Therapist Shares Why You're Attracted To People Who Are Wrong For You

29:57 is when they start directly getting into what the title says

When you don't value yourself, it becomes your identity and you will be drawn to people who confirm that perception.

I saw a post that said, it’s not about you attracting toxic people. Toxic people attach to everyone they can. The important part is to learn to let go of toxic people. That’s the difference. Some of us don’t know how to let go of anything.

"You are grieving for the person who you have not yet met" WOW. That resonates.

This world is our mirror. Our outer reality is a reflection of our inner reality. It all starts from within. Everything changes the moment you see yourself worthy and beautiful, when you respect yourself

Whoever is reading this, one day you will be living your dreams! Congratulations to you 🙏💫😀

"You should know whether you're controlling your thoughts or are your thoughts controlling you."

“We want people to be honest with us, but we struggle to be honest with them.” Jay Shetty ♥️

MY NOTES FROM THIS PODCAST: 2:58 the importance of letting people access their feelings. 4:03 instead of getting rid of your feelings, use them in a positive way. 13:52 the difference between secrecy(shame) and privacy(healthy boundary). 20:28 in order to know yourself(the real you), you should first unknow yourself. 23:36 difference between idiot compassion and wise compassion. 28:44 talk less, listen more. 29:59 try something different/something unfamiliar. 32:20 difference between chemistry and compatibility. 36:36 real meaning of chemistry. 42:34 "if I can't do what I am asking people to do then there's a big gap but if I actually do it I think it helps people to say if she can do it I can do it too". 45:06 one of the solutions for chaotic relationships. 45:58 change for yourself and not for others. 47:39 we sometimes are our own jailers. 52:54 difference between pain and suffering. 54:03 don't except from yourself/people to know how to deal with their feelings like grief, breakups etc. 1:05:55 one of the ways to be kind.

People do want to be open but they also want to feel safe and that's the issue...finding a heart that is kind and pure enough to listen without judgement and give advise that is not self serving.

Human connection is amazing. I personally believe we are attracted to people we can learn from. Be it for a relationship or friendship ❤️

Someone very close taught me something extremely valuable in dating: fail fast. Dating is not a game where you try to impress the partner on the other side of the table, dating is about finding out if you are a match together. If you are willing to fail this process quickly your odds of finding a quality and equal partner drasticly increase (based on time invested alone)

Yes compatibility is more important than chemistry ! Well-said

The unconscious patterns and beliefs you hold deeply about yourself determine who you'll attract. If you carry alot of hurt and pain, you'll attract more of that. If you don't attract the right type of people then you still have work to do on yourself. The good news is we can all change :)

Her energy is so fascinating.. She's mindful and speaks from her heart..

She’s a great listener because she’s so present. She’s has so much passion describing her journey becoming a therapist. A great conversation between two geniuses!

To those struggling: You will overcome your painful patterns in love ❤️❤️❤️

I created a bond with my children at a very young age. I would ask them why they are sad, happy, angry, and so forth...I wanted them to express to me why and we would talk it over. I have told my children never be sorry for how you feel because that is your true feeling about something. My grandmother always told me which I have passed on to my children, friends, nieces and nephews and their friends that never let anyone make you mad, get mad when you want to and don't let no one make you cry, cry when you want to cry. You control your emotions and let no one control them for you.

If you are reading this, may you attract everything you’ve been patiently waiting for & be passionate to pursue it whole-heartedly. It will naturally flow into your life when you are ready to receive it. Hope our channel helps you on your journey 🙏

This was like a free therapy session, thank you Jay for this podcast