Is this your real personality? 5 Childhood Trauma Personalities

Chapters: 0:00 Intro 4:50 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) 7:48 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma 8:47 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How They Struggle in Intimacy 9:28 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - Isn't This Just Who I Am? 10:06 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How to Become More Real 11:33 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) 14:36 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma 16:33 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How They Struggle in Intimacy 17:23 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - Isn't This Just Who I Am? 18:24 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How to Become More Real 20:24 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) 22:52 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma 24:05 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy 25:25 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am? 27:00 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How to Become More Real 27:33 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) 30:05 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma 31:26 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy 32:46 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am? 33:21 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How to Become More Real 34:37 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) 38:14 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma 39:27 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy 40:34 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am? 41:26 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How to Become More Real 42:53 Final Thoughts 45:34 Connect With Me 46:49 Outro

My mum always said, as a criticism, “you were always so happy as a child, I don’t know what happened to you”. You mum, you happened. You sucked the life outta me and at 54, I’m still trying to figure out what I’m really like!!

I often wonder what I would have been like without my childhood trauma.

A counselor told me I was hostile and it pissed me off. 😂

"Being the focus is usually interpreted as being in trouble, or being shameful." Thank you for explaining why attention feels unsafe.

1. Wow that sounds like me 2. Wow that sounds like me 3. Wow that sounds like me 4. Wow that sounds like me 5. Wow that sounds like me A big shout out to all those wonderful adults who influenced and impacted my childhood.

I'm a Ghost. It's really lonely. People have said about me, "She's hard to know." I'm most comfortable in isolation.

I'm a doer with ADHD. Which means I'm always distracting myself and trying to solve problems, but I'm not accomplishing shit.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

This reminds me how shocked I am (when I think about it) that there are many people…literally just walking around, having lives…who weren’t raised in abuse. It’s unfathomable.

"Try not to shame yourself for anything that kept you safe" THANK YOU, PAT. Your work is a god-sent! Edit: wow, 1.3K likes. Thank you guys. I'm happy to know that this resonated with so many of us. Much love to you all.

“The desire to be real” hit on another level

As a parent, I worry a lot about what traumas my children may develop though my parenting. I came out of a dramatic childhood. I know my parents were not great parents, narcissistic and disinterested. Yet I know that it was because of their own childhood trauma. So, I’ve come to realize we do the best with what we have. I am working on parenting better, and though I believe I am, I know that my kids will still have their own traumas. Especially when your kids personalities are so different, trying to parent each of them according to their emotional needs can look different. Not too mention when you’re still working through your own triggers.

Paid for counseling for years and basically all it was was “How does that make you feel?” About a month in and already have so much more value out of the work. Thank you!

Unfortunately, in a narcissistic family, they they start chipping away at the authentic child the moment the child begins to exhibit any signs of independence or thinking for themselves.

I've always felt like a weirdo. As a child as a teenager as a young adult and now at 65 I still feel like that and don't understand why I'm even taking up space on this earth. The only thing that has kept me here, (alive), is the dogs I've had over the years. I could never abandon them and leave them with an uncertain future. I don't matter, they do. Its all so messed up. I've been in therapy in my 30's and 40's but I didn't realize then that it was things from my childhood. I've just realized it 10 years ago when my younger sister bought things to my attention that I either buried or forgot. Praying for us seemingly normal people who just feel less than. 🙏

While I was watching this video I recognised every member of my family in these trauma responses and immediately started doing a list of things I could do to help them. I couldn't diagnose myself at first, but when I re-watched the video and saw the to-do list in front of me I literally slapped my forehead. It all makes sense now, I'm a doer

Wow! I'm 65 and have had years of therapy and no one ever explained who I am as perfectly as you just did! I'm sobbing. I am DEFINITELY #3! My mother was 16 when she gave me life! That in itself should explain why but she was VERY immature and at 83 , still is BTW. She had no idea what to do with a baby so I became a doll she could dress up or thrown in the crib to cry if she tired of that. I was pawned off to grandparents and aunts because she couldn't "deal". Each stage of life was no better. We grew up together . We have both healed our relationship but unfortunately the damage was done. I have had two failed marriages and for the last 12 years I have refused to date or meet anyone because I feel I'm too broken. The tears are making this difficult to type. Whomever reads this, thank you for listening. Love to you all! ❤

You did catch me with “they tend to think about what their feelings are instead of inherently knowing them”

Being a ghost fucking sucks. I'm ok being alone but everyone around me is so outspoken it makes me feel like a weirdo for not being like them. I want to be "normal" like everyone but its exhausting to force yourself to socialize and still be told you're too quiet/boring djrhjsna i hate it