5 Things Women Do That Are Red Flags

The real red flag is someone that needs to drink to have a good time. If they make you feel bad about not drinking run don’t walk away.

Here's the summary, fellas. Proceed with caution: 1) She has a problem with you not drinking (A good woman is not going to force you to compromise your values) 2) She says, "If you wanted to, you would..." 3) She expresses criticism more than affirmation 4) She takes more than she gives 5) She's consistently inconsistent (This is a sign that she's not being serious about you) Here's one to add: 6) She mentions her exes way too soon (this will come up at some point, but it should not be during the first few dates) What other red flags should be added to the list?

Another red flag I've learned to watch for is someone who shows conditional love or affection depending on the other person's actions or attitudes. For example, a girlfriend who feels that you really love her only when you spend lots of money on her. Then when you don't spend enough money, she pulls back her attention and affection from you. This basically means you only get love when you make her happy first. Conditional reward is a big red flag.

I used to think there is some issue with me but as I see more videos of Courtney I feel I am a totally normal human. Thanks, Courtney for making these videos.

A red flag I wanna add: if she's super receptive and nice to YOU yet either mistreats or ghosts other men that she doesn't like like that. IMO one of the many determining factors of a quality woman is how she treats those she's NOT interested in

As someone who uses the "if he wanted to, he would" phrase, I really like the example you used for it and how toxic it can be. My usage was for the fact that I was getting neglected/shunned and begging for change, and it helped me to detach from the bad relationship, and to leave. BUT if it was used to try and justify getting a paid vacation or expensive gifts? Nah man, you need to run from anyone who uses it for not important things XD

I remember being sober for a year for personal reasons, and the girl I was dating was a heavy drinker. I didn’t mind hanging out at the bar with her and a Diet Coke, but she wouldn’t stop asking me “so you’re really not drinking??” I got tired of repeating myself after a couple of months and dipped.

My ex-girlfriend was an alcoholic and used to tell me I wasn't fun because I didn't want to get a drink.

Ohhh the not drinking one! I've never heard anybody bring that up, but I've experienced it a few times. Usually things will just fizzle out if that's an issue. You also want to avoid any situations where you're sober and she's not, for obvious reasons. Another one that I watch out for is women who are obsessed with their birthdays. Not saying someone shouldn't want to have a nice time, but I've seen some alarming behavior if things don't go her way on that special day... Also run run run if you ever hear the phrase "my birthday month" it's a red flag on top of a pile of red flags!

Id definitely love a "why you dont drink" video! I think we all need more content that pushes back on drinking culture

As someone who has seen alcoholism destroy a life, I can 100% vouch that this red flag is earned. It hurts more knowing you tried to stop it many times, yet the demon of trauma and psychological abuse is a strong swimmer, no matter how much one tries to drown it would always find its way… even to the end. I have demons too but I learned that I have to accept what I went through, what I still struggle to do. Only remedy that’s worked for me has been discipline, self control, be a man for a family he still holds dearly to prevent another horror that the world decides to through.

One of my ex-GFs emigrated to the US and married an American guy ... But after a while he divorced her because she was a communist ... There were too many red flags everywhere ... - Moscow, Russia

I would definitely like to see a video about why you don't drink and your experiences with dating people who do, Courtney. That sounds like an interesting topic!

4 and 5 were constantly happening with my ex girlfriend. It made the relationship feel like such a chore, it was horrible. Guys, if 4 and 5 keep happening, leave her, don't lose your time.

One big red flag is constantly asking for money, especially with large sums of money. It indicates financial irresponsibility and a lack of respect for you as a person. I ended up losing over $500 to one former friend I had under the promise that they'll pay me back, but kept giving me excuses why she couldn't, and didn't even make an effort to do so. I later discovered that she owed another person over $5,000. I should've filed a police report against her for obtaining property by false pretenses. Let that be a lesson to you. Never lend money to anyone who doesn't make it a priority to pay you back.

A big one for me is punctuality. If a woman is consistently late, I start to feel that they don't value my time or the time we have to spend together.

One thing a woman might say that men often hear them say in regards to your relationship that is an extreme red flag is this: "I'm so confused!" If men ever hear that from a woman when she is discussing the merits vs. demerits for being your girlfriend, you need to run -- not walk -- away! If a woman really loves a man or at least has high interest in him early on, she will never claim to be "confused" over her feelings.

I have had women on dating sites say "if you really liked me, you would send me $50" or whatever. You can't buy peoples affections. If you can, you need to run away, lol 😆

The not drinking thing is really interesting especially if you grew up in a culture where drinking is forbidden or frowned down upon like Muslim culture. A lot of girls on Tinder literally have in their profile that if you don't drink, then swipe left. Its sad that some people equate being social to drinking and don't know how to interact with people without alcohol. I've worked at companies where people literally could not communicate unless they had alcohol. While I participated, I hated it, and hated the people who made me do it. Its a sad existence IMO. My rule is to stay away from those who impose requirements on you. Besides, do you want to be in a relationship with a person who is a functioning alcoholic? If they look good now, they won't later!

I've been sober over ten years and it's quite the challenge. its pretty toxic for someone to not be okay with that