How People Are Aging Is None of Our Business

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People: "I don't understand why so many people in Hollywood get plastic surgery and Botox." Also people: *Sees one wrinkle. "Oh wow, they let themselves go! She's so old now."

Growing old is honestly a privilege and society/online audiences need to remember that before they start to get offended by a celebrity getting older.

The Pamela Anderson thing is especially illustrative because she has said that after her beloved long-time make up artist died of breast cancer recently, she decided she just wouldn't wear make up anymore because there's no point now. The fact that the media made a whole story out of it and kind of pushed her to disclose something so personal and potentially painful - something that is NONE OF ANYBODY'S BUSINESS - really shows how bizarre it is that we scrutinize people's looks and personal choices so much and so publicly.

I think part of the negative response is people trying to "other" aging in order to deal with their own fears of aging. By treating aging as something you can do wrong you can convince yourself that you will do it right, that you don't have to worry about society treating you like it treats everyone else when you get old. It's kinda like how people will victim blame to convince themselves that bad things only happen to you if you let them.

Women literally can't win. "She should just age gracefully!" vs. "Why did she let herself go?" An interesting consequence of this is some movie directors say they struggle to find people for historical movies, because everyone has had work done that wouldn't look right in the historical setting. Which breaks my heart cause I love period pieces, but how do you do them if everyone has "21st century face"?

In regards to aging and weight gain: I’m 32 and I’ve always been overweight. Sure I’ve gained 30lbs since high school but since I’ve always been “the fat one” everyone tells me “Omg you haven’t changed a bit!”. Meanwhile, my poor sister went from skinny to my size and well…people are much less kind about it. We are literally the same size, but since I match people’s memory of me, I’m praised while she’s judged for daring to look different.

I’ve had friends younger than me pass away. I understand aging is a privilege and not something to hide or be ashamed of.

The “men are maturing vs. women are getting old”— that is absolutely the (messed up) perception being perpetuated!! You nailed it. It’s such a brutal double standard. Thank you for this video. ♡

Honestly, Bonnie looks refreshing in the sea of all the celebrities getting the same cosmetic procedures and becoming straight up copies of each other. Have you noticed that celebrities' faces get more and more similar these days? It's so nice to see a regular woman in her thirties, who is still goddamn beautiful, and simply looks her age. It helps me to set expectations for myself in the future instead of comparing myself to multiple walking advertisements of plastic surgeries

This reminds me of a story about a woman running a cooking channel on facebook. She was 31 years old and had a decent amount of grey hair. She kept getting hate comments about looking ''like an old hag'' and how she should dye her hair. Turns out she was terminally ill and she knew she would likely not live to 70 years old. Grey hair reminded her she was still alive and her husband wanted her to keep the grey hair so they could grow old together. A male host would not get such comments, and she had to come out with her personall stuff to explain her grey hair. It's like we can only accept signs of aging if we have a proper excuse for it. You can't just AGE because it's a human thing we all go through. You have to have a proper excuse for looking old, but even then it can be not enough because ''well, you're rich, do somthing about it''.

Years ago, I initiated this rule for myself when commenting, posting, whatever. Never talk about someone’s looks unless asked for. Frankly even if it’s a compliment, no. My opinion on how someone looks is completely irrelevant and I have NO idea what might be triggering to someone else. Talk about people’s work or their words. Not their looks.

In a world completely overrun by adults who are basically grown up children, witnessing aging is probably pretty horrifying for them.

I used to be a very heavy drug user all throughout my 20s. I turn 36 in 4 days, and the fact that I am even alive to say this is a blessing. So I wear my wrinkles and aging face as a badge of honor, cuz it is truly a miracle I am even here to get them.

Every time i get anxious about aging, i remember that I'm almost the same age my dad was when he died. I've had friends and family that died when they were younger than me. Getting old is a privilege.

Carrie Fisher once said “men are allowed to age.” Remember how often many men are still praised as attractive even when they’re old compared to what we've all heard about old women.

The timing of this video is so spot on, because just 30 minutes ago I was watching a youtube reel with Emilia Clarke and thinking about this exact issue. Every time I watch a video with her there's so many people leaving absolutely nasty comments about how old she looks and it just infuriates me. She was 25 when GOT premiered and now she's nearing 40, of course she's going to look different. She's aging just like any other person and it really bothers me that people won't leave her be and keep those terrible comments to themselves.

The idea that people all age at different rates is so important. My partner has had grey streaks in her hair since her early 20s. She's had the beginnings of laugh lines and wrinkles around her eyes since her mid 20s. She's generally not felt self conscious about it thankfully because this is the norm in her family. I'm still getting acne and given my family history I likely won't see a ton of signs of aging for a while - but I know it's coming. Seeing my partner embrace her aging has definitely reaffirmed in me my desire to buck my family's trend of bemoaning their signs of aging. There's also this idea that the reason we clamor for aging men and discard aging women is because with age often comes increased access, wisdom, and power. A women getting more of those is threatening to people rather than sexy because societally we sexualize female vulnerability and availability. It's funny though because those same women who get discarded by mainstream outlets become icons in queer communities precisely because of those reasons.

Im 34 and wish I had aged as beautifully as Bonnie Wright. But also I'm not torn up about it lmao. I always felt so bad for her in the HP days because she was always compared with Emma Watson and Harry/Hermione shippers would come for her. Give this woman a break.

As someone that never expected to live to 18 but is now 32 I gotta say I take ageing as a beautiful journey. I'm excited to be in my 30s. I can't wait to be in my 40s and so on. Every birthday is something to be thrilled over. I also weigh more now than I ever have and it's not the end of the world. I do still have a youthful face, but honestly I always hated that because people would treat me like a child (some still do). Wrinkles, weight, grey hair, scars, stretch marks...it's all just part of the story.