the maladaptive behavior with BPD, ADHD and PTSD is related to the person living in their Default Mode Network. When I see self-destructive, maladaptive behavior from a loved one, it seems to come with no thought process and no awareness of consequences. It’s like I’m interacting directly with his DMN. Once self-regulation returns, we can communicate again.

I would love to hear your thoughts on how to deal with anger episodes after receiving a diagnosis of BPD.

I am recently diagnosed bpd..my partner is undiagnosed but NPD fits like a glove...I dont know how to deal.