Is this your real personality? 5 Childhood Trauma Personalities

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
4:50 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!)
7:48 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
8:47 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
9:28 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
10:06 Personality #1 - The Doer (Gotta Do Something!) - How to Become More Real
11:33 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!)
14:36 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
16:33 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
17:23 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
18:24 Personality #2 - The Hostile (Hey, Listen to Me!) - How to Become More Real
20:24 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?)
22:52 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
24:05 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
25:25 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
27:00 Personality #3 - The Darkness (What Do I Do?! or What’s the Point?) - How to Become More Real
27:33 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?)
30:05 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
31:26 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
32:46 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
33:21 Personality #4 - The Ghost (How Do I Get Out of Here?) - How to Become More Real
34:37 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?)
38:14 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How It's Formed in Childhood Trauma
39:27 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How They Struggle in Intimacy
40:34 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - Isn't This Just Who I Am?
41:26 Personality #5 - The Are We Good? (We’re Ok Right?) - How to Become More Real
42:53 Final Thoughts
45:34 Connect With Me
46:49 Outro

My mum always said, as a criticism, “you were always so happy as a child, I don’t know what happened to you”. You mum, you happened. You sucked the life outta me and at 54, I’m still trying to figure out what I’m really like!!

I often wonder what I would have been like without my childhood trauma.

I'm a doer with ADHD. Which means I'm always distracting myself and trying to solve problems, but I'm not accomplishing shit.

Being a ghost fucking sucks. I'm ok being alone but everyone around me is so outspoken it makes me feel like a weirdo for not being like them. I want to be "normal" like everyone but its exhausting to force yourself to socialize and still be told you're too quiet/boring djrhjsna i hate it

1. Wow that sounds like me
2. Wow that sounds like me
3. Wow that sounds like me
4. Wow that sounds like me
5. Wow that sounds like me

A big shout out to all those wonderful adults who influenced and impacted my childhood.

A counselor told me I was hostile and it pissed me off. 😂

"l will give you something to cry about ".was huge in my home

My mom always said "you were such a good baby and child. I could sit u in the corner by yourself and you just stayed there taking care of yourself".

I'm a Ghost. It's really lonely. People have said about me, "She's hard to know." I'm most comfortable in isolation.

This reminds me how shocked I am (when I think about it) that there are many people…literally just walking around, having lives…who weren’t raised in abuse. It’s unfathomable.

I always mourn the person I would’ve become if I didn’t suffer as a kid 😢

It’s disgusting how perfectly you described me with the “Are we Good?” personality. I was literally raised to be a people pleaser.

"Being the focus is usually interpreted as being in trouble, or being shameful." Thank you for explaining why attention feels unsafe.

Unfortunately, in a narcissistic family, they they start chipping away at the authentic child the moment the child begins to exhibit any signs of independence or thinking for themselves.

I feel better when i read the comments and am reminded I'm not alone in this.

When I moved out into my first flat with other people I was shocked that being screamed at isn't normal at all. It's crazy how you can get used to all kinds of abuse and then not even realize it is.

Paid for counseling for years and basically all it was was “How does that make you feel?” About a month in and already have so much more value out of the work. Thank you!

"Try not to shame yourself for anything that kept you safe" THANK YOU, PAT. Your work is a god-sent!

Edit: wow, 1.3K likes. Thank you guys. I'm happy to know that this resonated with so many of us. Much love to you all.

In kindergarten I suffered from multisism which didn't bother anyone because a child who doesn't speak is easy. I did very well at school but was so extremely shy that I cried at the slightest criticism. I always felt like an alien and when I was asked about it I had the feeling of being exposed and just cried. From the 6th grade onwards I could no longer study. I didn't feel like doing anything more because I didn't know what it was for. With the best will in the world, I couldn't see a future. my parents were alcoholics. My father is a cheater and my mother is a complete schizophrenic. sometimes nice and then screaming again. My oldest brother was completely disturbed and constantly attacked other children and constantly threatened me with murder. Now I'm 35, I have a child and I try to do everything as well as possible. I had to cry with joy when I heard that she is loud and wild when playing with other children because that means, thank God, she is not like me. I don't work and I'm still struggling to find meaning. Therapy always made things worse, from wrong diagnoses without knowing me to wrong medication. Thank you for letting me get this off my chest.