Watch This When You Can't Stop "Checking"

Link to Breath-work: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BNejY1e9ik Bonus tip: if you can identify what got triggered, IE not trusting or feeling confident, then once you’re done with breathwork if you can affirm in, on a loop, a few beliefs that address the triggered doubt, for 5-10 minutes, then this will help you create the change even quicker. If you can’t identify it, no worries. The breathwork will help a lot and nightly affirmation tracks will too. If you feel comfortable enough to affirm in your end then do that as well.

I was randomly triggered last night bc I haven’t heard from my SP over a few days & my mind started to spiral. I tried to distract my mind by reading; that didn’t work. I ended up resorting to the breath work, although it did help tremendously I still felt that underlying feeling of anxiety. I listened to my go-to meditation tape & felt completely better. Then I took that moment to address the issue & did some physical self care (made some tea, took a long hot shower with my favorite body wash & spent some time talking to my friends). Then I kept persisting & boom my SP messaged me. I think it’s important here to address your feelings head on, give yourself grace & work through it so you can get to the desired state. My new phrase is “persist with grace.”

I dropped my SP completely atm. Just don't care anymore 🤷 Too many triggers too much anxiety. I NEED to focus on myself completely. ♥️

Damn. It just occurred to me that we are all deeply traumatized.

I have almost completely mastered this new way of being and it is so freeing. I used to be an obsessive checker and constantly needed external validation from everything. Now I effortlessly can soothe myself and have no desire for external validation because I can create and give myself all the validation I need from within. THANK YOU !

I'm laughing so hard right now. Literally I was just "checking" right before I opened up YouTube and saw this video! Thank you!

Trust me guys, I was spiralling whole 7 days. I always had a huge urge to check what he is doing. Even today also. In the afternoon, I was crying like hell what to do in my life? How I m gonna change my beliefs? I m just tired of affirming for SP. Finally, I decided to follow the breathwork, sleeping with night time affirmation & obviously remind me how powerful I m. Thank you Dylan, my Godfather to help me. I m truly grateful to you. I m getting myself back on the floor. I m getting myself back. I m getting myself Fucking BACK as a QUEEN!

Yes checking and watching tarot card readings, a disaster, it stops today, thank you Dylan 👍🏾

The only thing I check is to see if Dylan posted lol

Think this work can be approached from many angles. There’s Kobe Bryant vid where he says he makes a contract with himself that’s non negotiable. That when limiting beliefs came through he was like ‘nope. We’re not doing this today’. I’ve started this (basically a self concept contract) and it’s amazing. The version of me that would tolerate my own bullshit of limitation. Doesn’t mean I don’t allow it to come up though this new version doesn’t identify with them anymore. It’s quite powerful I have found.

I literally just had the urge to check and told myself no i’m not being that version of myself anymore. Sat down and did breath work and affirmed some statements in and shifted out of it. Then boom this video. Oh how I love it here😂😍

I noticed how I engage into stalking behaviour when I know that I won't get this certain SP or feel "not good enough". But when I used to feel good enough and sure that I'll get this person, I wouldn't be doing all this checking stuff, looking at their pictures etc. I wouldn't even bother or care. And the "reward" is that I try to convince myself that I can get that SP or just that high feeling thinking they're so cool etc.

Hopefully this helps someone but, I’m the kind of person where if anyone (myself included) tells me that I shouldn’t do something, I get the urge to do it even more, so my trick is to just check and not assign any kind of moral value to it. Instead of ‘you checked = you’re insecure’ I started thinking of it like ‘you checked = you checked”. If you see checking as an inherently anxious or insecure behaviour, every time you check, you’ll reinforce to yourself that you’re an anxious and insecure person. But, if checking is just a behaviour you could engage in for a variety for reasons, sometimes you check just because you’re curious or even excited, and, in my case, I noticed that I started doing it a lot less because I no longer saw it an avenue to negatively reinforce myself. That said, it’s also good to just accept that if you’re checking because you’re anxious and insecure, then you’re anxious and insecure, and that’s okay. In general, I think accepting negative emotions and states as a natural part of the human experience and not as something representative of who you are as a person and how your life is and will be, helps with keeping them short and as an opportunity to show yourself empathy and kindness. In the same way vulnerability strengthens bonds between people, being vulnerable with yourself can be an excellent moment to strengthen your self-concept. I noticed that I only started manifesting things consistently the moment I accepted myself and my feeling state, no matter what it was, fully. For a lot of people, loving and accepting yourself only extends to the things you like about yourself and having a good self concept looks like always being confident, stable and secure. Ergo, if you have moments where you’re not confident, not stable, and really insecure, then you don’t have a good self concept because that’s not what people with good self-concepts experience. Insecure people have moments of confidence, and confident people have moments of insecurity, the sooner you accept yourself, the sooner you become a confident person with moments of insecurity and not the other way around. My most helpful advice is: instead of focusing on making sure you only manifest the things you want, focus on becoming the kind of person that can cope and deal with no matter what happens. It helps with the whole ‘does this manifestation business really work’ question. And affirm that you’re the kind of person where you always get what you want because it helps in a lot of tiny ways. And read Psycho-Cybernetics. Also, Dylan if you’re reading this: if you weren’t gay, I would definitely manifest you 🥺

Yes for sure!! That breathwork has been such a game changer for me. I can think logically hardly no triggers or even if I do get triggered I can handle it without reacting, it’s not intense. I just reinforce the new self concept if I’m triggered and do breathwork again, each time I do breathwork I feel so calm and relaxed like I just don’t give a shit about anything

I almost never comment on any sort of videos but this time I just can't keep silent. I came across Dylan's channel literally 4 or 5 days ago very randomly and I'm completely shocked right now of the results that I got!! I have a special who I had manifested into my life about three month ago, he treated me like queen, making lots of compliments, sharing intimate thoughts, calling and texting all the time. However, with time I started feeling insecure again. As a result, my sp stopped being respectful, could literally ignore my texts for days. That made me so sad and mad at the same time. Then I binged watched Dylan's videos and realized that my sp has been literally mirroring all of my insecurities and old beliefs. All I did is I let myself realize how exhausting my thoughts about sp are and I just said to myself that I'm not fucking satisfied with that version of my sp, I deserve to be treated like a queen, I deserve respect and validation!! I kept quiet and focused on work, started learning a new language called my friend etc. I felt so relieved cuz I finally let my negative energy go and stopped being mad at him almost like it's not business, I simply radiated love towards him and myself. I woke up this morning with five eight message and five missed calls from him, he APOLOGIZED for being cold and treating me poorly. I'm amazed by how fast the manifestation worked but I also feel like I'm finally finding peace with myself. It's done, everyone!!! Circumstances are nothing. Thank you, Dylan, for giving a wake-up call ❤❤❤

i swear i would've moved on years ago if i stopped checking his socials. it has become an addiction to me

Hey, I have a success story. I just got offered a job. I used the law of assumption. I just kept saying that I already had the job. When I had interviews I just told myself they already liked me. Got the offer today. Going to start soon!!!

Unfortunately I checked today and made many assumptions that hurt my feelings a bit but it just caused me to realize that there is still work to do. I'm now choosing to completely drop the focus on what my person is doing and put all the focus on me again, I don't think I should care about who he's following or who's what he's doing or whether or not i'll be able to manifest him back or not, once I'm in a secure place with myself then i'll worry about all the other stuff <3!

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I was literally just crying and apologing to my body for causing it so much pain. Because it's in my chest...just like you said. Thank you for this and for being straight forward and informative with us....we need that!🥰