Why is Dating in Portugal So Difficult? #019

One thing that seems to have been left out of this conversation is that many portuguese women are simply not interested in taking part in the hookup culture. You mostly focused on the idea that portuguese women are fearful of judgement and less emancipated, as if one night stands and casual sex were signs of progress and freedom. Women are not wrong for not wanting to engage in that. They're also not wrong for wanting to get to know the guy first if they're into more casual stuff. I've heard so many men complain about this, both portuguese and foreign men. It just comes across as entitlement. Women don't owe you anything - and certainly not their bodies.

This episode was the best episode ever Marina 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼 Leo is amazing at explaining things and reasoning them. I really enjoyed it. I think that you should definitely invite him again to talk further about the Portuguese culture and differences between people & the accent differences in Lisbon and Porto 😊🇵🇹♥️

Well done Portuguese women for not being easy

You can't blame Portuguese woman for testing a man's interest and intentions. This is a sign of strength. They know both their worth and what they want. They are ideal mates and partners dedicated to their partners and families. It's refreshing to see women who stand up for themselves unabashedly.

I am Portuguese. I have 2 sisters, a dozen nieces, and several girl cousins. Big family. Portuguese women don't play hard to get and don't need men to put on a show. They are simply more selective in general. They want to at least get to know the name of the guy they spread their legs to. They don't like lazy lovers, and are usually not into wham, bam, thank you mam. They value men who know how to make a little bit of effort. It's about quality not quantity. It's not about just sex, it's about having self worth and gageing if a guy is decent enough. Listen, I am Portuguese, but I have lived in Sweden and now I live in the USA. I had 2 swedish boyfriends and also dated Finns, Danes, and Americans. I am no prude. But I asked some of them get an STD test before we got intimate and they agreed. I don't know where they have been, and I am not about to compromise my health with a total stranger. I was with a Swede for several years and I married an American. You have to be selective and do your thing, what's right and best for you. My American husband was glad that I wasn't easy. He was pretty used to easy women and I was different. So it can work. Not everyone is the same. Countries where it's common to be promiscuous have higher rates of unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Also, people are not happier and have better relationships just because they are shagging more strangers. It's very simple: do you. Whatever works for you, and you will meet like-minded people who are going to value the same, and if not, no problem. Next. Relationships in Portugal are not more complicated. Portuguese women are friendly and fun, but maybe just not in a hurry to get laid with everyone. They also prefer Portuguese men rather than foreign men, for a variety of reasons, ask them, but foreign men are not out of the question. It depends on what you are looking for.

The average man worldwide is having a hard time finding love and are more open to potentially finding love elsewhere even if it in a different country

Generalization is useful, but has always a lot of problems in this kind of things. "It depends" is very true, even in a small country. Different places, different mentalities, even in a small country like Portugal. To me, the "difficulty" of portuguese women should be the default and not the "fast food" mentality in many countries, such as the US, where everything has to be quick and not durable. The ones who really complaint, are the "players" who want "easy girls" who they can convince to like them with less effort.

Sunshine makes you friendly.

I appreciate Leo's intelligence. Mans is smart and looks at all the angles.

I listen to Leo’s podcasts in portuguese to learn the language, but it was also interesting listen to him without any language purposes ❤

i can't imagine that Leo has ever had a difficult time with womem 😅

Wait....thats very good!!❤

Madrid is 5 times more than Lisbon and people are still open. It has nothing to do with the size of the city but with the culture of the city.

I can see how people can confuse politeness with being formal/informal. Usually the countries that are formal that tend to use it as a synonim... but for me real politeness serves only to make people feel confortable in a place or situation. With formality we give people space by distancing ourselves from them and respecting hierarchic rules. And informality, on the other hand, is when we take a more friendly aproach by being closer and making an instant connection. I guess on the matter of formality it depends on what people preffer on that moment in time and space. Because as for being rude, in my conception, is more about your attitude. One can be rude by being overly formal and at the same time rispid and showing disdain or by being overly informal taking some liberty disrespectfully.

I wasn't even subscribed but the algorithms figured I needed to hear this chat 😅 Only 2k Subscribers.... whatever happened to the original channel? 🧐 Insightful chat though 👍

They start att 33:23 the dating scene

women who respect themselves live like this. there is nothing wrong with that, it is a good thing. not that speeding through the bases is bad or shameful but if you want more than a hook up and dont want to hook up on the way to getting that, men shouldn't complain about that beacuse in the end these are the girls they marry

It seems his perspective was less on why dating is hard, and more on why casual sex is harder depending on the background of the woman. If I’m honest I left this feeling, I’d better stay away from Portuguese guys, if I want something real.

As a Brit who used yo holiday in Cornwall every year, i can relate to slending all day in the cold atlantic sea as a kid, and not reacting 😅

I think Leo has too much of a Lisboner perspective. Of course fado doesn't really represent Portuguese culture, only Lisbon and Coimbra have proper fado houses. There are many similar styles to fado worlwide, be it blues in the US or sevdah in Bosnia, and local musical elements play higher importance in many Portuguese cities when compared to fado. Fado only got its nationwide appraisal with Amália, this being some 60 years ago! No lifelong or centenary thing. However, I do like fado as I have a fado loving grandmother which passed that love on to me. By the way, Portuguese do tend to be more reserved than Spanish but there are some Portuguese, especially from Porto and neighbouring cities, that can be quite loud. Just enter Bolhão Market to see that...