My Mom Is Being A Financial Strain On Me!
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Published 2020-01-05
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All Comments (21)
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When I got my first job, my parents sat me down and told me that, "under no circumstances should I feel like I owe them anything unless they desperately need help. Go on and grow and make us proud". Grateful for those two till this day
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She is her mother’s retirement plan. She says she’s “retired” but her bank account says otherwise.
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This is one of the saddest calls I have ever heard. Bless her heart ❤️
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Unfortunately this is the kind of situation that leads to generational poverty. It goes both ways at times. Parents supporting adult children. Adult children supporting parents.
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A saying I once heard: "If you don't get ashamed to ask for money it doesn't shame me to say no"
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Saying "no" is a game changer. My finances are in much better shape since I've set boundaries with my family. And for those who think it's only Americans, think again. It's very common for Africans, carribeans, South Americans to consider their kids as a cash cow, unfortunately. That's why many remain poor. It's a vicious circle.
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This poor woman is going to have a nervous breakdown. Oh my Lord. Poor woman.
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Well I went through this. Sounds similar to my mom. When she threaten me call police she not leaving and lied I changed the locks tried to sue me for $5k. While still in my house. I evicted her.. Family can sometimes be the WORST ppl to deal with.
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Mom has no business owning a car with $700. a month.
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The mother is manipulative and selfish to leach off her daughter like that. You can hear the daughter’s pain in her voice.
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My mother was the same till I created the boundary. My mother saw me as a cash machine. I have 3 children. I had to take us away from her, she is domineering and petuchelent like a child. She kicked off like a drug addicted teen. I got past the point of caring My soul focus is my children and my financial stability in order to help my children and grandchildren in the future.
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Have her mother trade her car in for a van and she can go live in that and RETIRE!!! She will all of a sudden get a job.
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Boundaries are important! Cut off toxic people from your life at all costs. Never take abuse from anyone.
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Retired with no retirement fund 🥴
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This has nothing to do with money. It’s the abuse in the past her narc mom has put upon her. I understand completely..
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I understand this poor young woman's dilemma. Been there, done that. The stress that my mother caused me almost made me have a heart attack. Literally, I ended up in the hospital many times with my heart. The stress was unbearable.
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My mom tried something like that. She had very little in her ROTH. Said she was retiring. I just looked at her and said how? She's only 51. She said living with you. I just said no. Power of no. Hard... But she'll need more help down the road than right now.
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My mom is 72 & still works part-time. She gets her Federal Reserve Pension, 401K, & SS check. My dad gets a GM Pension & SS. My parents have never asked me for money.
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This is a real problem. If the mother has gone this far over the line then she really has her hooks in deep. Trying to get a person like that to respect you is never going to happen. I think the mother is the dominant force in this relationship and she is actually there to dominate the lives of her grand daughters.
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Unfortunately, I foresee her having to cut ties with her mother completely. Mine tried to pull the same thing when she went $100,000 in debt for a psychology degree (only making $38,000 now) and wants me to help her pay for her life style (new car, horses, house, ext). I refused and was told I was ungrateful after everything she did for me growing up...
